After the birth of my baby, I had the happiest and most exhausting moment of my life.
My mother-in-law came from my hometown to help me with my confinement, and I was very grateful. Originally, we had a good relationship, and my mother-in-law treated me like her own daughter. I thought that having my mother-in-law by my side would make my confinement period much easier.
But I never imagined that my mother-in-law would be a completely different person after she came.
Xiaoyu, look at you, you are tired like this when you just gave birth to a baby, why is your face so bad?As soon as my mother-in-law came, she began to say to me, "Look at your dark circles and dead eyes, you have no energy." What about Land Rover?Why not there?Tell him to spend more time with you at night!”
I smiled wryly and said, "Mom, Land Rover is really busy at work, and he tries to make time for me." I also have to learn to be independent and not always rely on others. Don't worry about it. ”
What's so independent, you've just given birth to a child like this, let Land Rover take care of you more. This little man is really not interesting, let the mother stay up by herself all day long!"The mother-in-law complained about Land Rover a series of complaints.
I couldn't cry or laugh, my mother-in-law just came here and was so serious, I could only play a round: "Mom, it's normal for Land Rover to be busy with work, I can understand it." Don't talk about him. ”
But my mother-in-law didn't listen to me at all, and kept muttering to herself. I just wanted to change the subject quickly, so I said, "Mom, are you hungry?"I'll cook you some porridge. ”
I don't eat it!You've just given birth to a baby, so you're doing this and that, be careful of hurting yourself!The mother-in-law was even more unhappy when she heard this, "You just lie down and don't move around." I'll cook. ”
I didn't know how to respond to my mother-in-law for a while. She was so serious when she first came, as if I was doing something wrong, which made me very embarrassed and embarrassed.
After dinner, the mother-in-law began to complain about the furnishings in the house: "Xiaoyu, why is the floor of your house so dirty, there is dust everywhere, and there are baby bottles and clothes on the table, so it will be infected!."”
I explained, "Mom, I don't have time to clean up these two days, don't mind." ”
How can you not mind!The mother-in-law immediately said, "Hygiene is the most important thing to give birth, such a dirty environment will harm the baby!."Pack up for me!”
I took a deep breath, endured my mother-in-law's bad attitude, and began to clean up the house. My mother-in-law was pointing fingers, and I was about to collapse. Things are getting stranger and stranger, my mother-in-law has obviously changed as a person, and I feel very confused and at a loss.
I hurriedly explained: "Mom, you think too much, I slept well last night, but I'm still conditioning my body, don't worry about it." ”
I'm still worrying!The mother-in-law didn't give up, "Obviously you made yourself like this!."I don't know how to cherish the blessings, someone comes to take care of you and you don't know how to be grateful, hide in your room all day long, chat with people more, and be in a good mood!”
Okay, okay, don't make excuses!My mother-in-law couldn't listen to me at all, "Hurry up and call the Land Rover over and let him accompany you well!."”
What a class!My mother-in-law interrupted me irritably, "The most important thing is to have a baby!"He's not at home all day, so let you stay up by yourself, what a heart!”
I was really speechless, my mother-in-law was just messing around, and she didn't listen to me at all.
At noon that day, I wanted to cook some of her favorite dishes for my mother-in-law, but my mother-in-law looked dissatisfied: "You just gave birth to a child, you can't make such a greasy thing!."I'm going to buy some light dishes, you have a good rest!Then she went out to buy groceries and cook on her own.
I lay depressed in bed, thinking that I would have to talk to him when Land Rover came back.
When the Land Rover came back in the evening, he was caught by his mother-in-law as soon as he opened the door.
Land Rover, you are really, you haven't been home for two months and you made Xiaoyu look like this!You're too irresponsible as a husband!The mother-in-law complained dissatisfied.
What is there that the body does not recover!The mother-in-law said impatiently, "Your husband is good, and he is not at home with you every day!."”
Mother-in-law, I am really busy at work, so I try to find time to come back to accompany Yufang. Land Rover explained.
I know how to do Tai Chi!The mother-in-law did not give up, "Yufang gave birth to a child and needs to be taken care of, how hard it is for you to be alone without her!."”
Okay, okay, you two join forces to choke me!The mother-in-law was upset, "I'm nosy, isn't it!."”
With that, she slammed the door and entered the room.
Land Rover and I looked at each other, both baffled by my mother-in-law's abnormal temper.
What the hell is going on, your mother has completely changed in the past two days. I said to Land Rover wearily.
Maybe it's because of my age. Land Rover said with a sigh.
I nodded and decided to observe for a few more days, maybe my mother-in-law was in a bad mood and would be back to normal in a few days.
However, in the following days, the mother-in-law's temper did not improve, but got worse and worse.
One night, my mother-in-law saw that my hair was still wet after taking a bath, so she began to preach: "Xiaoyu, why do you go to bed without drying your hair after washing it, it's easy to catch a cold!."”
I explained, "Mom, my hair is too long to blow on, and the noise of the hair dryer wakes the baby, so I will air dry it naturally." ”
What's inconvenient about this, hurry up and blow dry!My mother-in-law didn't listen to the explanation and forcibly took out a hair dryer to blow my hair.
As a result, the baby was woken up and cried with a whoa. I was busy hugging the baby, but my mother-in-law didn't help, standing aside and watching, her face was very ugly.
After a while, the baby fell asleep, and I complained, "Mom, I told you that the hair dryer would wake up the baby, but you didn't listen." ”
I care about you catching a cold, and you still blame me!The mother-in-law was immediately upset, "Love blows or not!."If I had known, I wouldn't have helped you!”
I saw that my mother-in-law was unreasonable again, so I didn't bother to pay attention to it, and went straight to sleep.
