In the world of blind dates, it is like selling Chinese cabbage, picking and choosing, and it is easy to fall into the embarrassing situation of being picked.
The success rate of blind dates is not high, and the reasons are very different:Strangeness, standard stereotype, perfunctory participation, glamorous mentality, etc, are the culprits that make this date uniquely difficult.
As parents, we expect our children to meet a kind person and tie the knot.
In order to improve the success rate of blind dates, we suggest that children learn the "three major effects" in the processThe first cause effect, the expectation effect, and the tidal effect
The First Cause Effect: First impressions that can't be ignored
Preconceived notions,This psychological principle is not only applicable to aesthetic concepts, but also profoundly affects the special field of blind date.
A psychologist once experimentally proved that when we are told that someone is a criminal, it is difficult to think of them as a scientist and vice versa.
This kindThe "First Cause Effect".The same is true for the first meeting on a blind date.
Before going on a blind date, we often get to know each other through the ** of the circle of friends, words or descriptions of the people around us.
All of this has formed ours"Preconceived impressions".
Such an understanding is often only the tip of the iceberg and is not enough to judge a person's qualities and character.
The real value of a blind date is that through getting along for a long time, you can really get to know each other and jump outPreconceived notions,of the traps.
In the process of blind date, the requirements for appearance are often magnified.
Modern young people like to say:"Find someone with eyesThis kind"Love at first sight".The expectation is unrealistic in a blind date.
The blind date is short, and looking forward to love at first sight is actually an excessive expectation of love"The road knows the horsepower, and the people will see the hearts of the people over time".The best way to understand a person is to get to know each other through blind date and communication.
Expectation effect: The greater the expectation, the deeper the disappointment
People always have high expectations for the future half.
Before the blind date, after the introduction of the matchmaker, we will be full of expectations for the other party. Expectations are too high, and disappointment is often too deep.
In the mouth of the matchmaker"Dignified appearance".may show another true face when they meet;"The monthly salary is over 10,000".of men, perhaps not as it seems.
During the blind date process, we need to be rational about our expectations of our future partner.
Excessive expectations can create a huge psychological gap between the two sidesAnd smart people adjust their expectations at the right time to reduce disappointment
The odds of falling in love tend to rise with moderate expectations.
During the Three Kingdoms period, the minister Xu Yun was causedThe "expectation effect".And the shock.
When they first met their wives, the beauty of their expectations was shattered in reality, but after communication and understanding, the two finally moved towards a happy marriage.
Lowering expectations and accepting the gap is a key step towards a successful blind date
Tide Effect: Enhance attractiveness, not be bound by labels
The "tidal effect".Let's understand that attraction is an indispensable element in blind dates.
Blind dates are not searching"Cumbersome"., but to find a partner who works together and achieves each other.
Blind dates are often bound by two types of labels: one is to be"A good wife and a good mother".Label kidnapped women, the other is been"Successful people".Label kidnapped males.
In order to improve efficiency at work, we will match the right people to work with to improve the overall attractiveness.
And in blind dates, we also need to considerBoost in attractiveness
If you're expecting a good horse, plant a patch of grass firstIf you dream of meeting a phoenix, plant a plane tree first
A blind date is an opportunity, a chance encounter. A good blind date is not flawless, but the beginning of a happy life
Everyone should consider it from a fair standpoint, look at their own conditions, and consider the conditions of the other partyAdjust the conditions that restrict love in a timely manner
Blind date, that's it
Parents sincerely hope that their children can meet a good person and tie the knot.
Blind date is an attempt to improve the success rate of blind date.
But in this process, we need to understand the essence of love, treat preconceived notions rationally, lower expectations, and increase attractiveness.
Parents, don't always follow the mapUntie your childrento give them the freedom to choose among the blind dates.
As children, understandAn encounter, a lifelong blind date, so it's good
In this process, we need to go on a blind date with our hearts and not be blinded by the external aura.
Blind date is an opportunity for marriage and a journey of life.
Only by thoroughly understanding each other, putting aside the superficial brilliance, and looking for the inner shining point, can we find happiness in the ordinary
Every blind date is a page in the story of life
Maybe the first encounter is not amazing, but through in-depth communication, you may be able to discover the unknown charm of the other party.
Blind dates are not about finding the perfect person, but about finding the one who is compatible with you
Let us not be confused by the surface on the blind date, experience with our hearts, and finally find the person who is worth spending our lives with.
May every blind date be an encounter of fate, so that we can usher in true happiness in the journey of blind date.