The so-called: "The road turns with the heart, and the environment is created by the heart." ”
Really powerful people will not take the things and problems in the world to heart, because there is no need.
When a person's heart is easily seen by external things and problems, it is equivalent to aggravating the problem and making things worse.
There is nothing in the world, mediocrity disturbs itself, and really powerful people, even if they face problems and difficulties, will not be affected by them.
These people will only make the so-called problems more minimized and detailed, and then relax and relax, but have better curative effects.
Take the initiative to "look small" at the problem
Many people think that the reason why they have not handled the problem well is because they have a bad attitude, and they are not rigorous enough to treat the problem, not careful enough, and not enough to take it seriously.
But in fact, the reason why too many people have their emotional breakdown and their lives fall into chaos because of temporary problems and problems is that the attitude to solving problems is too fragile.
It's obviously a very small problem, but I just feel that the problem is very complicated and troublesome, so I think about it, look ahead, and don't dare to take action to solve it.
In the end, it was obviously a small problem, but the more it accumulated, the longer it was left over, and it became a big problem for them, so they didn't dare to face it and solve it.
Really good people will be good at taking problems as small and taking problems lightly.
Only in this way will you be more relaxed and more relaxed to face problems and deal with troubles.
Many times we will have such a feeling, or experience, that is, when we take action to do it, no matter how big the problem is, it seems to become smaller, as if it has become gone, and then it becomes handy.
It can be seen from this that the real big problems are always the problems of one's own action, and the so-called big problems outside are actually just small problems.
When you encounter a problem, find the reason and find the logic
Just like the writer Wang Xiaobo said, all human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence.
In the final analysis, the reason why most people are suffering is because when they encounter problems, they do not look for the cause, not to find the logic and solution to the solution, but to complain and complain.
These people never externalize the problem, but try to avoid the interference of solving the problem directly by whipping their own mind, denying their own mentality, and belittleing their own personality.
When a truly mature person encounters a problem, he does not blame himself or others, but objectively and rationally finds the cause and finds out the root cause.
If the direction of concentration is wrong, it will lead to the wrong result, and if the result is wrong, it will cause mental pain, which will only exacerbate the torment of one's own mentality.
In fact, any external problem is not a problem, but we must not develop it into an internal problem.
When people encounter problems that they can't solve, on the one hand, it is because they are really unprepared, and they have no corresponding experience and experience, and on the other hand, it is also because the problem is really beyond their ability.
If it's the first reason, we just need to prepare a little bit earlier and equip ourselves with the corresponding abilities, which is a kind of growth.
If it is the second reason, then there is no need for us to be self-effacing and constantly torture ourselves.
After all, everyone can't be born with any problems and challenges, which is destined to encounter some difficult problems, we can only look at the problem small, refine the problem, and focus on problem solving.
In this way, you will be able to solve the problem more easily and without the stress of thinking.
Enhance resilience to stress
People, why should we learn to look at the problem as small?
Because the logic is very simple, if we encounter a problem, we have to deliberately expand the problem and make the problem severe, do we still have the courage and confidence to solve the problem?
The answer is no, if a person encounters a problem, if he scares himself off from the beginning, how can he strengthen his ability?What about self-growth?
Therefore, really powerful people will not take the problem seriously when they encounter a problem, and take the initiative to look at the problem as small.
In this way, I invisibly gave myself more courage to solve problems, and also gave myself an additional ability to resist pressure.
Therefore, when encountering setbacks, they will not completely deny themselves, let alone complain, but be more sober and calm, mature and calm to face problems and solve problems.
In the end, when you solve more and more problems with your own hands, you will become stronger and stronger, and your life will naturally go more and more smoothly.