My name is Xiaohong, and I have only been married for a year, and I have suffered all the difficulties and grievances of my in-laws.
My husband Xiao Ming came to my door to propose. We were high school classmates and had always had a good relationship. My family is average, Xiao Ming's family is much richer, and I married him purely out of love. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law showed a vicious face, and made it difficult for me to bully and bully.
Let me tell you, my son was lucky enough to find you!You have to be grateful all the time!"That's what my mother-in-law said when she first met me.
I could only endure it in silence and did not return the favor. Because I know that talking back will make it harder for Xiao Ming to be a person.
After I got married, I have been working outside the home, the conditions are not good, and the salary is very low. Xiao Ming works as a white-collar worker in his fucking company, and his situation is much better. I didn't complain about anything, I just thought I had to earn money to support myself.
It didn't take long for my mother-in-law to start targeting me, demanding that we newlyweds have to buy a house. I also have to buy it in the high-end community she designated.
If you don't buy a house, do you still want to live with me?I don't welcome a useless daughter-in-law here!"Mother-in-law has a strong attitude that you must listen to me, or you will get out.
I timidly said, "The house is too expensive, we just can't afford that much down payment." ”
What can't you afford to pay?I can contribute 1.6 million, you can figure out how to make up the down payment and loan yourself. I'll just make the down payment and you'll pay the rest!My mother-in-law rightly replied to me.
I could only lower my head and dare not say anything more. Xiao Ming responded dryly on the side, and did not dare to disobey his mother.
On this day, Xiao Ming said to me with a bitter face: "My mother insists that we buy a house in her rich community, but the house price is too expensive, and we can't afford it." ”
I was also very helpless, but I didn't want to embarrass Xiao Ming, so I could only comfort him: "Let's just listen to your mother, she made a down payment, and we will find a way to make up enough money for the rest." ”
I'm actually very uncertain. My family has a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan, and I have so much down payment. What's more, we are young people who have just started working, and we are still paying off our previous student loans, and we have no money at all.
But for the sake of Xiao Ming and this family, I can only swallow my anger and try my best to please my mother-in-law.
I went to my best friend Xiaofang to vent my bitterness: "My mother-in-law is so hateful that she insists that we buy the house she specified." But we can't afford that much down payment!”
Xiaofang persuaded me: "You don't care about her, working and making money by yourself is the right way." If she wants to buy a house, you can move out and rent a house, and save the money for a down payment and buy it slowly. ”
I thought about it, but I still didn't accept Xiaofang's suggestion. I said, "Forget it, I have to please my mother-in-law." Otherwise, Xiao Ming works under her, and life will be very uncomfortable. ”
Xiaofang shook her head helplessly: "Then you have to raise objections, it's difficult for a strong person like my mother-in-law." ”
I had red eyes and said aggrievedly, "How dare I, an outsider, disobey my mother-in-law's wishes?"I could only endure silently and try to scrape together the down payment. I also understand that Xiao Ming is not on my side this time, after all, he is the son of his mother-in-law, and I can't embarrass him. ”
Xiao Ming begged his mother-in-law bitterly: "Mom, don't be embarrassed by Xiaohong, okay?"We really can't afford such an expensive house. ”
Instead of giving in, the mother-in-law was angry: "I have promised my friends that you must buy this house!"Otherwise, how else would I look up and see people?”
I saw that Xiao Ming couldn't persuade his mother-in-law, so he could only nod with red eyes: "Mother-in-law, I will definitely do what you say and buy this house." Don't be mad at me. ”
The mother-in-law was barely satisfied. Xiao Ming and I looked at each other, both distressed about what to do. Seeing that my mother-in-law ignored our embarrassment, Xiao Ming and I were very distressed. 1.2 million house, we have made up so much down payment!
I said to Xiao Ming with red eyes, "Your mother is so unreasonable!."We have just entered the society, and our salaries add up to a few thousand yuan, how can we make such a down payment?”
Xiao Ming was also very helpless: "I know, my mother has such a temper, and we don't have a problem with her." If I didn't buy this house, I wouldn't be able to be a person in the company. ”
Hearing Xiao Ming say this, although I felt uncomfortable, I couldn't bear to embarrass him. So I whispered, "Okay, then let's get enough down payment to buy this house, and don't be embarrassed by your mother in the company." ”
Xiao Ming held my hand and looked at me gratefully: "Wife, I'm sorry, I couldn't protect you this time." I'll definitely make it up to you later. ”
I wiped my tears and pulled myself together: "It's okay, I don't blame you." Let's save some and make enough for the down payment. Didn't your mother say 1.6 million?We'll just figure out how to get the rest. ”
So, we began to cut back on expenses like crazy, eating low-end fast food every day, and living the most humble days. I worked late every day, and I didn't even take care of eating at all. Xiao Ming also began to go out to work part-time. The two of us were frugal, and finally barely scraped together a down payment of 1.6 million yuan in addition to my mother-in-law after half a year.
However, there are still more than one million mortgage loans that have not been secured. After discussing with Xiao Ming, I decided to ask my parents for help.
I said to my parents with red eyes: "Mom and Dad, I'm really sorry, my daughter-in-law is useless, and I have to drag you down." If you can, please help us make the rest of the down payment. I promise I'll pay it off in ten years. ”
In the end, with the help of my parents and the sale of their home house, we were able to scrape together the rest of the down payment. Xiao Ming and I had a conversation in front of my mother-in-law, and then applied for a 20-year mortgage loan from the bank.
