Men have certain criteria for choosing a mate, but most of them have some gaps with reality, or even a large gap, so they can only retreat to the second, not enough, so they can retreat to the second second, in order to meet the needs of reality. If a man marries a woman he doesn't like, is there a problem with the man's mate selection criteria?Of course not, but the choice was made by the situation.
If you look at it from the perspective of biological attributes, most of the criteria for men's mate selection are not high. Just like in primitive societies, men and women mate, just see the opposite sex and get close, there is no love that is now said, there is no love to talk about, some may smell like, or just feel good, and this feeling is a feeling that cannot be said. Even some men's requirements for women are, as long as it is a woman, there are no too high requirements, after all, their own conditions are not very good, and they are already satisfied if they can find a woman as a daughter-in-law, so why do they have to choose the good side, but they always can't reach it?
The choice of a mate by primitive humans is relatively casual, and can only be regarded as an animalistic need, and there is no standard for socialization. With the passage of time, society has been formed, and people have certain aesthetic standards, so they will have certain requirements for their appearance. When a man chooses a woman, he should choose what is good-looking, and he must be recognized as good-looking, not what he thinks is good-looking, but others think it is not good-looking. The magnates had the right to choose women, and even had to keep many concubines. The emperor not only has seventy-two concubines in three palaces and six courts, but also has to draft girls among the people, and some have to prostitute themselves. They have supreme power to choose the best-looking woman in the whole world as a wife. The upward and downward effects, other magnates will do this, but it is just because of the situation, it is inconvenient to make it public.
Until now, the same is true, the powerful can support the second wife and the third child, but they will not be honest. The premise of the package is to be beautiful and have a good figure, not only to learn but look like a mess. Even ordinary men, who have no money and no power, like good-looking women. As a result, good-looking women have become a resource that men compete for, and even become a resource that is openly sold. A beautiful woman in her twenties will become the best mate for men, whether it is a good-looking man or a bad-looking man, they all like beautiful women in their twenties, and if they can't ask for it, they will retreat to the second. Consider a beautiful woman in her thirties. However, men in their thirties also like to choose beautiful women in their twenties, but they do not take into account their age and identity characteristics. Of course, it is only a psychological need, but it is not necessarily possible. If the gap between the idea and the reality is too far, it will become a utopian dream. Only men who have both money and power can choose beautiful women, while men who have no money and power want to choose beautiful women, which is tantamount to fantasy.
Today's women are more pragmatic and demand that the man they choose has money and power, and their parents must also have money or power. No, you have to settle for the next best, or even wait, until you become a leftover woman, and then you will find a man to end your single life hastily. Men will not be like this, generally when they reach the age of marriage, they will take the initiative to look for the opposite sex, and there are fewer people who wait. Of course, there are also older young men who can't find a partner and will be disliked by women. Women will say that they have a problem, otherwise they will not wait until they are "old" and will not find a partner. And men have their own set of rhetoric, either they are busy with their careers, or they have high vision, etc. Anyway, men like beautiful women, and they have to like young ones. If there are men in their forties who are divorced, they are willing to find young and beautiful, but if not, they must find women who are still in their thirties and forties.
In addition to being beautiful, men also like to find women who have the same personality as their mothers, and there may be a certain "mother-love complex" at work. If you can't find a woman with a similar personality to your mother, you need to find a woman with maternal tenderness. The gentleness of motherhood can neutralize the masculinity of men, and only when yin and yang complement each other will they complement each other. Outside the male protagonist, focus on working hard to make money;In the heroine, she focuses on cooking and giving birth to children, taking care of housework, and if she can go to work, she can also supplement the family. In this way, the family will be emotionally harmonious and will be able to develop for a long time. If a man finds a woman who is consistent with his personality, he will feel bored and lose his vitality and vitality after a long time. Of course, there are also men with feminine personalities who find a woman with a masculine personality and can also develop for a long time. Perhaps, a man's mate selection criteria are not fixed, but he just chooses the opposite sex that he can come into contact with, and as long as he has the possibility of choice, he will consider it again, and he can only get married if he chooses well.
Men like good women, but they can't climb high. Many men like to be with excellent women, and even develop to the point of falling in love, but they are often controlled and cannot have a certain right to speak. Unless the man is better, you must find a good woman.
Men like more lascivious women, of course, just to play together, but not necessarily married. There are also men who marry lewd women, and they may have been subjected to women's **. In ancient times, many scholars were prostitutes, and they swore that after passing the exam, they must redeem the prostitute and marry her. When the scholar really passed the exam, he was going to marry the daughter of a powerful family, and he had long forgotten about his alliance with a prostitute. In ancient times, many beautiful women had a bad fate, and they were not treated as tools, but as playthings. Look at the tragedy of the four beauties and you will know what is going on. Now most of the beautiful and lascivious women have become the object of men's pursuit, but they do not necessarily enter the palace of marriage with men, and even some women rely on their beautiful posture to maneuver between several men, cheating money and power, and they are actually very popular. There are also women who get married and divorce, and if they repeat this a few times, they can become rich by virtue of the bride price they want. Perhaps, the times have progressed, and women know men's thoughts, so they can sell their posture while they are young and earn a lot of money.
After a woman has plastic surgery, she has become beautiful, has become the object of men's pursuit, and has also found a good home for herself. Men also go for plastic surgery, it seems that they can get better social resources, and they can also get the favor of many excellent women. Perhaps, both men and women will be concerned about their appearance. Some men have no choice but to choose a woman with a bad appearance, and they just plan to make do with it, either greedy for women's money or women's rights, or just to have children with women, as for whether they look good or not, they can only make do.
A man's criteria for choosing a mate are not fixed and vary from person to person. However, on the whole, there are still some rules to follow.