As we enter adulthood, we all encounter a variety of pressures and difficulties. Some people may fall into the dilemma of self-blame for these pressures and difficulties, while others can maintain a positive attitude and cope with them easily. Therefore, "not overly blaming yourself" has become the first rule of adult life.
What does it mean to "not overly blame yourself"?When we encounter failure, frustration, or stress, we should avoid blaming or denying ourselves too harshly. This situation may not only have a negative impact on our psyche, but also affect our work, life and communication with others. So how can we avoid excessive self-blame and maintain a positive and optimistic attitude?
First, we need to learn to accept that we are not perfect. Everyone is unique and has their own strengths and weaknesses. Face up to your own shortcomings, accept failures and setbacks, and don't need to be overly yourself. We can try to ease excessive self-blame by self-acceptance, self-tolerance, and self-understanding.
Second, we need to learn from failures and setbacks. Failure and setbacks alone do not measure the value of our existence, they are just an episode in our growth journey. On the contrary, we should accumulate experience, find the crux of the problem and solve the problem, and avoid indulging in self-blame and denial. Through reflection, summary and improvement, we will continue to improve our comprehensive quality.
In addition, we also need to know how to express and confide in others. In the face of stress and difficulties, we are not alone. There are always a lot of people around who are willing to lend a hand. By communicating with them and asking for help, sharing worries together, and absorbing helpful advice and support, this will effectively reduce our stress and get more help.
Finally, we need to be good at paying attention to our emotional needs. In the face of various pressures and challenges, we should face up to and take care of our emotional conditions and needs, rather than choosing to ignore or even suppress them. Proper exercise, recreation, and rest can all help to soothe the mind and meet personal needs. Only in this way can we maintain our mental health and avoid falling into the vortex of excessive self-blame.
All in all, "not over-blaming yourself" is undoubtedly an important rule in adult life. Only by mastering this rule can we face life's challenges with a positive and optimistic outlook, and face each day with confidence and determination. I hope that we can all have a peaceful and generous attitude, calmly face our own flaws, and feel the beauty of life with our hearts.