Tao Yong's daughter washing dishes, how to correctly educate children to do housework?
On his daughter's 12th birthday, her father has been letting his children serve food, wash dishes and do housework!
Beijing ophthalmologist Tao Yong's essay caused an uproar.
Many netizens believe that Tao Yong forced his children to do housework in front of relatives and friends, and his father's taste was too strong, and he didn't take into account the children's feelings.
In fact, allowing children to do housework and take on more responsibilities is of great help to children's sense of worth, independence, self-confidence, etc.
The question is, how do we guide our children to do these things?
First of all, reasonable, moral kidnapping is, of course, not advisable.
Many parents feel that criticism will hurt their children, but reasoning will not.
But in fact, reasoning is also a criticism in nature. Why are you reasoning with your child?Because you feel that the child is not doing well.
Therefore, although reasoning is less emotionally cathartic, it is also a denial of children.
The child knows this. So many children hate being reasonable.
Second, parents need to understand that children do not hate housework by nature.
Giving is a human instinct and a human need. Anyone wants to be a useful person and wants to find their own value.
The reason why some children hate to do housework is because housework has been labeled as low-level, tired, etc., and some children have a bad parent-child relationship, let alone do housework.
In fact, as long as the parent-child relationship can be done well and the guidance is correct, the child will take the initiative to do housework.
Third, children do housework, and parents do less nagging.
Remember, no matter how old the child is, as long as he does the housework, parents should not nag and pick on them.
The child washes the dishes, and you say that you haven't washed it for a while, and then you say that you have wasted water, and the child will definitely not dry it next time.
He does things in the hope of your approval, not your criticism.
If you are afraid that your child will not be able to wash it cleanly, you can wash it again, or dry it with your child, demonstrate the correct washing method, and control the last level.
Encourage more and see more of what the child is doing well, so that the child will be willing to do it and be happy to do it.
Fourth, don't spend money on housework for your children.
Children should never be given money for housework!Otherwise, this matter will be alienated.
Originally, children doing housework were to contribute to the family, but as soon as they gave money, it became a transaction.
Can you trade when you do housework, but can you trade if you learn it?Can cleaning be traded?The whole father-son-mother-son relationship has become a kind of transaction.
Moreover, if the child is in a bad mood and does not scarce your money, then he will not do it.
Fifth, parents should be fully involved in household chores.
Some parents look down on manual labor and feel that doing housework is low-level work.
In particular, some fathers feel that they are earning money to support their families, and doing low-level jobs such as housework is their mother's business.
If there is such a chain of contempt, it will be difficult for the child to be interested in doing household chores. Not only that, but in society, he will despise manual labor, and he is easy to be proud and inferior. Because after the job is graded, there is always a more "advanced" job than his work.
In short, doing housework can make children take on more responsibilities and grow better, but parents should use the right methods to guide their children.
Editor: rob