I felt very good and defended: "Mom, I just gave birth and don't have the energy to cook complicated dishes, so don't be picky about a simple lunch." ”
What do you call me picky!The mother-in-law immediately became angry, "I am concerned about your husband's diet and daily life!."You don't want people to say that your cooking skills are so bad?”
I'm poor at cookingI couldn't help but raise my voice, "You've only been here for a few days and you've been picking fault with me every day, I can't accept it!."”
You yelled at me?The mother-in-law's eyes widened, "It's not big or small, is it!."You dare to yell at me for anything!”
I didn't yell at you!I felt very uncomfortable, but I still explained in a soft tone, "You calm down first, and we'll talk about it." ”
Guan Zao said!What a fuss, no mother-in-law!My mother-in-law gave me a hard look and turned to go back to her room.
My mother-in-law's abnormal behavior these days has made me almost collapse. I couldn't understand how she had suddenly become so mean and difficult that I couldn't even recognize her.
I was exhausted and said to Land Rover: "Husband, I really can't stand it, your mother has been too much these days, I want her to go back to her hometown." ”
Land Rover sighed: "I also think Mom has been very abnormal lately. However, it's not a good idea to let the elderly travel long distances. ”
I said firmly, "No!."I have to let my mother-in-law go back!I'll tell her that she has to move out!”
I suddenly made up my mind to let my mother-in-law go no matter what, and I really couldn't bear it anymore.
So that night, I plucked up the courage to say to my mother-in-law, "Mom, go back to your hometown, Land Rover and I can take care of everything ourselves." ”
The mother-in-law was surprised and said, "Why do you let me go back at this time?"The child is only so young, you two are inexperienced, I don't worry!”
We can do it ourselves. I said firmly, "And we can't always bother you to take care of our family of three at your age." Go back and get some rest. ”
I'm not tired!You hate me, don't you!The mother-in-law immediately said proudly.
It's not that you are disgusted. I tried to be patient, "I just think that you can go back to your life more regularly, and we can take care of the children on our own during the two-month period, so we don't need to bother you." ”
Who is tired!The mother-in-law was upset, "I just have time to help you take care of your grandson, why are you tired!."I'm just nosy, haven't I!”
Hmph, I don't understand!The mother-in-law said angrily, "I knew that you two wanted to drive me away, and you said that I was not the one who said it was all the time, and it looked like I wanted me to get out of here!."”
Okay, don't coax me!My mother-in-law interrupted me, "If you want to drive me away, just say it, leave me to do something!."”
With that, she slammed the door into the room and slammed it hard, startling both me and the Land Rover.
Land Rover and I looked at each other and felt that things were tricky. My mother-in-law didn't listen to persuasion at all, and we couldn't tolerate her vexatious behavior.
It seems that I can only forcibly let my mother-in-law move out. I said helplessly to Land Rover.
Land Rover nodded to understand my difficulties. "Then I'll take her back to my hometown tomorrow. ”
Before leaving, my mother-in-law looked ugly, and got into the Land Rover car without saying a word to me.
After my mother-in-law left, I was relieved that I could finally recuperate quietly and concentrate on taking care of the baby without being disturbed.
Within a few days, however, I discovered the difficulties of taking care of a newborn on my own.
At night, the baby cried non-stop, and I got up alone to feed and change diapers, exhausted. I also don't have time to rest properly during the day, and I have to deal with all kinds of household chores and baby-taking chores.
Once the baby had diarrhea, I anxiously called ** to my mother-in-law for help, and she said a few words in a cold tone and hung up**. I had to flip through parenting books on my own, trying and taking care of the baby by trial and error.
After a month, my dark circles became heavier, my face was haggard, and I lost a lot of weight. Land Rover was busy with work and was supporting me, but I couldn't bear it, and I began to regret why I had to get rid of my mother-in-law at that time.
I shouldn't have been so excited to drive my mother-in-law away, I really need someone to help take care of the baby now. I said to Land Rover depressedly.
Don't regret it, it was really overdone at the time. Land Rover reassured me, "Now I have to get through this stage on my own." ”
I knew I was wrong, so I decided to wait for the baby to go to my mother-in-law's house on the day of 100 days to sincerely apologize and try to repair the relationship.
On the day of the baby's 100th day, our family of three came to my mother-in-law's house. As soon as I saw my mother-in-law, I hurriedly explained: "Mom, the child is 100 days old, and we came to see you, and I was embarrassed about you before." ”
The mother-in-law said expressionlessly, "Come on, come on, you guys are busy with your business." ”
After we entered the house, my mother-in-law did not give us a warm welcome, but just kept silent with a cold face. I offered to help her clean up the house, and she ignored it.
Land Rover took the prepared gift from the car and handed it to her mother-in-law, who only hurriedly thanked her and put it aside.
My mother-in-law's indifferent reaction made me sad, and I knew I had offended her this time. After lunch, I finally couldn't help but say to my mother-in-law with red eyes: "Mom, I'm sorry, I didn't do it first, I shouldn't let you go home suddenly, I really know it's wrong, you forgive me." ”
The mother-in-law's face was a little pale, but her tone was still cold: "I knew you would regret it, you had to drive me away at the time, and now you know how good I am, right?"”
I nodded, apologized repeatedly, and asked my mother-in-law for forgiveness. Only then did the mother-in-law say, "Forget it, I won't worry about your mother for a month." As long as you treat me well later. ”
I excitedly promised that I would be more filial and respectful to my mother-in-law in the future. We chatted a little more, and my mother-in-law's face finally softened.
I breathed a sigh of relief and hoped that I could be more cautious in the future to avoid hurting my mother-in-law and family. This incident made me realize that I still need to improve my emotional intelligence and learn to communicate well from the perspective of others.