Discover the true meaning of intimacy, the power of love, and the integrity of life.
Intimacy is a kind of fulfillment that people pursue, and it is the desire to see each other. Psychologist Carl Rogers once said, "Love is deep understanding and acceptance." Now, we will ** the deep meaning of intimate relationships, listen to the ten sentences shared by teacher Wu Zhihong about the essence of love, how it affects our hearts and lives.
1.People who have been loved unconditionally have their own light.
Self-confidence is not only about believing in yourself, but also about being confident because of love. Early in our lives, the unconditional love of our parents becomes the cornerstone of our self-confidence. When we are seen, recognized, and accepted unconditionally, true self-confidence grows in the depths of our hearts. And how to cultivate this unconditional love in a relationship is the key to building a strong intimate relationship.
2.The process of metamorphosis of spiritual power.
Under the pressures of life, many times we feel overwhelmed. When we adjust the perspective of the goal and change the goal from perfection to life, the transformation of spiritual power will also follow. Through this adjustment, we are no longer dead, but find the joy of survival in hardship, so that the energy of life can be released.
3.The body is the expression of the mind.
The body tells us a lot about our inner state. When pain and emotions are unspeakable, they are often expressed through physical discomfort. Symptoms such as mouth sores, colds, and fevers may be the body silently crying out "I need attention, I need to be comforted." Therefore, taking care of your physical health is also part of maintaining intimacy.
4.Three characteristics of a good parent.
The concept of "containers" mentioned in psychoanalysis gives parents important guidance in the upbringing of their children. Good parents have three characteristics: recognizing their child's achievements, supporting their child when he or she is frustrated, and accommodating his child's emotions. This vessel-like love is an indispensable cornerstone of intimacy.
5.Selfless love is hell.
The desire for love can easily lead to the myth of selflessness. This extreme love can lead to a breakdown after the relationship is established, because it is more of a projection of the "ideal self" than the real person. Love should be true and deep understanding and acceptance, not a hellish journey of self-abandonment.
6.At the end of the intimate relationship, all you see is yourself.
Why do we pursue intimacy? It's about finding one's own wholeness in the relationship. Rumi's poem says, "I brought a mirror. "Intimacy is like a mirror that allows us to see ourselves for who we really are. In relationships, we project our inner emotions to recognize and understand ourselves.
7.Distinguish between love and fake love
Too many things hide control, narcissism, or power in the name of love. We need to learn to distinguish between true love and false love. Carl Rogers' view is that "love is deep understanding and acceptance." "True love is what you are, not expecting the other person to be what I want. In intimate relationships, true love is the foundation on which a strong relationship is built.
8.No matter how good you are, you can't avoid being called bad.
The pursuit of excellence and perfection is the desire of many people, but no matter how good it is, it is difficult to avoid criticism from others. Trying to get others to recognize you often becomes an endless challenge. Ultimately, we need to understand that there is no control over what others think of us, and that true freedom lies in accepting ourselves.
9.The hardest people to maintain are the most resolute when they leave.
In relationships, the person who puts in the most effort tends to be the most decisive when it comes to deciding to leave. This is because they have done their best in the relationship, and when the relationship comes to an end, there is no nostalgia in their hearts. Conversely, for those who have not done their best to maintain their relationship, they may hesitate to separate and try to recoup what has been lost.
10.You don't need to be good when you're truly loved.
Love is accepting you as you are. Not to be loved because you are good, but to be good because you are loved. When we are able to truly present ourselves in our relationships and stop chasing the expectations of others,