Contemporary parents, on the road of their children's growth, are in a hurry, only wanting to pave the way for their children, but unconsciously fall into the trap of "over-upbringing".
This kind of education seems to be full of love, but it is actually a constraint on the child's future.
Over-upbringing", it manifests itself in a variety of forms, and some parents hover around their children like ***, monitoring and interfering with their children's every move all the time. They try to ** and eliminate all the challenges that the child faces, believing that it is a manifestation of love.
However, this practice is actually an overprotection, which deprives the child of the opportunity to grow up autonomously, making the child helpless and dependent when faced with the real world.
Look at those *** parents who arrange everything for their children, from wake-up morning service to supervision of life Xi, and even involve children's career choices and relationships. Behind this meticulous care, there is actually a desire for control. When children grow up in such an environment, it is naturally difficult for them to develop independent thinking and problem-solving skills.
This not only affects the mental health of children, but can also lead to tensions in family relationships and increase the gap between children and parents.
The consequences of over-upbringing are obvious.
Children may feel a lot of stress because of their parents' high expectations, which can have a negative impact on their mental health. They may lose confidence in the face of challenges due to a lack of autonomy and even appear helpless in building relationships.
So, how to avoid this type of education?
Needless to say, parents should involve their children in household chores and develop a sense of responsibility and independence in their children.
Learn to "sit on the sidelines" and let your child think and solve problems independently, rather than rushing to intervene every timeIt is also necessary to set reasonable expectations and encourage children to face failure and learn from Xi setbacks. In addition, maintain appropriate care and attention distance, so that children have their own private space, make their own decisions, and establish their own outlook on life.
Therefore, avoiding excessive parenting is not only for the healthy growth of children, but also for the harmony of the family. What children need is not a greenhouse without wind and waves, but an environment where they can grow freely and hone their will.
In the current era of rapid development and fierce competition, every parent hopes that their children can be at the forefront of the times, but sometimes, this excessive attention and protection has become an invisible shackle, limiting the space for children to grow independently.
Then I can't help but ask, why is the love of modern parents getting more and more tired for their children?
Let's talk about "** parenting", a figurative and apt metaphor that describes parents who are always hovering over their children's heads. They are always ready to intervene in every decision a child makes, whether it is a choice in Xi or a small matter in personal life.
This kind of behavior, although the starting point is love, often backfires. It is like a pair of invisible hands, always controlling the direction of children's lives, which not only deprives children of the opportunity to think independently and solve problems, but also makes children gradually lose their self-confidence and autonomy.
Just imagine, if a child grew up under the all-round "protection" of his parents from childhood to adulthood, how helpless and confused he would be when he faced real challengesExcessive intervention is undoubtedly telling the child: "You can't do anything without us." ”
This kind of information invisibly sends a signal to children that they are vulnerable and need to be relied on. This not only affects the child's mental health, but also their interpersonal relationships and life skills.
The family should be a hotbed for children to learn to be independent and learn to grow, rather than a permanent greenhouse. The role of parents should not be a permanent "problem solver", but a "guide" and "supporter". Let children learn Xi from failures and grow up in challenges, this is the real love.
Therefore, as parents, we should learn to let go in a timely manner, so that children have the opportunity to try, take risks, and experience the ups and downs of life on their own.
For example, if a child encounters interpersonal problems at school, as parents, we certainly want our children to be happy and harmonious. But that doesn't mean we have to step in right away and solve all the problems for our children. Instead, we should encourage children to think for themselves and try to solve problems.
Such an experience will be a valuable asset for children, in the process they learn to think independently, learn how to interact with others, and more importantly, learn the courage to face difficulties.
In addition, parents need to learn to set reasonable expectations. Every child has different interests and talents. Parents should respect their children's individuality and encourage them to pursue their dreams, rather than imposing expectations that are too high or not in line with their interests.
This kind of respect can make children feel accepted and understood, so that they are more motivated to explore and achieve their dreams.
It has to be said that in this era of fierce competition, raising children seems to have become a silent battle, and every family is trying not to be left behind. Under this pressure, parents often fall into a misconception - "over-upbringing".
They are constantly paving the way for their children, hoping that they will be free from all difficulties and challenges, but they do not realize that this practice is gradually losing the sense of relaxation that education should have.
We must face up to this problem.
First of all, the overprotection and intervention of parents actually deprives children of the opportunity for self-exploration and independent growth.
Children need to learn to face difficulties on their own, learn from them, and develop problem-solving skills. However, under the "**" parenting, children become dependent on their parents and lack autonomy and confidence to cope with challenges. In the long run, children may be negatively affected in terms of mental health, self-confidence, interpersonal relationships, etc.
However, overcoming "over-upbringing" is not easy.
Modern society has higher and higher expectations for children, and parents, driven by social pressure and competition, unconsciously become "**" parents. They are afraid that their children will encounter failures and that their children will fall behind, so they constantly interfere in their children's lives and decisions. But this practice is precisely an underestimation of the child's potential.
The key to solving this problem lies in parents' self-reflection and adjustment.
Parents need to learn to let go and give their children enough space and opportunities to try, fail, and grow on their ownIt is also important to set reasonable expectations and set goals based on the child's personality and abilities, rather than blindly striving for perfection.
In addition, it is important to encourage children to participate in household chores and solve problems independently, which helps to develop children's sense of responsibility and independence.
In conclusion, as parents, we need to recognize that excessive protection and intervention not only do not help children succeed, but can become a stumbling block in their development.
Our goal should be to raise a child who can think for themselves, face challenges bravely, and love life.
Only in this way can we truly reduce the burden of raising children, restore the sense of relaxation in education, and let children grow up healthily in a relaxed and happy environment.
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