"Okay, it's girlfriends, if it's bad, it's enemy friends. ”
This is a hot stalk that was popular on the Internet some time ago, and it is very suitable to describe the changes in the relationship between "girlfriends".
The girl @张怡娜anna never thought that one day she would make her fate change drastically because of a move by her best friend.
One day in 2022, her best friend at the time called ** for help, saying that she had a quarrel with her boyfriend.
Because she was worried about her best friend's safety, she immediately rushed to the scene.
The girlfriend who broke down and cried, and the scene of the mess showed everywhere that this was a fierce quarrel.
But she didn't expect that the next quarrel that had nothing to do with her almost ruined her life. At that time, my best friend and her boyfriend quarreled so much that they couldn't listen to her advice at all. She stood on her best friend's side, and was unconsciously forced to get involved in the "battlefield". Maybe she felt that the two women were out of one nostril, and her best friend's boyfriend was angry and smashed a glass at her. When the sound of the glass shattering, she felt a sharp pain in her eyes, and then a blur. 
Immediately, she was taken to the hospital. The doctor told her that her eyeball was shattered. How much brute force did it take to smash an eyeball?What is the deep hatred that needs to be solved in such a ** way?The doctor stitched her more than 30 stitches inside and out of her eyes. 
I can't imagine how much it hurts!Usually, if an eyelash falls into the eye, it will be rubbed for a long time, what is the difference between this and torture?However, this is not the worst. She was diagnosed with a second-degree serious injury and the ophthalmologist recommended direct removal of the eyeball. 
This means that one of her eyes, is useless. As a result, her sky collapsed!From then on, she couldn't see the face of the world like a normal person. Her job search will be restricted everywhere, and her life will hit a wall everywhere. And all this, just because of a persuasion, her life was completely ruined!The family couldn't accept it at all, and took her to various hospitals. Wait, long ordeal. She suffered almost all her sins. But the miracle did not happen. Her eyeballs gradually atrophied and eventually were removed. 
The loss of an eye is difficult for any normal person to accept. What's more, she is still a young girl who loves beauty, and she suffered a flying disaster. From then on, she could only wear a prosthetic eye. 
Nothing will happen if you don't get involved in someone else's business. If you don't care about each other, you won't suffer at all. She lived in agony all day long, regretting her actions that day. More chilling things are yet to come. When she was grieving the loss of an eye, her "best friend" actually reconciled with her boyfriend!Leaning on each other, smiling and smiling, as if nothing had happened. 
Seeing this scene, she was even more disgusting than eating. "I dragged you out of the quagmire and away from the scum at the cost of one eye, and at the moment I lived like a joke. She was more angry at her best friend's behavior than at the pain in her eyes. Not only hates helping the wrong person, but also hates the shamelessness and selfishness of the other party. Since the two of them are locked up, why did they ask her for help in the first place?I knew that I was blind in one eye, and I was helping such a woman, even if she was beaten to death by her boyfriend, she didn't bother to pay attention to it. In order to vent this breath, she filed a complaint and sent her "best friend's" boyfriend to court. In the end, the court sentenced the other party to four and a half years in prison and 100,000 yuan in compensation. 
But these 100,000 can no longer be exchanged for her bright eyes, and she can't buy her normal life. After reading this story, I feel bad. The evil ghost who hurts people is in prison, but the disgusting ghost girlfriend is still living a chic and happy life. This girl uses her own painful lesson to tell everyone a truth:Let go of the complex of helping others and respect the fate of others. You dig out your heart and lungs and act as someone else's "savior", and in the end, others don't appreciate it, but you make a fuss. You have real feelings, make choices for others, and as a result, others are slightly unsatisfactory, and blame you. Everyone has a life. Some people are going to slide into the abyss, and if you pull him, it is likely that you will be dragged into the abyss. 
There's a saying that's well said:"Don't sympathize with anyone, even those closest to you, because with whom your subconscious will automatically bear their lives. ”I've seen a piece of news before. Late one night, Ms. Zhang from Chongqing received a ** from her best friend. , the other party told her with a crying voice that she was beaten by her husband and asked her to hurry up to save her life. Ms. Zhang and her family were a little hesitant, after all, it was late at night, and it was not good to participate rashly. But on the other side, her best friend cried louder and louder, and in the spirit of her friend's righteousness, she and her husband rushed to her best friend's house.
