Recently, Dong Yuhui's small essay incident has continued to ferment, allowing us to have a workplace appearance.
The matter started with the "backstabbing" Dong Yuhui, explicitly implying that the copywriting that was out of the circle was written by the team.
Then Dongfang Selection CEO Sun Dongxu appeared, slammed his mobile phone on the table angrily during the live broadcast, and educated netizens to "don't engage in fan circle culture", and finally solemnly declared:
The company did not treat Dong Yuhui badly, and Yuhui's annual salary is more than tens of millions as reported on the Internet.
This move caused everyone's anger, and they began to crusade against Dongfang Selection and the management of New Oriental Fang, and spoke for Dong Yuhui, a senior worker representative.
In the end, Yu Minhong was forced to enter, dismissed Sun Dongxu, apologized to Yuhui in a low profile, and set up an independent studio for Yuhui, and was promoted to 3 levels in a row.
But this year's netizens didn't buy it, and ridiculed New Oriental for rising and falling:
The last time such an embarrassing appointment was Journey to the West's Bi Ma Wen.
Luo Yonghao, a former worker from New Oriental, also entered the scene and began to bombard Dongfang Selection in live broadcast e-commerce, which is the most unfair, absurd, and phenomenal company that bullies and oppresses young people it has ever seen.
and made a generous speech on "whether Dong Yuhui should be grateful".
Lao Luo's point of view, simply put, is that private enterprises should not easily talk about gratitude, it is a win-win thing for each to rely on their ability and cooperation, and if the company requires employees to "be grateful", it is to manipulate others.
It is obvious that "Sun Dongxu cue Dong Yuhui is grateful" is appropriate"PUA in the workplace"。
Then netizens also picked up that Ni Ping had criticized Sun Dongxu in the live broadcast room for "being content", you must know that without Dong Yuhui, you can cash out 200 million!
Things have developed so far, and everyone is basically one-sided in support of Dong Yuhui, but X-chan feels that it is not so much that everyone empathizes with Dong Yuhui's experience, but that we project the grievances and anger we received in the workplace onto each other.
In the workplace, such as "drawing a pie", "gratitude education", "loyalty test", "suppressive manipulation", etc., are young people still less experienced?
The "2020 Survey Report on the Living Conditions of White-collar Workers" released by Zhaopin.com has shown that there are 6365% of the respondents said that they had experienced "workplace PUA", and personality derogation, use of pies, beautification and oppression, unjustified job transfers, and unreasonable work arrangements are all PUA routines. Today, X-chan will come to talk to you about "workplace PUA".
What is PUA in the workplace?"PUA" is the abbreviation of the English "pickingupartist", literally translated as "pick-up artist", PUA originally refers to the relationship between the sexes through deception**, deception of the opposite**, to achieve the purpose of having a relationship with the opposite sex. "Workplace PUA" can be understood as workplace bullying, which refers more to a kind of mental control. It is usually manifested as the leader's criticism and negation of his subordinates, constantly destroying the self-confidence and judgment of his subordinates, and then completely controlling his subordinates and becoming a tool for being oppressed by the leader. In the Japanese drama "We Who Can't Be Beasts", the heroine Shen Haijing is a typical PUA person in the workplace. 
Japanese drama "We Who Can't Be Beasts" She is a small assistant in an IT company, although her status in this company is humble and inconspicuous, but after the resignation of the leadership secretary and sales manager, she inexplicably took on a lot of non-part work. Shen Haijing thought that her hard work and pressure would be seen by her boss, but she didn't expect her boss to consider her difficulties at all, and continued to squeeze her with the words "those who can work harder". When her colleagues saw the attitude of their bosses, they also saw the wind and steered her and bullied her even harder. The repetition of the bad things day after day made Shen Haijing begin to question the meaning of work, the meaning of life, and even at a certain moment, she thought about jumping off the railroad tracks and ending her life's ......Here we must clarify: not all leaders scolding, adding tasks, chatting about ideals, etc., are workplace PUAs. Some leaders' style may be to criticize openly, criticize loudly, have ambitions, etc., but their starting point is to urge employees to do their jobs better, and they are not manipulative or harmfulWorkplace PUA is different, it destroys employees' self-confidence, judgment and self-will, and it aims to completely manipulate employees or otherwise. Netizen @王Moumou: "I originally thought that the leader was just a simple 'poisonous tongue', but he has the ability and experience, so I work every day with the mentality of learning more and accept his advice." Unexpectedly, after the department layoffs, my workload soared, the business was unfamiliar, mistakes were frequent, and the leaders began to ridicule me in various ways, questioning my work ability, and then directly scolded me for being ugly and stupid. "There is an essential difference between the two.
