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The sun arches and dies, and the merit is not donated!Let's talk to you today".What kind of friends are not worth makingThis topic.
This topic, in fact, I have wanted to talk about it for a long time, my sister just ended a two-year friendship last month, and as a victim in this relationship, she blames herself for not only heartache but also self-blame.
After all, the old mother didn't tell her what kind of friends are not worth making deep friends, so that she was under the long-term PUA without knowing it, and my old mother was to blame, so that after she withdrew, for a long time, she was so sad that she couldn't extricate herself.
I want to say,The only true best friends in a person's life arePersonally, onlySo don't be sad about the unworthy.
When we are young, when others are a little nicer to us, we will be kind to each other with our hearts and lungs, and later find that the other party will only think that our kindness comes too easily, too easily, and seems very cheap.
But if something happens, we will definitely put our own interests first and push us out to death first, because it will always be at that moment that we will be sober up instantly, but the old mother doesn't want my daughter to suffer such a loss again.
I used to feel embarrassed and reluctant to stay away from such friends, but after suffering losses again and again, I began to feel that life and time are precious, and I really don't want to waste those time on people who are not worthy and unimportant.
If you want to live comfortably, you must raise the standard of your friends, and after leaving your bad friends, the good days have just begun.
Today, share a few types of friends that I think are toxic:
Negative energy is so powerful that you can't make progress with it.
In the past, I had a colleague who could hear her complaining and gossiping in the office every day, and being friends with her was sometimes like a roller coaster, up and down, not only her emotions up and down, but also your emotions going up and down.
She has sharp teeth, sharp teeth, and is very good at stirring up the atmosphere and creating vanity, but in addition to that, you have to listen to her, obey her, and go crazy with her to speak ill of others and isolate the people she hates.
Being friends with her is like having a thrilling love affair with the opposite sex, exhausted, and you don't want to do what she doesn't love.
so-called".The Tao is different, and they do not conspire with each otherLater, I slowly alienated her, and through self-reflection and promotion, the circle of friends around me was gradually iterated.
Nowadays, there are not many friends, but I think they are all friends who really match their values.
can't keep secrets, always gossiping.
This point is actually very similar to the previous point, basically people with negative energy have a tendency to gossip.
I once met a person who liked to talk about other people's gossip very much, and at that time his head was convulsive, and he actually talked to her one-on-one sincerely about some of his own thoughts, but then he really paid a heavy price.
Because she knew me very well, and then after falling out with me, toMy spear, my shield, Shake out all my secrets, at that time I was really aggrieved but I couldn't do anything about her, there was a feeling of being forcibly dissected by others, but I was powerless to fight back.
After this incident, I began to slowly move away from such friends and choose truly trustworthy friendsThe relationship is not equal, and there is no way to last long
It's sad to leave, but you have to leave to regain the right to breathe.
Being with that kind of person for a long time is really a kind of chronic suicide, and it will gradually become very depressed and depressed, but they don't care about you.
Don't keep boundaries with your partner.
The sense of boundaries is the proportion, scale, and temperature that are maintained in interpersonal interactions.
A friend's wife cannot be bullied, and a friend's husband cannot be cared for, this is the bottom line and the principle.
People with positive views disdain to be the kind of junior who will destroy other people's families;Men who have a master of the grass will consciously retreat and keep an appropriate distance.
If you don't shy away from the object of your friend's liking, such a friend shouldn't be a friend.
Treat you as a tool and discard it after using it.
It's just that as soon as she appears, she wants you to do something, and you can get out of the way after using it, and wait for her to come back to you next time she needs it.
Then in private, I love to be jealous, I love to speak ill of you, I love to belittle people, I think I am great, and others are inferior.
My daughter met it this time, so I understand her grievances, but fortunately, I have recognized it and submitted this so-called friend to the blacklist, and I really praise her decisiveness.
The most basic conditions for being a good friend are:Respect each other.
Even if you have something important, you have to respect whether I can take a leave of absence that day, and whether there is a way to take a leave of absence.
Your business will always be important, and mine will always be secondary
I can only listen to you in the negative energy of the ** horn horn, but mine can be casual??
Someone you don't like, I have to hate it with you??
If you have good grades, it is a matter of course, but it is not okay to change me with good grades
My secret must be told to you in the way of digging up the ancestral grave, but instead you have to respect each other??
Your pranks are jokes, and my jokes are pranks???
This kind of friend or girlfriend is poisonous!Please leave now.
Do you agree with the above?
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