I found out that people who are familiar with each other, don't make deep friends
Under the starry night sky, the hustle and bustle of the streets gradually settles, and on the stage of life, we will meet all kinds of people.
Among them, there is a kind of person who seems to be able to blend in with any environment without saying a word, and they are called "self-cooked".
However, beneath this seemingly approachable exterior, there is often an elusive heart. Self-acquainted people are as impermanent as flowing water, and it is difficult to make deep friends.
Self-cooked people, like summer showers, come vigorously and leave without a trace.
They are always at ease in the crowd and have a good time talking and laughing with new acquaintances, but this interaction often stays on the surface. Because their enthusiasm is like a fire, burning fiercely but not sustainably. When you try to get closer and explore their inner world, you will find that the door of their hearts is always closed. They are sociable, but not sociable.
I remember when I was in college, I met a classmate who was familiar with me. He always draws laughter in class, and he seems to be able to mingle with everyone, whether it's in the cafeteria, library, or dorm hallway. He was always surrounded by a group of people, and there was a lot of laughter. But as time went on, I found that those who seemed close to him always talked about him with an indescribable sense of distance in their eyes. It's as if the friendship between them only stays on the surface of hilariousness, lacking deep emotional exchange.
When I interact with people I know well, I often feel an inexplicable loneliness.
Their words are like colorful bubbles, glittering seductively in the sun, but when you reach for them, you will find that they burst at the touch of a button. Their world always seemed so beautiful and harmonious, as if there was no darkness or trouble. But real life is not so straightforward. Everyone has their own joys, sorrows, joys and sorrows. Pursuing superficial harmony and perfection too much often obscures true emotions and thoughts.
Self-acquaintances often give the illusion that they can do anything.
They always seem to find common ground to talk to anyone, whether it's **, movies, or sports. They are good at observing the subtleties of each other's speech and behavior, interests and hobbies, and adjust their speech and behavior based on this information. As a result, they often make an excellent first impression when interacting with people. However, this style of interaction often lacks depth and sincerity. Like chameleons, they constantly change their identities and roles to cater to others, but rarely show their true colors.
The opposite is those who are introverted and not good at words, but who are sincere. It may take more time and patience to open each other's hearts with them, but once a deep friendship is established, the relationship tends to be stronger and longer-lasting. Because they know how to cherish every emotional exchange, every time spent together. In front of them, you can remove all pretense and defense, and be honest with your inner world.
Of course, this is not to say that self-acquaintances are not available. Everyone has their own unique personality and way of interacting. Self-acquaintances also have their strengths and charms, such as being enthusiastic, cheerful, sociable, etc. But if you want to build a deeper friendship or relationship with them, then it takes more time and patience to understand and accept their inner world. At the same time, it is also important to maintain your independence and individuality and not lose yourself in order to cater to others.
On the road of life, we will meet all kinds of people. Some of them will be our guests, while others will accompany us on one journey after another. No matter what type of friend or partner you are, you need to cherish and pamper you. Because only true understanding and acceptance can allow us to build deep and lasting emotional bonds and go through the ups and downs of life together.
In short, self-acquaintances are like brilliant fireworks blooming dazzling in the night sky, but what can really remain in our hearts is often those plain and sincere emotional exchanges. On the road of pursuing friendship and love, we should pay more attention to inner communication and understanding, rather than just staying on the surface of the bustle and hustle. Only in this way can we find those friends and partners who are truly worthy of deep friendship to spend every wonderful moment of life together.
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