Autumn and Winter Check-in Challenge
Why is it a problem for women to be strong and men to be weak in married life?Maybe it's because it's been a long timeSocial bias, or maybe it's because of peopleNature
In short, it is often difficult for men to tolerate that they have no status in the family, no voice, and no control.
It's not so much that men can't stand not having a sense of presence at home, but that what men can't stand is actually not in societyPresence
WhileThe home is the smallest unit in societyThis small society is a special existence for men.
Especially in **?Especially no matter how well this man mixes outside, in his heart, he thinks that his wife and children should be worshiped and respected.
Because in the hearts of men, they often think that their wives and children should be guarded by themselves, and they should be the helmsmen and decision-makers of a family.
But,The ideal is very full, but the reality is very skinny。Although many women also want to find a warm harbor and an open-minded embrace to start a family.
However, in the process of life, I slowly discovered the male owner of this familyIt's not as powerful as you think
Men also used to want to protect their wives and children, but they did not earn as much as their wives and were not capable, and they also lacked the ability to communicate and get along with their children.
Slowly, men's opinions are not adopted, men's actions are not recognized, and men's ideas are often disliked.
Due to his lack of ability, this man has hit a wall everywhere in society on the one hand, and on the other hand, he is not recognized when he returns home, and he can't find a sense of existence.
Then such a man will definitely have a lot of changes in his heart, a lot of emotions will be accumulated, and a lot of resentment will be accumulated.
Because of the different brain structures, men and women have a large gender difference, and women often express their dissatisfaction by saying it out when they have emotions.
On the one hand, men do not have good expression skills, and on the other hand, they have a strong manly baggage, and they often cause unhappiness and shame with small things.
So men tend to face problems likeEscape, I don't want to admit the existence of the problem, and I don't want to bear the pain that the problem brings to me.
But repressed emotions do not go away, they only divert, often by exploding in other small things.
Maybe it's the woman who buys a beautiful dress, and the man will sneer at the wife and say that the wife is not in good shape and is wasting money.
Maybe it's because women have good performance and high bonuses and buy gifts for their children, and men will suppress and belittle women and spoil their children.
Maybe it was the child's unintentional words, and the father was furious, beating and scolding the child, saying that the child did not respect the father.
The wife and children live with a volcano and need to face a man who may become angry at any moment.
It's obviously a trivial matter, but every time there are endless quarrels and wars, in fact, women and children only know men'sGrumpy
What I don't know is that in fact, this man vents his inner anguish in this form, he is uncomfortable, and he does not let his wife and children feel good.
They quarrel to influence their wives' emotions and find a sense of presence and control over things that can affect their emotions.
Such a man looks down on himself, so he also feels that his wife and children look down on him.
They will treat their wives and children as imaginary enemies who look down on them outside, and those outside can't afford to provoke them, so they will use their family members to cut them down.
Therefore, when such a family model of strong women and weak men will fall apart depends on how strong the woman is.
It is usually the more capable a woman is, the less she can endure to get along with such a man for a long time.
On the one hand, women earn more and can support themselves and their children without the embarrassment of leaving marriage.
On the other hand, a man who is weak in ability, but who thinks that his wife is his private property and should obey his orders, but how can a strong wife be willing to be suppressed.
Competitiveness is engraved in a man's bones, a gene that is difficult to change, and he wants to win or lose everything.
When they are defeated in front of their wives, they lose their former majesty, so many men either compromise and obey all their lives, and become sullen and indifferent and evasive;Or you will be restless all your life, always want to stir up trouble, and brush up on your sense of existence.