A lonely girl always feels mysterious and alienated.
I have a best friend Lin Lin when I was studying, and she is such a character.
She doesn't like to join in the fun, and would rather go to the library and museum alone on weekends than be dragged to KTV by us.
At first, I couldn't understand Lin Lin's choice, and even avoided her.
Until one day, the department organized a hike, and my girlfriends and I were happily preparing to set off, but Lin Lin silently went first.
At noon, everyone was tired and out of breath, but Lin Lin was full of energy, and specially picked wild fruits for us to replenish our strength.
Only then did it dawn on me that Lin Lin was a girl with an independent heart and strong strength.
A lot of people can't understand girls who are alone, but I'm deeply attracted to them.
A lonely girl will live her life in her own way.
They don't follow the crowd and don't care what others think.
For example, Du Xiaoxiao, a teacher of mine when I was in graduate school, was such a girl.
99% of the female teachers in our department wear makeup and beautiful clothes to class.
Only Mr. Du's sneakers and jeans, a bookish posture.
But what surprised me was that Ms. Du's classroom atmosphere was the most active, and the students liked her teaching style the most.
It turns out that a lonely girl can also live a beautiful and moving life.
Now there is a saying in society that it is called "thirty and independent".
The so-called thirty and single, that is, girls are still single when they are thirty years old.
Many people see this state as a failure or a flaw in girls.
But in my eyes, a solitary girl can also live well.
My sister is one such example.
She divorced in her thirties and lives alone with a five-year-old daughter.
Instead of succumbing to the pressure of her parents' urging to marry, my sister began to enjoy her own life.
She will take her daughter to travel all over the country, and go to Shunyi on weekends to eat farm meals and visit ancient towns.
Once I asked her, "Don't you want to be in a relationship anymore?"”
My sister smiled and said, "I'm doing well, if I meet the right person, let's talk about it." ”
That kind of calm and unhurried posture is a good appearance for independent women.
Actually, liking to be alone is also a kind of character.
Neither arrogant nor lonely, but actively chooses to be alone.
Some of my best friends when I was in college are now running their own ways because of trivial things in life.
And after I worked in a foreign country, I didn't have many friends.
In his spare time, he either reads and writes alone, or goes out to climb the mountains and enjoy the scenery.
Over time, people around me called me a "cold beauty" and a "female man".
But I'm happy because that's what I want to be like in life.
In life, the most important thing is to keep your character and true colors.
The important thing is not to gather and disperse, but to find your own suitable lifestyle.
So girls, don't be led by the nose by arguments like "thirty and alone".
If you love to be alone and alone, then be bold and live your own life!