For rebellious children, "love letter" is a sensitive and exciting word. When a child grows to about ten years old, with the rapid development of emotions and bodies, there will be two extremes in the interaction with classmates of the opposite sex, either more shy or more bold. Early love and writing "love letters" will become their most fashionable and bold form of expressing their emotions.
Today's children are becoming more and more precocious, and even children in the fifth and sixth grades of primary school will receive love letters, not to mention boys and girls who are lively and good-looking, or tall, handsome, helpful, and have excellent grades. It's just that children with different personalities may react differently. Extroverts may directly hold love letters for their parents to read;Introverts may hide love letters secretly. So, if a child receives a love letter, how do you guide them to treat it properly?What is the right way to deal with it?
1 Let the child act as if nothing happened.
There is a great impulsiveness in the feelings of children in the rebellious period, and the act of writing love letters may also be impulsive. Faced with this situation, you can guide your child to act as if nothing had happened, as if it had never happened. For example, you can tell your child: "Reply immediately after receiving it, and the other party will mistakenly think that you also have a crush on him, and they will continue to pester." Therefore, it is better to take this lightly as if nothing happened. ”
It is wise to have a normal relationship with the classmate, neither too distant nor too enthusiastic, after a long time, when the other party realizes that the love letter is just an emotional impulse, it will gradually fade away, and the relationship between them will gradually return to the original simple friendship relationship.
2 Tell your child how to express his or her attitude.
After receiving a love letter, you can also let your child express his position directly and tell the other party his attitude directly. The specific method of expressing one's position will vary from person to person. If the child has a big personality and can't hide things in his heart, you can let him directly state his opinion, but the language should be tactful and not hurt the other party. You can also return the letter directly to the other party, and at the same time warn the other party "Don't write anymore, let's still be friends", and the attitude of rejection should be resolute, the way should be appropriate, and the tone should be gentle.
Many children in the rebellious period will receive love letters or write love letters, which is a subtle manifestation of children's emotions during this period. Guide your child to handle love letters in the right way, for example, when the person writing the love letter is writing it on impulse, let the child pretend to be casual about the love letter and the child who wrote the love letterWhen the child who writes a love letter is very clear about his purpose, he can ask the child to reject the other person in a gentle and unambiguous tone.