What are the PUAs in the workplace?Don't underestimate the harm of PUA in the workplace, it will shatter the dreams of newcomers in the workplace, make people "feel like going to work", and more seriously, it will evolve into unspoken rules in the workplace, workplace bullying and so on. Let's take some typical examples of PUA in the workplace. (1) Write a bad checkIn the workplace, there are many leaders who constantly paint a beautiful vision for employees in order to let them work hard to achieve the purpose of paying the least cost and getting the greatest return on manpower. However, the promises made are never fulfilled, and they will only "draw a big pie" to make employees "hungry", and use this as bait to make employees willing to be cannon fodder for the company's development and create value for themselves. (2) Beautify the act of exploitation"The company arranged for you to work in this class, not all because it values you" "The company wants to train you, but others want this opportunity." "Young people should not be afraid of hardships and be enterprising. Some leaders often use similar chicken soup for the soul for employees, and find a fair excuse for themselves to squeeze employees for granted, which is called "giving you a chance to exercise". 
(3) Continued denial and suppression"Who are you fooling?As far as the garbage plan you do, just find someone to replace you" "Love to do it, don't like to do it!"."Leaders blindly deny employees' works or plans, but never put forward constructive suggestions, employees lose self-confidence after repeated denial and humiliation by leaders, and begin to doubt their own ability and self-denial. In such a self-denying mentality, employees who feel guilty about their bosses still feel that they are not working hard enough, even if they continue to be suppressed, but in the end, employees find that no matter how hard they try, they cannot win the favor of their leaders, and eventually fall into a vicious circle of "learned helplessness". (4) Deliberately creating anxiety"You know how bad the environment is out there right now?It's not easy to find a job without you!"With such an education of yours, if you weren't in a hurry to hire people, our company wouldn't want it at all!."Some leaders often use information asymmetry to "fool" employees, by exaggerating the bad and uncertain external environment, as well as the disadvantages of employees themselves, to set off the stability and security of their own companies, so as to cause employees' anxiety and sense of crisis to mislead employees, and induce employees to continue to stay in their own companies to accept exploitation and oppression. 
The reason why these routines are so useful is that they capture the psychology of people in the workplace.
People who are susceptible to PUA in the workplacePeople who are susceptible to workplace PUA often have these things in common. (1) Lack of self-confidence deep downMost of them have a deep-seated belief that "I'm not good enough" and are desperate to be noticed and affirmed by others. This may be related to past growth experiences, it may be parents who have habitual denial and suppression of their children, or they may have encountered major setbacks, or they may be newcomers in the workplace, who are themselves in the stage of ignorance. In order to try to avoid this self-denial, they will constantly want to prove themselves at work and try to meet the expectations of others, especially if they are a leader who makes good use of PUA. (2) Work-oriented, with a relatively lack of external support systemsIf a person's focus is mostly on work, or even work has become the only straw for him to prove his worth, then when others keep instilling those unreasonable ideas, it is difficult for him to have a multiple evaluation system to sort out these and look at the event itself more objectively, and then he will be PUA by the other party. 
How to hack PUA in the workplace?(1) Establish a pluralistic evaluation systemWhen you have been ridiculed and denied by your boss at work for a long time and fall into self-doubt, you can expand your personal evaluation system, such as asking your colleagues and friends, in their eyes, how is your work ability?What do they think you're doing well?What are the deficiencies?This will help you see more of your new self and understand yourself objectively from multiple perspectives. (2) Enhance self-identityThe reason why other people's PUA works just shows that you have been poked at the pain point - low self-evaluation. Building a sense of self-identity is a long process, just as your low self-esteem doesn't form overnight, and you need to make some new attempts to break it. You can take out a piece of paper, write down the comments your boss has made about you, and then ask yourself: What is the evidence to support this evaluation?What is the evidence that does not support this assessment?If it were someone else, what level would they be able to achieve?This makes it clearer that there is a difference between the leader's evaluation and the objective facts. (3) Learn to adjust in a timely mannerIn the workplace, many people are under psychological pressure from multiple sources. For example, the anxiety of workplace growth, the pressure of work, and the psychological pressure must be solved in time. In normal times, communicate more with relatives and friends around you, develop more hobbies, and challenge physical fitness. By releasing the stress of life and work in these ways, your mind will be clearer, you will have a clearer understanding of the workplace environment you are in, and you will be able to deal with it with a more positive attitude. If you are sure that you are suffering from PUA in the workplace, you can take up the law to protect yourself, and then restart a new career path for yourself. So how resilient are you in the workplace?Is it a novice in the workplace?Or is it a dark personality?Enter the [Solution X] applet for this test to see your dark personality in the workplace [Free].
Write at the endThe workplace is a place that pays attention to creating value and win-win cooperation, if you focus on the manipulation of people's hearts and the struggle of personnel, then the enterprise will die sooner or later. The workplace should return to its essence, and employees hope that leaders can engage in some pure capitalism, instead of being "gratitude education", "loyalty education", "painting pies" and other means to PUA into "leeks". After all, creating value is at the heart of the workplace. Employees realize their self-worth in the enterprise, and gratitude to the enterprise is affection, not duty, but the enterprise uses this to hold employees hostage, which is a bit too much. Author: kkTypesetting: kk