The poem of "Haizi": When you come to the world, you want to look at the sun and walk on the street with your beloved.
Nine sides said: To come to this world is to experience, to experience all kinds of beautiful things. Or as far as you can, try to experience it.
Imagine one day, when you are about to hang up, you realize that your life is no different from that of an animal. I've never played anything in my life, it's really in vain, and the tragic thing is that this is the end for most people.
Jiubian, Jiubian, is a famous writer, self-****, and an executive of a Fortune 500 company. It's been very popular in the past few years, and Brother Bastard is also talking about nine sides in the number.
Nine sides live a sober life.
But the vast majority of people, alive, are living with a twist. I can't give it up, I can't think about it, I can't let it go. Most of the time, I am repeatedly entangled by the obsession in my heart.
All kinds of comparisons, especially when people reach middle age, compare with their husbands, children, jobs, parents, and all kinds of comparisons.
In his new book, he gives an example of this.
oneYoung mothers are very happy with their children and once felt that their children were geniuses. Speak early and read a lot. Until one day, I participated in a symposium on "Haidian Mother". The whole worldview was shattered.
She thinks that her baby can memorize 200 English words at such a young age, which is amazing. But a mother's child will3000 pcswords, she was very anxious, and other parents also echoed it.
Then the mother introduced a lot of her child's specialties. The young mom was not good. Such a baby compared to himself is not even ordinary in this group of children. When I got home, I didn't want to see my child, so it took me a long time to recover.
Later, she realized that she had too high expectations of herself, for example, she worked hard to get into 985, and half of the class really played. What I have worked hard to figure out, some people are born to understand.
There are also people who have the same attitude towards the country,"Now we have to win everything.", compared with the United States, compared with Japan, compared with Europe, anyway, to win.
As soon as I got out of school, it was difficult to find a job, and it was hard to find a job, and it was difficult to describe the job. Thinking that he could be good in the company for a few years, he found that the salary of the old employees who had worked for 5 years was not much higher than his own.
Rent a room, and within a few months, I found that the second landlord ran away from the rent, and the police found that it could not be solved. After a few more years, I found that the people I had looked down on were better than me. I immediately felt that something was wrong with this society.
Expectations fell to the freezing point, and they began to yearn for foreign countries, and they wanted to go but couldn't. Later, the expectations dropped so much that after a while it was found that the country was not so bad, and the pride was rekindled.
People, once you set your expectations too high, the world can't keep up with your expectations, and your worldview will collapse sooner or later.
But after the collapse, the expectations also collapsed, and then the reality was a little higher than the new expectations, and after a few years, you felt better again.
This cycle is called"God is free from duality".
The country I love can also be imperfect. The people I love can also be imperfect. My husband can be imperfect, my children can be imperfect.
Accept reality, face it, lower expectations, admit your own imperfections and ordinary, and also admit the ordinariness of others.
It's not about comparing yourself to others, it's about admitting that those things are not right in themselves, and then solving them, it's as simple as that.
If you make progress in your life instead of standing still, you will eventually find that what you love or hate may seem wrong.
If your patriotism is inspired by the false pride that arises from comparison with other countries, then sooner or later reality will shatter that pride in you.
In a word, most of the pain of adults is compared to it.
If you like this and that, then you will find that there really isn't much joy in life. Actually, there's nothing you can't get by.
Don't envy, don't compare, be calm, recognize your own boundaries, be more grateful for life and less harsh, and set goals one inch lower.
Jiubian proposed ways to be happy, for example, to set fewer high goals. Because people's faith and will are the result of training, they need to be constantly fed through small goals.
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Jiubian himself has a wide range of interests, including politics, people's livelihood, humanities, history, psychology, etc. An ordinary person, how to achieve things, how to grow flexibly, and finally grow upward. His books seem to be relatively boring, but the perspective is unique, and the complex rules of survival are narrated under his pen, and I have benefited a lot after reading them. If you like the baby stamp the product card in the text, you can buy it!
About the author: Liu Qigongzi, also known as Liu Rumei, a member of the Shandong Provincial Writers Association, has published works such as "Xiao He's Struggle Notes", "Wait for me to put down my lovesickness, allow you to wander the world", "The most beautiful years meet the most beautiful ancient poems", "A night of cold rain, half a lifetime of duckweed: Nalan Rongruo's biography" and other works. If you like my article, welcome to like and follow. ** **Network invasion and deletion!The articles in this number are all original by Liu Qigongzi, like to contact Kaibai, do not carry!