As a result, after arriving, the girlfriend hid and didn't see anyone at all. Ms. Zhang's husband stepped forward and asked his best friend's husband: Why are you hitting someone?How can a person with a tendency to domestic violence listen to such a question?Before he could say a word, he brought him a great calamity. The other party attacked him like crazy, picked up the bench and smashed it on him, and both benches were interrupted. After Ms. Zhang's husband escaped, the other party did not give up, chased after her with a car, and threw him with stones. A red-eyed look. If it weren't for the help of well-wishers, Ms. Zhang's husband might not have been able to escape. After diagnosis, Ms. Zhang's husband had a large number of bruises on his waist, three broken ribs, and injured his lungs.
Because of the serious illness, they have already spent more than 40,000 yuan, and they have no money for the follow-up ** and recovery costs, so they can't get it.
After the incident, the beater was quickly controlled, and what awaited him was the severe punishment of the law. But what Ms. and Mrs. Zhang couldn't figure out the most was their best friend's approach. Before the incident, friends hid and told them to face the hurt. After the incident, after my girlfriend took some money to visit the hospital, she could no longer be contacted. Because they had no money, Ms. Zhang and his wife could only borrow money**, and their intestines were repentant. They almost lost their lives for their best friend, but she disappeared without a trace. If they had chosen to call the police for her at the moment they received **, instead of getting involved themselves, they might not have suffered this kind of unwarranted disaster. Out of kindness and kindness, they intervened in other people's marriages and stuck knives in the ribs for their friends, but they didn't expect that it was the person who stabbed them in the back the most. In fact, what happened to Ms. Zhang and her husband happens every day. You accompany your lovelorn friend to get drunk late at night, act as her emotional trash can, and scold the scumbag. As a result, she easily forgave the other party, you are not human inside and out. You persuade the cheating friend to divorce and seriously help her think of a way out. As a result, she returns to the family and goes around saying that you are jealous of her happiness. Out of kindness and justice, you mixed with other people's emotions, automatically took the fate of others, and as a result, your own life was also messed up. Psychological counselor @Yixin teacher said: No matter how good the relationship is, don't make decisions for them in marriage easily. She came to you and asked you for advice, you persuaded her, she left, and she will blame you for her difficult days in the future, once she has a bad time. If you persuade her not to leave, then she will be suffocated and desperate in her marriage in the future, and you will be blamed for pressing her and not letting her divorce. This is naked human nature. You have made a decision for a person, and you have invisibly taken on her future life, can you bear it?She complains about you when you're having a bad time, and she can't think of you at all when you're having a good time, can you accept it?If you are kind, will the other party really accept and appreciate it all?Therefore, it is good to let go of the complex of helping others and respect the fate of others. As a friend, all you can do is listen and relieve, not help her make choices. After all, a person's life path must be walked by himself, and no matter how much others do, it will consume their own useless work.
There is a plot in Dream of Red Mansions. In order to treat his daughter, Wang Xifeng slept in a separate room with Jia Lian, and Jia Lian took the opportunity to fool around with a woman. Wang Xifeng asked the personal maid Ping'er to check Jia Lian's bed to see if there were any handkerchiefs, hair and other women's things. Ping'er found a strand of woman's hair, but she didn't say anything and quietly put it away.
This detail vividly reflects Ping'er's intelligence. She did not intervene in the struggle between Sister Feng and Jia Lian, and chose to stay alone. In this way, she will not be hated by Jia Lian, and she will avoid the contradictions and disputes between Sister Feng and Jia Lian, and she will not be involved in it. I am reminded of a story that Nan Huaijin said. When he was younger, he was stupid, and a newlywed couple had a quarrel and wanted him to judge him. He told the woman: This is the problem with his friend, he is not doing it right, you are angry. Then say to the man: Women are like this, ** is not good, you take care of it. As a result, the next day, the two of them slept together, and it was okay. So, they each talked about Nan Huaijin's negative evaluation of them, and finally the two of them resented him together. Therefore, Nan Huaijin concluded that when the couple quarrels, go away and don't persuade. For other couples, no matter how good your relationship is, you are an outsider after all. Inseparable, that's the truth. Some people don't hit the south wall and don't look back. People cannot be woken up, only by pain. Whether you are stuck in a quagmire or fall into the abyss, you have to experience it yourself to wake up. And what you have to do is to be yourself and not easily intervene in the lives of others.