My name is Li Mei, I am 48 years old, and I am an independent professional woman. I have lived alone in the city for many years, and I have a successful career, and I can get a monthly salary of 10,000 yuan. Although I have a rich life, I also longed to have a home.
My friend Su Ping kept persuading me to find a partner in time, so she introduced me to a blind date. The man's name is Zhang Qiang, and he is 54 years old, six years older than me. Su Ping said that Zhang Qiang's conditions are not bad, he has a house and a car, and he is a stable person. I didn't have much hope for a blind date, but since my friend introduced me like this, I decided to meet again.
I took the initiative to break the silence and introduce myself: "Hello, my name is Li Mei, I am 48 years old this year, and I am the head of a marketing department. He is mainly responsible for the company's marketing planning and sales management. ”
Zhang Qiang nodded and said, "Hello, my name is Zhang Qiang, I am 54 years old this year, and I work in sales in a small company. ”
I saw that his tone was a little low, so I said: "I can get 10,000 yuan a month's salary, and I can live a decent life." What about you?”
Zhang Qiang's face changed and said, "I am now in a small company, with a salary of 3,000 yuan per month. I know you earn more than I do, but I have a house and a car, and I can get by. ”
When I heard him say that, I didn't feel very comfortable. It stands to reason that the blind date is to see if it is suitable, and he talks about the conditions directly, which makes me feel that he is very concerned about money. But I smiled and said, "Oh, it looks like we're not working the same way." I used to work in a large company for many years, and now I have a good salary as a supervisor. You work hard, and the pressure of a small company should not be small, right?”
Zhang Qiang frowned and said, "I know that there is a big gap between large companies and small companies. The main pressure I am on now is that my income is not high and my life is okay. I see that your conditions are good, so I hope that we can share the living expenses equally in the future, and I can slowly bear more of the rest. ”
When I heard him say that, I felt very uncomfortable. I think he is too selfish, and he knows that I earn too much, and he still has to divide the living expenses equally, which is difficult for me to accept. But on the face, I still smiled and said, "Your conditions are indeed not as good as mine." I understand that you are in a difficult situation right now, but I find it a bit difficult for you to ask for an equal share of living expenses. I can understand you, but I hope you can be considerate of me. ”
Zhang Qiang nodded and said, "I understand your doubts, I did not think about the problem well just now, and I was too anxious." In fact, I personally am not short of money to spend, and my life is still passable. It's just that I heard you say that you have an income of 10,000 yuan, and I want to save as much as I can, so I ask for an equal share of living expenses. But it was really ill-thought out and caused you stress, and I apologize to you. ”
Seeing his sincere attitude, I also felt a little good in my heart. So he said, "Then let's start from the beginning." I don't care about what happened just now. My name is Li Mei, I am 48 years old, and I am currently a marketing supervisor. What about you?”
Zhang Qiang smiled and said: "My name is Zhang Qiang, 54 years old, and I work in sales in a small company. My biggest hobby is fishing, and I often go fishing alone to the lake in the suburbs. What about you, do you have any hobbies?”
I said, "I like to travel and often travel alone. I also like to read history books and learn about the history and culture of different countries. We don't have the same hobbies. ”
Zhang Qiang nodded and said, "Well, our hobbies are indeed different. But as long as two people have a good emotional foundation and different hobbies, it doesn't matter, but they can complement each other. As we get to know, there will be more common languages. ”
I smiled and said, "You're right, different hobbies can complement each other." So why do you like fishing?Isn't it lonely to fish alone?”
Zhang Qiang said: "I like fishing because it makes me feel calm. I went fishing alone and could enjoy some time alone. This laid-back makes me feel comfortable. And the sense of accomplishment of catching a fish is also very enjoyable. Do you think I'm a good character like that?”
I nodded and said, "I think you're a good person with such a steady and introverted personality." At least it looks more reliable than those who like to socialize.
You said you like to be alone, maybe the two of us are more compatible. I'm usually busy with work, and I like to be alone. ”
Zhang Qiang smiled and said, "Yes, I think our two personalities are indeed more compatible." You're so busy at work, and you need a space to relax in your own time. Maybe it's fate. By the way, you just said that you like to travel and often travel alone?Is it so adventurous?”
I nodded and said, "Yes, I especially like to travel alone, see the scenery everywhere, and experience different local cultures." I think traveling can broaden my horizons, so I go around by myself whenever I have time. Do you think it would be unsafe for a girl to travel alone?”
Zhang Qiang thought about it seriously and said: "Traveling alone does have some safety risks. But it also represents your independence and adventurous spirit, which I appreciate. It's just that if we're together, I still hope that you will take me more and let me also participate in your trip and keep you safe. ”
I smiled and said, "It seems that we don't think the same way." I'm a very independent person, and I still want to keep my own space. However, it is also good to travel together once in a while, and we can share what we have seen and heard together. ”
Zhang Qiang nodded and said, "Well, you're right, we should maintain our independence. But it is also possible to increase common topics by traveling together. This will require some compromise and concessions on both sides. ”
I thought for a moment and said, "You have a point. Relationships need to be fused, not divided. We all need to learn to be tolerant and understanding, rather than forcing the other person to fit in perfectly. I am willing to communicate and coordinate with you on travel issues, do you think it is okay?”
Zhang Qiang smiled and said, "Of course you can." The most important thing about feelings is understanding and tolerance. As long as we understand each other, other issues in life can be slowly reconciled. I have a lot of faith in my relationship now!”
Hearing him say this, I am also optimistic about this relationship. We chatted for more than an hour, and the atmosphere became more and more lively. Zhang Qiang is humorous and patient, and I had a great chat with him.
In the end, Zhang Qiang said: "Time flies so fast, I see that we have a very speculative conversation. Do you want to think about starting a formal relationship?”
I smiled and said, "We did talk very speculatively, and you made a good impression on me." However, it will take some time to think about the formal relationship, and we can meet a few times first to get to know each other better. Do you think it's okay?”
Zhang Qiang nodded and said, "You're right, we do need some more time. But I'm confident in my relationship. Learn more about it, and I'm sure we'll be more compatible. ”
I'm also looking forward to the relationship. We made an appointment to meet again next week and said goodbye with a smile.