The child is 11 years old, diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and now he is not going to school, and his mood is not very stable
Asterotic is a type of child's personality trait. Such children tend to have poor interpersonal skills, self-immersion, stereotypes, depression, anxiety, etc. The anxiety of an asterotic child is indeed hidden, but it is also very severe, and the anxiety of an asterotic child is more severe and more severe than that of ordinary anxiety. For example, if others speak loudly, or do radio gymnastics, loudspeakers play **, etc., the children will be so nervous.
For children in primary school and junior high school, when they hear something interesting, or when the loudspeaker broadcasts gymnastics, he can feel an atmosphere, but for some Ass children, when they hear these normal volume broadcasts, they will be nervous and uneasy, and even some children who have just entered the first grade, at this time, will run around, no matter how the teacher criticizes and educates, he can't control it, and even wants to find a place to hide.
Therefore, for the children of As, the tension caused by many factors in the environment is always there. Intervention and counselling are needed to help them get through this hurdle.
Some Ass children, if they are too nervous, will be overly excited or overly inhibited. Over-excitement will make the child always speak inappropriately, get angry, overly inhibited, and the child will also have the problem of silence and slowness. For example, the teacher said that if everyone puts the Xi exercise book in the schoolbag and takes out the English book, other children may immediately follow the teacher's instructions, but for the Ass child, it takes many steps and will be carried out slowly. Maybe other children have already started reading aloud, and the Ass child's Xi book is still on the table, and the English book is not known. This is actually the child's excessive nervousness or self-immersion caused by the distraction, and the child's executive ability is also impaired to a certain extent.
Therefore, if the Asteric child, especially the girl, reaches the age of eleven or twelve, if he has not received various interventions before, he is prone to anxiety and depression at this stage. If the child's anxiety level is too high, he will be more nervous when he goes to school, and he will be more nervous than when he was at home, and he will even keep denying himself, and the child's depression problem will be very serious.
In this case, the most important thing is to relieve the child's anxiety and depression first, and then solve the problem of the child's boredom in school.
Asterotic children need recognition of their self-worthasperger syndrome
After entering the sixth grade, the Astor child often refused to go to school, shouting that he was stressed every day, and kept rubbing his hands vigorously. Parents and teachers are also very tolerant of him and have no requirements, but he will put a lot of pressure on himself, feeling that the people around him are very "rolled", but he has no motivation.
If this is the case, the problems that children are facing now are not entirely because of As, but the tension, anxiety, and insecurity in the child's heart are still very strong. There are some Asteric children who do demand a lot from themselves, will be rigid and constantly compare themselves with others, and will not relax themselvesTherefore, the child will gradually feel that the school atmosphere is very tense, and he will be very stressed.
The sixth grade child has begun to enter puberty, if the child is still like this, we need to help him relieve his anxiety first, let him manage and adjust his emotions well, in addition, we need to give the child a certain amount of self-confidence, so that the child has confidence in himself.
In the whole environment, it is still in a state of "rolling", my family is "rolling", and my classmates are also "rolling". I had a visitor before, a middle school student, in a very good school, and he worked very hard to Xi, and his grades were okay Xi school, but through communication, I had a feeling of one word - tired.
This also means that the child's sense of competition is still very strong. When a child sees that his efforts have come to fruition, he will be in a state of full resurrection, but some children will also be very anxious and unhappy if they do well in the exam. Because he feels that if he did well in the exam this time, he will definitely do better in the exam next time, what if he is surpassed by others?What if I don't do well in the next test?In the long run, children will be very concerned about the results of the exams and the question of who is better than whom. This will cause the child to be in a very unconfident and self-denying state in terms of self-awareness.
If the child's anxiety is too strong, he may not be able to focus all his energy on Xi in the future, and may not be willing to go to school. This is a situation that every parent does not want to see.
Anxiety is something that everyone can have, For example, before the exam, appropriate anxiety is very beneficial to the child's attention improvement, improve the state of Xi, etc., but the anxiety is excessive, beyond the threshold, the anxiety plays a completely opposite role. The state of the child is confused and panicked, it is easy to learn nothing and can't learn anything, want to learn but can't learn, sit there, think about it.
Like a fawn, it can't be completely focused on learning Xi. This state indicates that the child is in a state of excessive anxietyThis excessive anxiety can also make the child constantly deny himself, and then form a vicious circle。Therefore, parents should pay more attention to the state of their children, and seek professional help in time when their children have problems, rather than rushing to the doctor and letting them develop.
In fact, Astor children need recognition of their self-worth。In general, the self-recognition of the Asterotic child is not enough. Although he is very confident in some aspects, for example, some children, when they are young, they are more and more unconfident about scientific knowledge, mathematics, etc., but slowly in group life, they feel less and less confident, especially some children, he has a Xi habit of talking to himself, or reacts inappropriately, after reaching the fifth or sixth grade, he will suddenly feel different from others, feel that everyone is laughing at him, saying that he is a weird, stupid, etc., and the child's heart will also be very hurt.
If there are classmates and peers that the child encounters are particularly naughty and often bully others, then the child is very vulnerable to school bullying in both primary and junior high schools.
Therefore, it is very important to enhance the self-worth of children with astral quality.
Asteroquality requires professional emotional intelligence trainingasperger syndrome
For example, the teacher left a lot of homework, and the Astor child writes slowly and not smoothly, but if he must be strict with how regular and fast he writes, this is actually a blow to the child's emotional intelligence ability. We need to encourage our children and recognize their confidence in writingDon't pursue his speed and specific standards, but firmly believe that as long as the child insists on writing, there will definitely be gains.
Therefore, the cultivation of emotional intelligence is to make children realize that although I write slowly, I can continue to write without fear of difficulties, and my parents are so supportive of me, no matter how the teacher criticizes meMy parents stood behind me and supported me。In this way, the child has the backbone in his heart, and through professional training, the child's emotional intelligence ability can be gradually cultivated.
Ace is just a child's character foundation, and we must help children improve through professional emotional intelligence trainingHowever, if the pressure from the outside world is too great, it will cause the child's anxiety and depression to fluctuate on the basis of As's personality, causing the child's situation to become very serious.
Therefore, when a child has a problem, there may be two judgments, one is at the symptom level, such as depression, anxiety, mania, obsessive-compulsive, etc., and the other is at the personality level, like Astero.
Compared with other children, the emotional intelligence cultivation of the Asterotic child is somewhat backward, but it also has his own characteristicsParents must control their emotions, control their angry voices, and lower their expectations for their children。It's not that now that expectations are lowered, it means that the child is not good, but that the growth rhythm of each child is different, and finding the rhythm of each child is the key to proceeding step by step.