When the civilization of a society develops to a higher level, the chain of social contempt and hierarchical concepts will gradually shrink, although the truth of the world will not change, and the law of ruling and being ruled will remain unchanged, but for the people, this gap will become smaller and smaller, because the improvement of the overall quality will bring about the improvement of the ideological realm, which has the meaning of "equality of all beings".
The reason for saying the above paragraph is because I saw a "funny and unreasonable" scene.
At Starbucks in Chengdu, a delivery man sat in the store, not knowing whether to rest or wait to take orders, in short, his presence "angered" a woman's "sense of self-esteem".
Cafes, which are about 40 per capita, have become a spiritual "vanity fair" for some people.
The woman insisted on finding the clerk to ask the takeaway staff out, because his presence affected the woman's "elegance".
This elegance comes from **?Where does the confidence of the chain of contempt come from?How did you form a sense of self-esteem?
Behind a social phenomenon and some people's psychology, there are always reasons for its formation, and it is necessary to start from human nature and philosophy in order to analyze its deep-seated background.
Cafe is a foreign product, after the international opening and integration, a lot of new things into people's lives, rare and decorated, will create a psychological "sense of climbing", to put it bluntly, with the rapid development and trendy things become no longer rare, the café is equivalent to the teahouse in the past.
People who are in frequent contact will only feel that it is a Xi of life, and people who are in contact with it occasionally will regard a certain as "elegant", which is very closely related to lifestyle.
For example, foreign countries use coffee as a drink every day, coffee instead of water, coffee is as cheap as drinking a cup of tea in our teahouse before, how did you come to this soil, not only expensive, but also become "noble" in the eyes of some people?In other people's daily lives, that's just a Xi.
Although scarcity is expensive, looking at the present, cafes everywhere and coffee shops that are not so unattainable have become the consumption mode and favorite leisure place of many urban people. This is the same as going to eat KFC and McDonald's was a luxury in the past, but now it is a place where the elderly and children love to stay and eat.
The woman's reason for asking the clerk to let the delivery guy out was:
1. His presence affected her breathing;
2. The clothes he wore made her feel bad in the café;
3. He can't afford to buy tens of thousands of diamond rings in the mall, and he is not at the same level as himself;
These three strange reasons are really funny, the chain of contempt generated by the woman from her appearance and occupation is due to the trade-off between her self-perception and values.
Everything on the surface gives a woman a reason to judge the standard, that is, all her values almost all come from the "wolf skin" that she wears in her eyes. It doesn't matter if it's a sheep or a wolf, as long as it's dressed in a layer of "fake wolf skin".
Because of the appearance of this problem, we can further look at the deep source of this apparent problem from the contact between Liang Sishen, who was born in a powerful family, and Yang Xun, who was born at the bottom, in "Big River".
When Liang Sishen first met Yang Xun, it was introduced by Song Yunhui, and in Song Yunhui's mouth, she had already learned the history of Yang Xun's struggle all the way, and Liang Sishen admired him.
When Liang Sishen first contacted Yang Xun, in their two meetings, Liang Sishen's details were very revealing.
The first time was that Yang Xun rushed to the four-star hotel in Shanghai to see Liang Sishen for the first time, this was the first time Yang Xun had seen the world, he had never set foot in such a high-end hotel, and the decoration had already shocked Yang Xun, and he was dressed very casually.
He saw Liang Sishen coming in from outside the hotel, very fashionable and unsuitable for the national conditions, a black high-necked vest, a pair of white cropped pants, and the "upside-down" color scheme of black and white made Yang Xun feel good-looking and bold, because the general collocation is white on the top and black on the bottom, and the high collar is also a vest.
Liang Sishen saw Yang Xun's very casual dress and arrest behavior, she went back to the room and changed into a friendly pair of jeans and a white T-shirt, in order to get closer to Yang Xun, but Yang Xun went to the store in the hotel to buy a gray suit to wear.
Liang Sishen's idea is actually very attentive. But anyone who has a sense of superiority will not take care of other people's emotions so much.
That is, when they met at the hotel this time, Yang Xun's idea of opening a four-star hotel was finalized, and Liang Sishen gave a very pertinent opinion.
The second time was that Yang Xun drove to Liang Sishen's villa with a gift to meet her and brought a feasibility report.
Liang Sishen put on a coat from the fragrant room in the greenhouse and walked to the door of the community to pick up Yang Xun, if it was Xiao Ran, Li Li or Liang Da, who had the same background as Liang Sishen, she would only wait at home and let them come to the door by themselves, instead of running to the door of the community to greet them.
This paragraph in "Big River" is described like this:
For Yang Xun, a person from a low background, Liang Sishen didn't want to hurt people with a little negligence, and her limited social experience told her that the more low-born people are, the more they care about these small etiquette.Yang Xun really appeared in front of her in a straight suit.
Liang Sishen's idea actually represents a social phenomenon.
Just like this woman at Starbucks, the more she cares about something, the more noble she thinks she is, and the more low-level people tend to be, the more she will have a chain of self-righteous contempt.
Of course, the clerks and managers in the Starbucks store are also quite good, and praise them for their professionalism!They "amicably" invited the woman out of the house, not the delivery man as she thought. This kind of self-righteous superiority was beaten upside down.
Liang Sishen in contact with Xun Jianxiang, Liang Sishen is also friendly and cordial, Xun Jianxiang came to Liang Sishen for help for Yang Xun's matter, but Xun Jianxiang couldn't open his mouth for a long time, Liang Sishen thought he was going to borrow money embarrassed, so he said it for him, and said that he still has some strength in money, although he has difficulties, this kind of free and straightforward, so that Xun Jianxiang is also impressed by this little girl.
The more low-level and uneducated people are, with their only knowledge and limited sense of social experience, let them feel that a little "nobility" must be used to the fullest, and fully experience the ultimate enjoyment brought by the elegance in their hearts, and they feel that there is no room for a little flaw. This is why the woman's eyes will see a delivery person's costume next to her, which seriously affects her experience.
After all, it's not always cost-effective to spend money that they think is expensive, but have a background in the experience that doesn't quite match their current identity.
Later, some whistleblowers pointed out that the woman's retirement salary was more than 2,000, one ordinary civilian, she was married three times, and she was in the process of divorce.
What is the truth, we don't need to dig deeper, and there is no need to go to cyberbullying or human flesh, but we can get a glimpse of a social phenomenon from the surface of this behavior, some of which are worthy of our reflection, and some of which are cultural attributes that are worth recalling and analyzing, which is enough.
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