Narrator: Ms. Su.
As an ordinary worker, when I received this month's salary, I did not hesitate to pay my parents' NCMS medical insurance expenses, totaling 820 yuan. I couldn't wait to take a screenshot and send it to my mother, hoping that she would compliment me, but her first sentence shocked me: "Didn't you give your brother a family?" These few short lines of words instantly made my heart tremble, and I began to reflect on why I knew that my parents were patriarchal, but I became such a wronged leader.
My brother and I are two children in the family. In the past years, I studied hard to Xi, got into high school, and entered college. Now, I have a stable job, although the salary is not very high, and it is relatively hard, but I enjoy the perfect five social insurance and one housing fund treatment. And my husband is a sales manager of a medical device company, and his salary is several times more than mine. He was responsible for the family's expenses, he never asked me about my salary, and I was free to use my own income.
The younger brother was not interested in learning Xi since he was a child, and after graduating from junior high school, he went to work at the construction site. He used to do some auxiliary work on the construction site, commonly known as a helper, because he was reluctant to learn bricklaying and the like, because he was not very down-to-earth, and no one was willing to take him. I haven't done it for a while, and now I deliver couriers in the county. Although my younger siblings went to a technical school, they Xi a major in beauty salons. But she didn't have the funds needed to open a store, nor did she have enough technical skills, so in order to take care of her children, she chose to work as a non-compiler teacher in a kindergarten.
Both parents worked as farmers in the village at the beginning, and the NCMS medical insurance was also paid to the village committee, so they used to go to the village committee every year to pay it. However, when his brother-in-law was pregnant with a second child, Dabao had no energy to take care of it, so he asked his mother to go to the county to help take care of the children and cook for them by the way.
My brother-in-law gave birth to a daughter for the first time, but she wanted to have a son, so she simply got her wish and welcomed another son, and our family was very happy. However, in the face of the reality of raising two children, especially one son, the future expenses will undoubtedly be more. So, my brother-in-law went out to work and make money two months after Erbao was born. My mother couldn't take care of the two children on her own, so she called my father to the city to help. She takes care of the children, and her father cooks.
In the same year, the NCMS medical insurance was reformed and online payment was introduced. The people from the village committee called his father and reminded him and his mother not to forget to pay the bills, because the reimbursement of medical expenses in rural areas depends on this medical insurance. However, the parents did not know anything about the online payment process, so they asked their younger brother and sister, but both of them had little education and said that they did not know, because they had not paid at all over the years. In desperation, my father called me ** and asked me to help deal with their medical insurance.
As a well-educated person who deals with computers and the Internet on a daily basis, I quickly figured out the payment process in my hometown on the app, and successfully handled the payment of the NCMS medical insurance for my parents. What my mother had been worried about was resolved smoothly.
At that time, my father also mentioned that he would go to the bank to withdraw money and return the expenses I had paid in advance. But I told him no, it was just a few hundred dollars, I could still afford it, and my salary had gone up recently.
As soon as my mother heard me mention the salary increase, she couldn't wait to ask me how much it was. I didn't think much about it, and directly told her that it had risen by 1,000 yuan. When the mother heard this, she clapped her hands happily and said"Great! More than 1,000 yuan a month, it's 10,000 a year, which is really a lot. Then you can help your brother's family pay the medical insurance, they have not paid it. Now that they have two children, who can guarantee that they will not get sick and be hospitalized? Your brother and sister don't have a lot of income and are under a lot of pressure, and they really need health insurance. But they feel sorry for this money, you as a sister will pay it for them first, you have a high culture, you will earn more and more in the future, and you will pay it when their economic conditions improve. ”
My mother's words bothered me a little, and I stood there, not knowing how to respond. It's not easy to think about the situation of my brother and sister-in-law. Their income is not high, and they not only have to pay off their mortgage, but they also have to raise two children. Coupled with the fact that my parents are taking care of their grandchildren here, the cost of living is definitely not small. And I, although I am also very tired, but I am working in the office, enjoying the coolness of the air conditioner, and I get a salary of six or seven thousand yuan a month, which is indeed much better than my younger brother sending couriers in the sun and rain.
After thinking about it for a while, although I felt that something was wrong, I decided to agree to my mother's request to hand over the NCMS for my brother's family. When I asked my brother for the ID cards of the family of four, he seemed to think it was unnecessary and a waste of money. However, at the insistence of my mother and I, I finally gave their whole family four ** medical insurance.
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That year, my parents and younger brother were in good health and did not get sick, and the NCMS medical insurance did not seem to come in handy. However, my parents like to watch some Douyin watermelons and other medical insurance products, and they attach great importance to the NCMS medical insurance. Because they don't know anything about network operations, and they are not familiar with new technologies such as face payment.
So, in the second year, my mother still asked me to pay for my younger brother's family. Her rhetoric is the same as last year, emphasizing that it is not easy to raise children, and that my brother and wife have limited income, and if someone gets sick, they will face huge medical expenses, and I help them get less than 2,000 yuan a year, which seems to be a good deal.
But my younger brother and sister did not approve of my spending and dedication, but felt that it was redundant, and there was no place to spend the money, because they were young and strong, even if they had a headache and brain fever, it would be good to take some medicine, and then it would be good to go to the town clinic for an injection, and they would not need any NCMS medical insurance at all, and asked me not to pay them in the future, and the money was all wasted.
So when I handed over the NCMS this year, I remembered what my brother and sister said, and I felt that what they said was also reasonable, so I was hesitant to help them pay it.
After thinking about it for a long time, I decided not to pay it to my brother's family this year, anyway, it was their own business, and they didn't take it seriously at all, what am I anxious about? The emperor is not in a hurry, and the eunuch is in a hurry? It stands to reason that the parents are helping their families take care of their children, and their parents' share of the money should be paid by them.
And so happened the scene I mentioned at the beginning. When my mother asked me why I didn't pay my brother's family, I was overwhelmed and even a little angry, should I have to pay? I shouldn't have promised my mother to pay for my brother's family in the first place, so my mother wouldn't have relied on me all the time, and the key brother and sister still didn't appreciate it, why should I be this wronged person? It was supposed to help, but now it's a matter of course.
Yet even though I was angry, I compromised again. Because my mother always said that paying for my brother's family was helping me, and if anyone in my brother's family got sick, I couldn't stand idly by, and the money was much more than now. So I once again helped my younger brother's family pay the NCMS medical insurance, four people, a total of 1,640 yuan.
So, should I help my brother pay it? Please give us your ideas.