In China's family education, intimidation education is a commonplace and Xi method. Parents use intimidation to correct their children's behavior, which seems to be quick and effective, but ignores the potential impact on their children's mental and emotional development. This article will review the various methods and dangers of intimidation education, and provide some suggestions to help parents change the way they educate.
1.Physical threats: For example, "If you don't go to bed early, ghosts will come and catch children at night." "This method forces children to follow the rules by creating a fear of the unknown or the paranormal.
In scaremongering education, parents may use their child's fear of the unknown and the paranormal to achieve the purpose of discipline. For example, by telling children that "there will be ghosts coming to catch children at night", parents make children afraid of sleep time and force them to follow the rule of going to bed early. However, such intimidation is not good for the child's mental health. Over time, children may experience a fear of the dark or being alone, leading to decreased sleep quality, increased anxiety, and the potential for over-dependent parental behavior patterns.
2.Emotional manipulation: For example, "If you are so naughty again, your mother will not love you." This type of intimidation takes advantage of a child's fear of losing their parent's love to force them to change their behavior.
Parents sometimes resort to emotional manipulation to threaten and control their children's behavior by telling them that "if you continue to be naughty, mommy won't love you anymore." However, this intimidating behavior hurts the child's emotional and mental health. Children should grow up in a safe, loving, and caring environment instead of being threatened with parental love. Such intimidation can lead to low self-esteem, anxiety and depression, affecting the development of intimate relationships with family members and others.
3.Material threats: For example, "If you don't obey, I'll throw all your toys away." "This way of controlling is achieved by threatening to deprive the child of objects that he or she loves.
Parents sometimes take advantage of their children's dependence on substance things to control their behavior. They may try to take control by telling your child "If you don't listen, I'll throw all your toys away." However, this way can have a negative impact on the child's emotions and consciousness. Children should grow up in an environment of respect and trust, not being threatened with losing what they love. This intimidation can lead to anxiety, substance dependence, and negative behaviors.
4.Social shame: For example, "If you lose face outside, come home and see how I clean you up." "This intimidation controls a child's behavior in public by threatening punishment within the family.
Parents sometimes threaten and control their children's social behavior by telling them "If you lose face outside, come home and see how I clean you up." However, this approach can have a negative impact on the child's mental and emotional well-being. Children should grow up in an environment that supports and encourages them to develop social skills, rather than being threatened with punishment to go home. This intimidation can cause children to develop social anxiety, low self-esteem, and affect their social positivity.
5.Intimidation of the future: For example, "If you don't study well now Xi you will become a loser in the future. "This approach drives children's behavior by creating fear of future uncertainty and failure.
Parents sometimes threaten and influence their children's Xi behavior by telling them that "if you don't study well now Xi you will become a failure in the future". However, this intimidation can have a negative impact on a child's mental health. Children should grow up in an environment that encourages them to pursue their dreams and develop their interests, rather than being threatened with future failures. This intimidation can cause the child to develop anxiety, stress, low self-esteem, and fear of the future.
While scaremongering may have some effects in the short term, it can have many negative effects on a child's physical and mental health and development in the long run.
1.Increased psychological stress: Scare-based education can cause children to experience excessive stress, making them feel overwhelmed, anxious, and depressed. Children's mental health can be compromised, leading to depression, anxiety, and other psychological problems.
2.Damaged self-esteem: Intimidating education can cause children to have low self-esteem, and they may feel that they are not good enough and lack self-confidence. This can lead to withdrawal in school, Xi and socializing, affecting their self-development and motivation.
3.Emotional problems: Through threats and punishments, intimidating education can disrupt the intimate relationship between children and their parents. Children may feel a loss of trust and security, which can lead to the breakdown of intimate relationships and the occurrence of emotional problems.
4.Behavioural problems: Intimidating education can lead to resistance, rebellion, and avoidance behaviors. They may try to resist parental control or avoid the threat of intimidation, which can lead to undesirable behavior patterns.
5.Declining Xi academic performance: Although intimidating education may cause children to change their behavior in the short term, in the long run, it may lead to a loss of interest in Xi and a decline in academic Xi performance. Children may feel that learning Xi is a burden rather than a pleasure.
1.Build intimate relationships: It's essential to build an intimate relationship with your child. Children should feel loved and supported, not intimidated and threatened. Establish genuine and respectful communication with your child and listen to their needs and concerns.
2.Encouragement and Reward: Motivate children to change their behavior in a positive way, encouraging their efforts and achievements through rewards and praise. This will help children develop positive motivation, strengthen their self-confidence, and continuously improve their behaviour.
3.Establish rules and conventions: Work with your children to create family rules and conventions that will give them a sense of participation and responsibility. Set clear goals and expectations based on your child's age and ability to understand what is acceptable and what is not.
4.Develop Emotional Intelligence: Help children develop emotional intelligence and develop their emotional management, interpersonal and problem-solving skills. Educate them to deal positively with setbacks and stress, develop adaptability and flexibility, and improve their self-confidence and self-esteem.
5.Seek support and guidance: If you find yourself unable to change the way your scare-based education is conducted, or if your child has been negatively impacted, it is important to seek professional support and guidance. Counselors, education specialists, and homeschooling training programs are all available to help and guide.
Intimidating education may have some effects in the short term, but in the long run, it has a negative impact on a child's mental and emotional development. Parents should change the way they are educated, create a loving and caring environment, build intimate relationships with their children, encourage and reward their efforts, and develop emotional intelligence and problem-solving skills. By changing the way we educate, we can help children grow up healthy and become confident, caring, and autonomous individuals.