In this way, we bought the 1.2 million house in the high-end community designated by my mother-in-law. I looked at the bare house and silently shed tears in my heart. Not long after we came out of society, we were saddled with a huge mortgage, how do we live!
The mother-in-law was very proud, showing off to relatives and friends how good the house her son had bought. She didn't take my feelings and Xiao Ming to heart at all, just when we should obey her unconditionally.
The days after marriage are getting harder and harder. The two of us basically used our monthly salaries to pay the mortgage, and the rest of the money was only enough for food and clothing. Eat the cheapest food every day and live a small life.
I vented to Xiao Ming: "Look at our days, thinking about saving money to pay off the mortgage every day!."Your mom forced us to Liangshan!”
Xiao Ming was also helpless: "I know my mother is wrong, I will slowly find a way to get out of her control." If you are patient, the future will be fine. ”
I nodded with red eyes, but I was very uncertain. We were already burdened with a heavy mortgage, and it seemed like life would never be good.
Two years later, it was suddenly revealed that there was a quality problem in our community. This originally high-end community suddenly became a second-class real estate, and the housing price was straight up**. The house we bought is now worth half the price.
Xiao Ming and I have been paying off the mortgage for 2 years and paying twice the value of the house, but most of the loan is still owed. We're going to be hollowed out by this house!
I cried bitterly with Xiao Ming: "We are really unlucky, your mother let us buy this house, and now we have lost all our money!."”
Xiao Ming also regretted it: "It's all my fault, I shouldn't listen to my mother." We have to find a way to get rid of this house!”
In the face of housing prices** and huge mortgages, Xiao Ming and I are in a desperate situation.
I said to Xiao Ming sadly: "If it weren't for *** we bought this house, we wouldn't have been burdened with a huge mortgage, and now we are living in ** prison!."”
Xiao Ming also blamed himself: "It's really short-sighted, I shouldn't have listened to my mother's words to buy this house, causing your life to be so difficult." ”
I saw that Xiao Ming was also very anxious, so I didn't say anything to complain. In any case, we have to think of a way to get rid of the shackles of this house.
After some discussion, we decided to rent out the house first. Rent can be used to pay off the mortgage and can also reduce our financial pressure.
Luckily, we found a tenant very quickly. The tenant gave us 8,000 yuan per month in rent, which was a lifesaver for us.
I said to Xiao Ming with relief: "With this 8,000 yuan rent, we can pay the mortgage a little less." ”
Xiao Ming nodded, and said, "I will go out again to find a part-time job and strive to pay more mortgages every month." ”
I looked at Xiao Ming's haggard face and felt very distressed. Actually, I was also looking for a part-time job to earn money, but I didn't tell Xiao Ming because I didn't want him to worry.
The two of them are busy running around every day for a mortgage, and they feel that the future is bleak. Occasionally, I would complain to Xiao Ming: "If you hadn't listened to your mother, we wouldn't have been so difficult!."”
Xiao Ming felt very guilty, and could only repeatedly promise me that after these few difficult years, life would definitely improve.
And so we had two years of hard work. During this period, Xiao Ming's mother also came to our house several times. She saw that we were living in poverty, and the house was rented out, so she was very unimpressed.
Once, she said in disgust: "What do you rent out a house to live in?If I hadn't reminded you, you wouldn't have been able to afford it. ”
I held back my tears and didn't choke, but my heart was extremely sad. It's disgusting that you caused us to take on a huge mortgage, and now you're still here to demonstrate!
I finally survived to the 5th year, and I thought that my life would improve, but at this time, Xiao Ming's company suddenly laid off employees, and Xiao Ming also became one of the people who were laid off!
It hit us too hard. Xiao Ming is unemployed at home, and my income is meager, where can I pay the mortgage!
I looked at the bill, I couldn't hold back the sadness in my heart, and said to Xiao Ming: "You said that our lives are really bitter, your mother won't let us buy a house, and we won't be so difficult now!."”
Xiao Ming was also apologetic: "I'm really sorry, it's all my fault." I'll look for a job again, and you keep going!”
I wiped away my tears and comforted Xiao Ming: "It's okay, we can definitely get through it." Don't blame yourself too much. ”
We had to sell our valuable belongings in order to get a mortgage. Life is becoming more and more difficult, and sometimes I can't afford to eat a hot meal, so I have to buy some bread to satisfy my stomach.
It's hard to bear. We went to Xiao Ming's mother and asked her to help pay off the loan.
Who knew that she not only didn't help, but also sneered: "Why don't you think about the consequences when you buy a house?".Now let's suffer!”
As soon as I heard this, Xiao Ming and I both had red eyes. We suffered this sin, all because of her!
Later, there was really no way, Xiao Ming could only go to *** to borrow loan sharks. Now we have an extralegal debt, and life is even more difficult.
After two years, with the help of our parents, we finally paid off all our debts. But what happened in the past few years made me have an unrelieved resentment towards Xiao Ming.
I said coldly to Xiao Ming: "You only have your mother in your eyes, and you never take my feelings into account." It hit me so hard that I was afraid I wouldn't be able to continue the marriage. ”
Xiao Ming knelt down in pain and begged me: "It's all my fault, give me a chance to start over!."”
I shook my head with red eyes, and then decisively left this former home.