Wen Yu Pian.
Have you ever seen such a person?
He never expresses his clear opinions and opinions, and seems harmless to humans and animals, but behind the scenes, his heart is always full of complaints and dissatisfaction.
If you ask him what he thinks, he will keep silent for the sake of face and for fear of offending people.
In short, he just doesn't want to tell you what he thinks in his heart, so as not to have positive communication and conflict with you.
For example: if you want him to work overtime with you at night and assist you in completing a certain job, he may be extremely unwilling, but he just doesn't say it, he will agree, and then deliberately delay, delay, carelessness, etc. when working overtime, in short, he will work overtime with you in a passive and passive way.
And at this time, it's hard for you to say anything about him-
Others are already working overtime to assist you, so why are you embarrassed to blame him.But only you know how uncomfortable this kind of "help" isIt's like being hit on the head, but you can't fight back. You see,This is the usual way of people with "passive personalities" - roundabout, passive, passive, but not lacking in aggression.
What causes a person to develop a "passive-aggressive personality"?
Such people may have been living in a "high-pressure" and "authoritative" environment for a long time, with limited abilities of their own and no nurturing or guardian who accommodates them, so they have to be submissive to others, even to curry favor with each other in a quiet and unassertive way.
But in fact, their hearts are full of resentment and resistance.
Such dissatisfaction and resistance also need to have a place to vent, otherwise how can we get psychological balance?
Compared with the best personality people, they have neither talent nor talent, and they can't build a spiritually beautiful second world for themselves, they have to put their inner hostility and resistance, with passive, passive words and deeds, when they are performing,Just make sure of these two points:
First, do not offend anyone, and do not tell the truth
Second, make it difficult for the other party.
They may agree with you beforehand, only to lose everything at a critical moment with a delay and carelessness
They may be hidden in the group of people who support and support you, but they use a weird tone to talk about you behind your back
They do things honestly, but they don't always do what you want.
They are what we often call "wilted" people.
In the movie, we often see such a person, a big boss was framed by the "loyal" deputy around him, this deputy did a lot of betrayal and betrayal of the big boss behind his back, which made the big boss very surprised and surprised, in the end, this deputy viciously told the big boss how much he hated the big boss on weekdays, and dreamed that one day the big boss would fall off the horse.
This kind of "stabbing in the back" person is no less aggressive than the person who is in direct conflict with you, and sometimes even more so.
Probably in our daily lives we don't meet such extreme "passive aggressors":
In the workplace, most of them will incarnate some people who speak yin and yang, and give us a sentence from time to time, so that after we listen, it is not a taste for a day;
In the family, they will be those relatives who don't see our goodness, always pouring cold water on you and breaking your self-confidence;
In the parent-child relationship, they can't help but make sarcastic remarks when they talk to their children, so that the children fall into endless ...... of confusion
In short, they are a group of people who do not take the initiative to live actively, and it is difficult to bring positive energy to the people around them