I'm from a low background myself, and I really know this kind of person too well.
The vast majority of people have great personality flaws, and I have seen many people with high education and high salaries from the bottom of the background, but they still can't get rid of the inherent thinking that has been the same for decades.
If you still do your filial piety to your parents who beat you, you are afraid that you will be poked in the back;Don't dare to resist the oppressive demands of your parents, and give what your parents want;This kind of people can make money by their own efforts, let alone those who can't.
The vast majority of people at the bottom, their grandparents and parents have little ability, they are coerced by society, and they get married and have children in a daze. The children born do not understand the rules of society, cannot see the truth of society clearly, are unwilling to learn to change their lives, are unwilling to learn crafts, and do not have any knowledge of wealth. As long as it has anything to do with money, it will basically fall into the pit dug by others.
Because he has no ability, and has been ** by his parents and other poor relatives and friends for too long, he will only find a class, or do some manual work, and work for a day's salary. They also don't plan for their future, and live one day at a time.
Because the family has no foundation and no money, when it comes to big and small things, they can only rely on the savings accumulated by part-time jobs.
So, if you've been at the bottom, you'll find that parents generally educate their children: just eat it, what nutritional mix do you want?It's okay to wear it, what's the use of looking good or not?What is so hypocritical?Because the family has no money, the behavior pattern of the children born is directly replicated from the previous generation, almost identical.
Don't dare to offend people casually, for fear of losing money;Don't dare to eat good and dress well, for fear of being scolded by your parents;Don't dare to resist your boss, for fear of losing your job;I don't dare to start a business casually, for fear of being retaliated against for violating social rules. I can't be aggrieved for the rest of my life.
I watched a documentary before, a couple from a rural area raised several children, and finally the eldest son was admitted to university under the expectations of everyone. Before leaving, my father repeatedly ordered and told me that we must save money, don't spend money indiscriminately, it's not easy for the family to make some money, you still have younger brothers and sisters to support, and if you can eat 10 yuan a day, don't eat 20 yuan. The son was both frightened and cautiously agreed, his eyes were wooden and obscene, for fear that his father would not give him money if he was unhappy.
Why do people at the bottom like to take advantage and be emotionally unstable?The living environment is like this. Under this long-term lack of resources, it is almost difficult to change the survival habits formed by oppression, if the income does not increase.
Many people live in pain all their lives and can't extricate themselves, in fact, you have a choice, as long as you escape from this environment and feed yourself, you can break through.
But many people don't do it even if they know it, because they can endure the hardships of life as they know, but they don't want to face the slightest risk that may not be known.
If your friend or lover comes from the bottom, in order to fit in with him, you are bound to be like them, forced to witness all kinds of chicken feathers flying into the sky, and you can't hide from them.
It's because I know these people too well, so no matter what happens, I will find all kinds of ways to break through to the bottom. And I don't have a trace of nostalgia for these places at all, what roots are here, sooner or later they will come back, they don't exist at all, and I can run as soon as I can.
The truth is that once you break through the original class and are not on the same level as them, there is no doubt that you will definitely be hated by them, because the horizon is no longer in the same dimension.
This is normal, the first characteristic of becoming stronger and better is that it is hated by mediocre people. The more others hate you, the more you have to like yourself, which is the price of maturity, which means that you have changed, no longer mediocre, no longer continue to be oppressed.
If you don't stay away from these people, then you can only become like them, and continue to repeat this pattern from generation to generation.
Therefore, you will find a phenomenon that those vulnerable women who successfully escaped from the bottom never came back. Because they know better.