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Today is the 28th and 99th day of the daily shift
Hello everyone, I'm Ming Jing.
A post-90s mother who likes to read, read newspapers, and write notes.
Psychologist Adler once said: All human troubles come from interpersonal relationships. You have to have the courage to be hated in order to step out and gain true freedom. It is enough to do a good job of separating topics, doing oneself for work and other relationships, and not forcing others.
It can be seen that in the real society, between people, the invisible and intangible rules are intricate, and only by separating oneself from it can we see it clearly.
However, if you want to master the skills, not to suffer from boredom, and not to be practiced overnight, according to the description of the wise man in "The Courage to Be Hated", it will take about one-third of a person's current age.
Today, we have compiled 30 unspoken rules of social interaction to share with you to help you learn to be at home in interpersonal interactions in the shortest possible time, let's take a look!
1. If you can do it yourself, don't trouble others, human favor is the most difficult debt to repay.
2. No matter how good the relationship is, if there is no sense of distance between the opposite sex, most of the final endings will be broken up.
3. The essence of social networking is value exchange, if there is no bargaining chip that can be exchanged, desperate upward socialization will not be able to enter the eyes of others.
4. Don't share your achievements and happiness with the people around you easily, the biggest evil in human nature is not being able to see others live well.
5. The most important turning points in life are not the great changes in painful determination, but the silent Xi of moisturizing things, such as reading and exercising.
6. If there is no response, it is a refusal, don't get to the bottom of it and embarrass each other.
7. Bad people never feel bad when they do bad things, so don't try to convince a person easily.
8. If the other party does not take the initiative to ask, don't rush to help, such help will be thought by the other party that you are very cheap.
9. No matter how good the relationship is, once there is a crack, it can no longer be repaired, friends are like this, and lovers are too.
10. When dealing with people and remembering each other's names, the other party will feel that they are valued and can quickly shorten the distance between the two parties.
11. When you need to explain a long period of things, try to use words instead of voice.
12. When you lend out money, you must be mentally prepared not to come back.
13. Use less rhetorical questions and interrogative sentences, and the listener will be more willing to communicate with you.
14. Complain less, use more positive language, no one likes people with negative energy, and don't treat others as your trash can.
15. It's normal for others to dislike you or even hate you, don't doubt yourself because of this, everyone's experience is different, their understanding of things is different, just live as they are.
16. The promised things must be done, credit is the most precious thing for adults, and if you lose it, you can never get it back.
17. Don't overestimate your position in the eyes of others, whoever leaves can live.
18. Trees are dead, people are alive, before things are done, don't tell others first, silently and quietly amaze everyone.
19. Say more good things about others, don't say bad things about others, especially when the protagonist is not there.
20. The reason why you are suffering is because your desires are not satisfied.
21. Most people have the plot of admiring the strong, and their tolerance for the strong is much higher than that of the weak.
22. Don't be stingy with your praise, often people with strong mouths are better than people with great skills.
23. Don't make decisions when you're impulsive, people have almost zero IQ when they're angry.
24. The most hurtful words often hurt the people closest to them, and offending people with their mouths is the most stupid.
25. When others laugh at themselves, don't easily echo it, just listen to it.
26. Learning to refuse can help you save 80% of the trouble.
27. If you say anything, the other party can catch it, not necessarily because of your sympathy, 99% of the probability is that the other party's EQ and IQ are above you.
28. Sometimes being unsociable is not necessarily a bad thing. Low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude.
29. The people who have helped you will often help you again, and the people you have helped may not be grateful for the kindness.
30. When asking others, don't think about prostitution, it's best to express your gratitude in a timely manner, such as sending a red envelope and drinking milk tea.
Schopenhauer once said:
People are like hedgehogs in the cold winter, if they get too close to each other, they will feel stinging each other, and if they are too far away, they will feel cold. ”
Interpersonal communication is an art that requires sobriety in the details.
Don't let you think you've ruined the relationship.
Grow a little bit every day, and we'll see you tomorrow!
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