With the continuous progress of society, modern people's attitude towards remarriage in old age is more tolerant and open. Sadly, however, not all stories of remarriage in old age have a happy ending.
Aunt Zheng, who is over sixty years old, said with emotion: "I used to live alone for a long time, and then decided to try to remarry. My newly married partner generously provided $5,000 a month for living expenses, but after half a year, I found that I could no longer bear to spend my old age with him, and I had had enough of him. This is her sentiment about a past experience.
My surname is Zheng, and now I am 60 years old, looking back on my life, it can be described as twists and turns, quite bumpy.
Looking at the first half of my life, it is full of twists and turns. When I was a child, I was a girl but I was not loved by my family. After graduating from high school, I was forced to leave my hometown to make ends meet and devote myself to a part-time job. I met someone who was okay with me, and we spent dozens of years making do.
gave birth to a son, but unfortunately did not achieve much. He went to college ordinarily, got married ordinarily, had children, and worked in an ordinary job. As a result, I became an ordinary person, and happiness became a luxury. It's a good thing that my child can come and see me during the Chinese New Year, and I don't expect much from him.
Time flies, and in an instant my hands are covered with traces of time. used to smile and show a gentle style, but now under the smile, I can only hear others say that this is an old woman.
This is the true story of a 60-year-old woman with the surname Zheng. It can be seen from her past that she has experienced many ups and downs, and the difficulty of life has made her precocious step into society. Despite having a family, her ordinary experiences have made her desire for happiness even more indifferent. The traces of time have also left a deep imprint on her, an ordinary story in the lives of ordinary people.
I thought I had seen through all the things in the world, but what is the difference in old age?In the future, it may be just a bedding, a lonely land, and only a stone tablet will silently remember that I have left traces here.
However, it took me almost a decade after my husband passed away eight years ago before I realized the pain of living alone. A cold room where no one responds, cooking alone, dining alone, only going out to bask in the sun can you occasionally feel that you are still alive, and the feeling of loneliness is too heavy.
That's when I realized that even spending the rest of my life with a partner who made do with it was more comforting than being alone and single. So, I had the idea of finding another wife.
Frankly, I was a little hesitant at first, after all, I am not young and I am not financially well-off. I can only live on a pension of more than 2,000 yuan a month. In this competitive society, it can seem difficult to find a suitable partner.
However, not long after I registered with the marriage agency, I received a lot of ** from people expressing interest in me. I was very happy at first, but after several attempts, I couldn't find a suitable candidate. Until Lao Liu came into my life, he was about the same age as me, his family was wealthy, his appearance was dignified, and more importantly, he was very impressed by me.
Therefore, I chose to be with Lao Liu. In the process of getting along, I found that Lao Liu has a kind personality and no offensive bad Xi. He cared about me and gave me a sense of groundedness. So, after spending half a year together, we decided to get a marriage certificate.
Before getting married, Lao Liu told me that considering that my family is not very good, he is willing to provide 5,000 yuan a month for living expenses for free use, and he will not ask. Lao Liu's actions moved me a lot and made me happy. I secretly swore in my heart that I would treat Lao Liu well.
Frankly speaking, at the beginning, Lao Liu and I had a happy married life. Lao Liu never shirked his housework responsibilities because of providing living expenses, on the contrary, he was always by my side whenever I was busy. Sometimes, when I was sick, he would also take on the housework silently by himself.
What touched me even more was that Lao Liu still insisted on giving me gifts. Every weekend, he would take me out for a walk, instead of staying at home watching TV or sleeping. In the sun, we walked together, which made me feel the beauty of happiness.
Lao Liu's care for me makes me feel very lucky, and I feel that I can meet him in this life, and I am a bright light in my previous confusion. I was determined to live up to his expectations. However, after three months, Lao Liu suddenly changed his attitude and did something that was difficult for me to accept.
Lao Liu frequently went out with friends for entertainment, and every time he came home at eleven or twelve o'clock in the evening, I had already fallen asleep. However, he didn't seem to care if I was asleep or not, and simply asked me to get dressed, prepare dinner for him, and then ask me to wash his feet.
For the first three months, this happened only occasionally, so I didn't pay much attention to it. However, over time, this gradually changed from sporadic to frequent, which was difficult for me to accept.
One day, I inadvertently said, "You can do these things yourself, you don't have to let me come, I need a good night's sleep." ”
This is just my honest statement, but I didn't expect that as soon as I opened my mouth, Lao Liu scolded me loudly, accusing me of not being a good wife, and complaining. He even said what use am I?
What's worse is that from that day on, Lao Liu no longer provided living expenses, but asked me to bear my own expenses, claiming that he was short of money now, and he only borrowed money from me for the time being, and he would repay it twice when he had money in the future. This sound quite reasonable, and at first I was confused by his appearance, but I didn't expect it to last for three months.
What saddened me the most was that Lao Liu's attitude towards me later became very unfriendly. I also witnessed him having a great time talking to several women I didn't know. Once I asked him, who are those women?Instead of answering my questions, he scolded me for taking the time to peek at his phone and reprimanded me for more than two hours.
Originally, I expected to be able to join hands with Lao Liu, but in just half a year, Lao Liu has undergone such a huge change, which makes me unbearable. I really didn't want to spend the rest of my life with him, it was torture for me.
I thought I would find someone to bring light to my life for the rest of my life, but I never thought that it was just the last ray of light that came through before closing the coffin. I'm already feeling exhausted.
Therefore, I did not hesitate to file for divorce from him. At first, he made a lot of excuses and refused to agree to the divorce. However, at my insistence, he finally agreed.
After the divorce, I went back to living alone. I've thought about it, and I'm never going to look for a wife again. I still have some savings, and when I am seventy or eighty years old and unable to move, I will give all the savings to my son, and then go to my son's house to support the elderly.
Through my own experience, I would like to warn other seniors that it is most important to carefully choose the "right person" when getting married for the second time. In addition, we must follow a principle, that is, it is better to have less than to overuse. You can't get married in a hurry just because you desperately need to find a wife, otherwise you will only get yourself into misery.