We don't have an audience, we just ourselves, so we don't need to live a screw-up.
When I was standing on the side of the road, the scene that flashed in front of my eyes, if the next 1 second made me think back to the scene of the previous 1 second, it was completely blurry, that is, you asked me to tell me, how many people passed by just now?Or how many men are there?How many women?What do they look like?Or what kind of car is passing by?What color?It's just that I can't say it at all. If it is not deliberately concerned, all the passages, it is vague.
The reason why people have low self-esteem and social fear is that we feel that the eyes around us are looking at us, which is the so-called spotlight effect, but in fact, this is not the case, we really don't have that many audiences, and it can even be said that everything around you does not exist except for yourself, so you don't need to live at all, you can completely liberate your nature.
To give a more apt example, think back to someone you know, even if it's your closest person, can you portray what he looks like?Whether you remember it or not, it's just a vague outline.
I often tell the people around me or the people I love that you must love yourself, because no matter how much I love you, but it is not as much as a thousandth of how much you love yourself, because a person can't completely project all his energy and time on a body other than himself, that is something that can't be done, because if he can do it, then he himself will not exist, so this is an unrealistic thing.
It comes back to how we should feel about others loving usIn order to make a relationship more comfortable, more natural and longer?It's that you see yourself as a complete, that is, you are perfect, and you see the love that others give you as the icing on the cake, not as a gift in disguise, and if you see the love of others as a part of you that you are missing, then you must be miserable, you must be twisted, you must be unnatural.
All pessimistic attitudes stem from incorrect thinking.