Chen Jie: What are the self-righteous thoughts of parents?（2023-12-18）
In reality, there are many parents who always educate their children simply and rudely with self-righteous views, and the following points are especially worthy of vigilance.
Advocating hardship: Thinking that by creating pain, you can cultivate self-motivation
A few days ago, a ** explosion on the short**platform, the content is that parents take their children to travel by high-speed rail, the husband and wife booked a ticket for themselves, but they booked a non-seat ticket for their children, and the child could not only squat next to the seats of other passengers alone, the response to the parents was: "Exercise her, let her feel the suffering we suffered before." "Many Chinese parents see that their children are in a state of suffering and feel that their children are growing, they do not allow their children to be happy, children must be anxious and show upward and progressive at the same time, and children feel that the child is decadent as soon as they play, how can there be no psychological problems under such education?
Rejection of equality: self-esteem, inferiority, orderliness, arbitrariness or flattery
In fact, many children are addicted to video games because their parents do not set boundaries, do not design rules for their children, and do not set up reciprocal cooperation with their children. There must be energy between parents and children and then love, love can become nutrition, but many times parents have no energy, every day they are afraid to communicate with their children, afraid to communicate with their children, whether it is arbitrary parents or pleasing parents, they have not achieved the value conversion between the equal energy with their children.
Blame-shifting: Blaming others for believing that they are always right
Many parents in China seem to be the saviors of their children, but in fact, there are perpetrators behind the victims, and when the children have problems, they either blame the other parent or other influencers, and always put themselves in the position of the innocent party, but they do not know that they are the culprits who indulge in the amplification of the problem. This indifference of shirking responsibility and inaction is the most terrible ** in family education.
No fear: self-righteousness and no evil results
Some people say that communication is the best way to solve the problem, but these parents do not put their children in a position equal to themselves, and no matter how hard they try, they cannot communicate effectively. In many families, "boundaries", "respect" and "communication" are not even recognized. It is often said on the Internet that the post-00s will be the most qualified parents, because the post-00s have experienced such an education and will not bring the same pain to their next generation;It is often said that the post-00s do not want to be parents and will not have children easily. For the Chinese parents mentioned above, some people finally think that communication is better than staying away, and they will be truly happy when they leave this kind of mental internal friction.