Families are like life, full of glory and challenges, and those who are blessed will naturally be able to enjoy a bright future for future generations.
So, what is it that makes the descendants of a family prosperous and blesses their descendants?
Some people may think that material wealth is the most precious blessing of a family, and abundant wealth is the most urgent need of a family.
Obviously, money and fame are important, and wealth can be relied upon for future generations.
However, can they ensure that a family will thrive in the long term?It's not a given.
Looking back, there used to be homes of wealth and power, but now they are gone.
In stark contrast, although there is no great wealth, the family that has passed on the family culture from generation to generation is still in the world.
When I was a child, I heard the old man say, "When there is no home, there will be an omen." ”
He said to me: Once these three phenomena occur in a family, it is difficult to spread.
First, the family style is not good, and the fate of children and grandchildren is worrying.
There is a famous proverb from the ancestors: "Virtue carries things and is loyal to the heirloom".
If a family can uphold the virtues of loyalty and justice, it will not only be able to shoulder greater responsibilities and obligations in society, but also establish a good family tradition to ensure the long-term inheritance of future generations.
Therefore, loyalty and integrity are the cornerstone of family inheritance. In the final analysis, it is a "virtue" inheritance.
If a family has a corrupt family morals and lacks moral character, what is the result?
In fact, in history, we can often get a glimpse of the whole leopard, as far as Sima Yan is concerned.
Sima Yan is the grandson of Sima Yi, a famous general of Wei during the Three Kingdoms period, and after inheriting the throne of the Cao family, he plans to dominate the world and let the family's glory continue.
But the political battles and power struggles faced by Sima Yan's descendants in the generations that followed.
Despite the Sima family's progenitives, a series of turbulent political struggles did not last.
In the end, Sima Rui, a member of the side branch who escaped death, seized the opportunity to win the throne of the troubled times.
Later, during the "Five Hu Chaos", it brought a great blow to the Sima Yan family, and almost made his descendants never mention it.
Coincidentally, although the Sima family was busy with political affairs all their lives, it was unexpectedly that only a few decades later, their descendants had broken off.
Therefore, from a historical point of view, the importance of family style for a family is self-evident, after all, "people act, God scrutinizes".
The family style is not good, although there may be some "seemingly prosperous" scenes at that time, but over time, the children and grandchildren will go into decline.
If the moral code of the family is not healthy, it is like a crooked house, and the pillars under it will also suffer from deviation.
The lack of morality of parents will lead to the collapse of the whole family, and a good family style is the cornerstone of a prosperous family.
This is called "family style".
Second, the people's hearts are not united.
Unity of hearts is the key to family reproduction, because it is related to the stability of the family, the relationship between members and the transmission of values.
A family that is united, fraternal, and living in harmony can provide a good environment for the next generation to grow up.
When family members are closely connected and supportive of each other, the warmth and unity within the family will bring everyone a sense of security and belonging.
This kind of stability and cohesion is conducive to cultivating children's self-confidence, sense of responsibility and cooperative spirit, so that they can grow up healthily and stand in society.
After establishing good communication and understanding between family members, they will be able to coordinate and solve problems better and meet various challenges in life together.
As the saying goes: "Three fingers are easy to break, five fingers are tight and difficult to break".
This unity and trust is conducive to strengthening the stability and cohesion within the family, allowing the family to respond to changes and difficulties and meet the future with a more positive attitude.
Think about it, if you always work hard for others in a family and don't contribute to them, isn't the future of this family full of dangers?
On the contrary, when each member of the family does their best to fulfill their respective responsibilities, your home becomes a close relationship.
In such an environment, even if you face life's challenges and ups and downs, you can stick to your ground and work together.
After reading it, some friends may think of the legend of Yugong moving mountains. How dare the foolish man move mountains?
Because he knew that it might not be possible to accomplish this arduous mission on his own, but as long as it was passed on from generation to generation and persevered, one day the mountain would be leveled.
Yu Gong's son inherited his father's business and continued to move mountains, and later, Yu Gong's grandchildren, great-grandchildren and descendants all regarded this important responsibility as the responsibility of the family.
Centuries later, one day, these two towering mountains, which once stood proudly above the clouds, gradually descended and became gentle, after endless hardship.
There is an ancient saying: "All people can move mountains with one heart." "As long as people are united, any difficult work can be done.
When everyone can eliminate distractions and unite around a common goal, there will be great power.
The tacit understanding and support between family members will enable them to fully realize their potential, overcome difficulties and ultimately achieve success.
Therefore, family unity is very crucial, and only by understanding each other, respecting each other, and working closely together can family members maximize their potential and jointly complete the task of overcoming difficulties.
A sense of solidarity and a common purpose allow us to erect an impenetrable barrier for the family, so that difficulties can be resolved and Tarzan-like goals can migrate.
3. The method of education is incorrect.
In the world, the original family is very different, and not everyone is full of love.
The different forms of expression of love have led to a variety of children's thoughts and choices.
Some families emphasize a sense of equality, and parents spend time with their children in a free and open way.
However, some homes give people a feeling of suffocation and oppression, and people can't bear to linger for a while.
As a result, these children and grandchildren felt nervous that they had nowhere to speak, and their concept of love was blurred, and they did not know what love was.
* Although Lu Zilin in the Lujia compound of "White Deer Plain" is tricky and treacherous, he has outstanding achievements in children's education.
Guided by his well-versed social rules and interpersonal experience, he has cultivated many successful and responsible sons.
In contrast, although Bai Jiaxuan, the parent of the Bai family, understands righteousness and is lenient and strict, he is a little powerless on the issue of children's education.
He has always looked at children with idealism and ignored the reality of children.
But in real life, Mr. Bai presents selfish, cowardly, insidious and other personalities.
He never took into account the emotions of others, but often resorted to various means to achieve his goals for his own benefit.
As a result, children are finally developed into selfish, cowardly and cunning personalities.
Growing up in an environment lacking love, Bai Xiaowen naturally can't understand the meaning of love when he is alone.
He may have deeply felt that the experience of life was full of a lack of care and warmth, and this emptiness seemed to swallow him up.
He may feel that the world is indifferent and cruel in his eyes, so he cannot give others sincere love.
As a result, he may be stuck in a vicious circle and feel that he cannot get out of it. Faced with this situation, how could he have the heart to face a new life?
Obviously, if parents adopt incorrect education methods, they may inadvertently tear the roots and cause the tragedy of "breaking the roots".
Therefore, we must deeply understand the meaning and responsibility of family education, and only use love, care and respect to nourish the roots of children's souls.
Conclusion: The family in our lives is the main base of our Xi.
Although the situation of the family does not directly affect our destiny, the atmosphere, values, and interpersonal relationships of the home have a profound impact on our growth and development.
Therefore, the atmosphere of the home, the environment of the home and the psychology of the family members are the core of a good home.