Vinny Sha Tu Nisha
Marriage is one of life's biggest challenges, and choosing the right partner is the key to happiness. "As parents, we all want our children to find a happy home.
However, in real life, some families, even if they have money, may bring misfortune to their children's marriages.
Therefore, I would like to tell all parents that when you choose a partner for your children, you must be wary of these five types of families. The problem of these families is not only money, but also involves character, family style, etc.
In order to avoid difficulties in our children's marital life, we need to guide them to take a hard look at these five aspects of each other's family.
1. Families with improper family style and morally corrupt morals
If the family style is right, the children are right, and if the family style is evil, the children are evil. ”
A family's ethos and morals have a subtle impact on the growth of children. If the other party's family is not right, morally corrupt, such as disrespecting the old and loving the young, dishonesty and trustworthiness, then this family environment is likely to have a negative impact on the children's values.
For example, one of my distant relatives married into a family with bad morals. After getting married, she found that her husband and in-laws often lied and did not keep their promises, which led to her being wronged in her marriage. Eventually, she couldn't stand this life anymore and chose to divorce.
2. Families that are overly spoiled and have incompetent children
Habitual son is like a killer. ”
Overdoting families tend to raise children who are highly dependent and lack autonomy.
If the other family's family is overly spoiled by the child and unconditionally accommodates whatever the child asks, then this family environment is likely to make the child lack a sense of responsibility and independence in the marriage.
This happened to the sister of a friend of mine. Her husband was overly spoiled by his family since he was a child, resulting in him being unable to take on family responsibilities in his marriage and not even basic life skills. This makes their married life full of quarrels and dissatisfaction.
3. Money is paramount, and the family ignores feelings
Families who are overly money-conscious tend to ignore the importance of relationships and relationships. If the other party's family values money more than feelings, such as often quarreling over money, or even sacrificing the happiness of their children for money, then this kind of family environment is likely to make their children indifferent and utilitarian in marriage.
One of my neighbor's daughters married into such a family. After getting married, she found that her husband and in-laws only cared about money and were indifferent to her feelings and needs. Eventually, she chose to divorce after she couldn't stand this cold and utilitarian life.
Fourth, lack of communication, strained families
Home and everything is prosperous. ”
A harmonious family requires good communication to maintain the relationship between family members. If there is a lack of communication between the other party's family, tension between family members, or even violence, then this family environment is likely to make it impossible for children to establish a good intimate relationship in marriage.
One of my relatives had been through such a marriage. Her husband comes from a family that lacks communication, and the two often quarrel and even have a cold war after marriage. Eventually, she couldn't stand the endless bickering and chose to divorce.
Fifth, the door is not the right household, and it is difficult to integrate the family
"Door to door" is a very important criterion in traditional Chinese concepts. Although modern society has become more and more open, the concept of being the right person still affects people's marriage choices to a certain extent.
If there are big differences between the backgrounds, life Xi habits, and values of the two families, then this difference is likely to cause conflicts and conflicts in married life.
A friend of mine once experienced a failed marriage because he didn't have the right household. She and her husband come from different social classes and family backgrounds, and after marriage, there are great differences between the two in terms of life Xi habits and values. These disagreements eventually led to the breakdown of their marriage.
Conclusion:
Choosing a partner is not just about choosing a person, it's about choosing a family. ”
As parents, we need to remind our children to take a hard look at all aspects of each other's family when choosing a partner. The above five types of families, no matter how much money the other party has, should not easily choose to marry in. Because the happiness of marriage depends not only on money, but also on the harmony and warmth of the family.