At nine o'clock in the evening, after Liu Yang washed the two children, took care of the two children to sleep, and then pushed the door and walked into the bedroom. He looked at me brushing ** on the bed, and actually squeezed out a smile.
As soon as I saw his obvious flattering smile, I knew he had something to ask me again.
Sure enough, he lifted the quilt and got into the quilt, stretched his head over and looked at the ** on the phone with me. After looking at it for a while, he poked me with his elbow: Hey, I'll discuss something for you.
I glanced at him out of the corner of my eye: What's the matter?
I asked that, but I already knew that he was asking me for money again.
Sure enough, Liu Yang cleared his throat and said that he hadn't seen his mother for a long time, and tomorrow was Sunday, and he wanted to take the two children back to see his parents, and asked me to give him 500 yuan.
As soon as I heard this, the fire came up;Is it easy for me to make money?You don't earn a penny all day long, and I earn everything I can eat and live at home. You also asked me for money to give to your mother?
When Liu Yang heard this, the smile on his face froze for a while, and then slowly became serious and angry: You say this again and again, do you have a conscience?Who cooks the three meals a day in this house?Who sends the two children to school?Who gives them homework tutoring?Adults and children come home to open their mouths for food and stretch out their hands for clothes, without me at home, can you live such a life?Besides, who told me to do the housework at home?Do you think I'm willing to do that?
His last sentence was almost shouted. After saying that, he pulled away violently, pulled a quilt that was idle next to the bed, got in, and didn't speak again all night.
I'm Chen Rong, 36 years old, running a grocery wholesale store. I have been married to my husband Liu Yang for 12 years, have a pair of children, and are also in elementary school.
When I first married Liu Yang, I worked for a small company, and he was a long-distance freight driver.
When I gave birth to my first child, my mother-in-law was seriously ill and couldn't take care of the child for us, so Liu Yang asked me to quit my job and take care of the family at home. I agreed, but I didn't think my salary was high anyway.
Originally, my mother ran a grocery wholesale store, but she was too old to do it. After I gave birth to my second child, she wanted me to run the business, and she came to help me.
I calculated, dry non-staple food wholesale is more profitable than Liu Yang's sports car. So I discussed with Liu Yang and asked him to take care of the family at home and take good care of the two children.
At that time, Liu Yang disagreed, feeling that he was a big man at home, as if he was eating soft rice. can let him do non-staple food wholesale, and he doesn't deal with my mother.
In the end, I grinded hard and hard, and Liu Yang finally agreed and went home to be a housewife.
To be honest, Liu Yang, a housewife and man, is still very competent. The meals are full of color and aroma, the home is always neat and clean, and the two children's Xi have always been among the best under his guidance.
It's just that I'm making more and more money, and my mindset has changed. Especially when I saw that everyone else was a man working hard outside, while I was a woman who was responsible for supporting the family, my heart became more and more unbalanced.
Talking to Liu Yang gradually became arrogant, especially when he reached out and asked me for money.
This time Liu Yang was really angry, he got up before dawn, and when he ate breakfast, he was expressionless and didn't pay attention to me. I went out with my two children all the time, and they didn't even look at me.
In the morning, I had something to look for him, but no matter how I called his mobile phone, I couldn't get through. I went home at noon, only to find that neither of my two children had come home, nor was Liu Yang.
In the evening, when I came back, before I entered the house, a familiar smell of food wafted into my nose, and I knew that Liu Yang was back.
After eating, Liu Yang simply cleaned up the kitchen and went out.
I asked him what he was doing, and he slammed the door and left, as if he hadn't heard.
That day, Liu Yang came back very late, I asked him what he was doing, he didn't answer me, but said to me with a blank face: he wanted to buy a car and run transportation.
As soon as I heard it, I lifted the quilt and sat up suddenly: You run the transportation, who will pick up the two children from school?Who will tutor Xi learners?Who takes care of the housework?
He said: Can you hire a nanny?
As soon as I heard it, I got angry: Do you have such a dedication to ask the nanny?It's a lot of money.
Liu Yang's voice suddenly increased several times: You know that it costs money to hire a nanny, so it's not worth it if I do so much at home every day?You can't move, this is what you earn, that's what you earn. I just didn't do anything in your words.
Every time I ask you for money, in addition to living expenses and children's money, how often have you given it happily?I'm an old man who goes home to see the elderly, and you only give a round-trip fare. I didn't even have the money to buy a fruit———
Liu Yang became more and more angry the more he talked, and finally he offered to buy a car, and if I didn't give him money, he wouldn't wait. I will sue the court for divorce!
I didn't expect Liu Yang to be so aggrieved at home. I don't want to get divorced, because Liu Yang doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, and has no other bad hobbies, and is also responsible for his family and children.
I don't want to buy him a car, if he goes out to work, can I still live this life when I get home?
But if I don't give him money, he will get a divorce, and the court will not award it to him.
What should I do?
Lonely cicada has a saying: There is a saying that behind every successful man, there is a woman who pays silently. Similarly, behind every successful woman, there is also a man who pays silently.
In fact, your husband is not lazy and does not want to make progress, and he is forced to choose to be at home out of desperation. Husband and wife are partners, no matter who is away or who is at home, as long as it can benefit the family. It's the best cooperation.
So, you can't ignore your husband's contribution to the family. We must not despise him and hurt his self-esteem.