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Probation is a very serious punishment in universities, second only to expulsion.
Today, I placed a student on probation, and his mother was very grateful to me.
Let's call this student Xiaoman.
Xiaoman, a junior, just got a girlfriend.
Ever since he got a girlfriend, he has often started skipping school. It's nice to have one or two days of classes a week. Professional teachers have approached him many times. Every time he talked, he promised that he would correct it, but when it came to the next class, it was still "the sound of the waves".
I was his counselor. In layman's terms, it is his homeroom teacher.
I also started talking to him, and the first time, he told me: Teacher, don't worry, I will definitely not skip class anymore, I will attend class well.
When it came time to class the next day, he actually went to class. It's just that I didn't run halfway through.
Seeing that the conversation had no effect, I had to fight his mother.
Why do you want to fight with his mother?
Many people will think that 18 years old is **. There is something he should be able to take care of. That's right, I'm afraid that when the school wants to expel this student, parents can't accept the reality and will question the school: My child has a problem with his Xi, why doesn't the school contact me?
There was something like this some time ago. There was a major where students were expelled because they failed too many courses. Parents come to school and shout and take their children to jump off the building.
I'm really afraid that something like that will happen, and I can't add to my work.
His mother is a person who has no way to control the child. When I was fighting with her, I just begged me to keep him.
Then you can only come according to the school management regulations. According to the school's regulations, there is a penalty for the number of times of absenteeism, starting with a warning and ending with expulsion.
I called Xiaoman for the second time and told him that he was absent from class too many times and that he should be given a warning.
Who knew that on the night after the punishment, Xiaoman ran away again.
I'm just a counselor, I'm afraid that something will happen to Xiaoman. I hit him **, and he simply didn't pick me up**. I hurried to contact the child's mother.
Xiaoman's mother called him ** and called him several times.
Xiaoman told his mother that he didn't want to go to school anymore.
Under the threat of his mother, Xiaoman went back to school. He told me he didn't want to go to school anymore.
Me: Yes, what do you plan to do in the future?
Xiaoman: I started my business with my girlfriend. She is now doing a micro-business, earning more than 50,000 yuan a month.
Huh?So much, I didn't expect that other people's girlfriends' incomes were many times higher than those of university teachers.
Me: What kind of education does your girlfriend have?
Xiaoman: She graduated from college and is 2 years older than me.
Me: If you drop out of school now, you will graduate from high school, will your parents agree to let the two of you be together?
Xiaoman hesitated: Probably not.
I spent an hour trying to persuade him, after all, it was not easy to go to school. Eventually, he decided that he wanted to continue his studies Xi.
Me: Okay, but I'm going to give you a bad punishment now because you're skipping school again.
His punishment was escalated to a serious warning.
For about a week, he was honest in class. But, that is, for a week.
He began to forge fake notes and ran away.
I contacted his mother again, and his mother was anxious when she heard this, so she hurriedly contacted Xiaoman.
Xiaoman told his mother that he ran out because he wanted to earn money. He owed his friend more than 5,000 yuan.
His mother was surprised: Didn't the family give you living expenses?
Under his mother's careful questioning, he honestly confessed that all the money was spent on his girlfriend.
He owed money, and he didn't dare to ask his family for money, so he had to run out to make money by himself.
His mother had no choice, so she returned the money to him and took him back to school with her.
I met with his mom and asked them to consider whether to take a leave of absence. If you want to study, don't skip class, otherwise the school can only deal with it as expulsion.
His mother chatted with him for a long time, and finally it made sense.
In accordance with the school's regulations, I gave Xiaoman a punishment of probation.
His mom was also very grateful to me. Because I have been communicating with parents, and I have been persuading Xiaoman.
In the end, his mother also told me that the child's girlfriend can't earn much money in a month, and Xiaoman lied about 50,000 yuan.
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