What kind of friends to make, we can choose;What kind of relatives we have, we can't choose. However, not all relatives will have good intentions towards you.
Some relatives, under the guise of blood relations, take advantage of you, hurt and deceive you, and even take it for granted, without gratitude.
Not all relatives treat you like a relative. There are several kinds of relatives, even if they are close in blood, they try to have as little contact as possible.
When a loved one is in trouble, when we have the ability, we try to lend a helping hand as much as possible, but we must also remember that no matter what the relationship, it is the duty of others to help you, but it is not the duty of others, and you should know how to be grateful.
In reality, some relatives always feel that you are in trouble, you should help him, without considering your situation, you have money, you have to help him as a matter of course.
It's just that some ungrateful people always think that they can do whatever they want if they are related to your relatives, borrow your money, never mention it, owe you debts, and turn their faces and deny it, such relatives will not only not remember your good, but will also go around promoting your bad.
This type of relative is the most annoying. helped him not know how to be grateful, borrowed money and did not pay it back, crossed the river and demolished the bridge.
But in life, not everyone sees you well. This is true even for relatives.
When you are lonely, he can reach out to you;When you are proud, he grits his teeth with hatred.
If your family conditions are good, they will flatter you, if your family conditions are average, they will snub you in all kinds of ways, if you are very capable, they will please you in all kinds of ways, if you are not as good as him, all kinds of ridicule and ridicule you.
This kind of relative is not only poor, but also poor. In fact, the more high-level people are, the more they will appreciate each other and achieve each other;Narrow-minded people will hate and envy the success of others and do things that dismantle and slander.
These relatives will not really think about you, they will only calculate and use you, and even when you are better off than him, they will slander you in all kinds of ways, and make you unable to get off the stage in front of others, in fact, such relatives will have no effect on you, and will even hurt you, so it is better to stay away as soon as possible.
Between relatives, no matter how close the relationship is, it is necessary to maintain a reasonable distance and respect each other's boundaries, so as not to stab each other like two hedgehogs that are too close.
But around us, there will always be some relatives like this, who should be in charge of what they should be in charge of, and who should not be in charge of what should not be in charge, and they must also stick a sideways. If you show even the slightest dissatisfaction, they will be emotionally kidnapped.
The most appropriate way to get along with relatives is not to distinguish between you and me, but to be familiar with each other. We must treat others as others, treat ourselves as ourselves, know how to advance and retreat, and know how to measure.
If a relative relies on blood relations, does not treat himself as an outsider, and wantonly disturbs without a sense of boundaries, and gives what he wants, no one will not be annoyed by this.
Relatives who don't know how to measure will only disrupt the rhythm of your life and bring you only trouble, so why bother to get too close and add trouble to yourself!