The ancients were demanding"There is a difference between the descendants and the inferior, and the dignity is orderly".This refers to the difference in hierarchical status between the son-in-law and the concubine, and the concubine is always better than the concubine.
Since ancient times, emperors have been mostly demanding when they set up heirsStanding up, even ordinary people's homes are the same, they love their sons-in-law, more than their sons-in-law. We all know that there is another common phenomenon in ancient times, that isPatriarchal
Then if the wife is born as a daughter, and the concubine gives birth to a son, whose status is better between the concubine and the concubine?
This starts with the marriage system in ancient China. Ancient China practiced yesMonogamy and polygonal concubinesUnder the system, a man can only marry one wife, but he can have several concubines.
It is precisely because of this system that the phenomenon of unfairness and inequality between wives and concubines has emerged. And that brings us to what we are talking about"There is a difference".
"嫡" refers to the main wife, as well as the children born to the main wife, will be called"Wife", "Son-in-law", "Daughter-in-law".
While"Shu"., which refers to the concubines, and the children born of the concubines, they are called"Wife", "Concubine", "Concubine".。Such a concept of difference between descendants and concubines was already a deep-rooted concept before the Tang and Song dynasties, but after the Ming and Qing dynasties, this concept gradually began to weaken.
In ancient times, men had to go through to marry a wifeThree books, six ceremonies, eight sedan chairsMarry the main wife into the door, and after the main wifeYou shall not be reduced to a concubine, if you want to break off relations with your wife, you can onlyLeave the bookOne letter.
If the wife is eligible"Three don't go".The condition is that you can't divorce your wife casually. First, he once kept a three-year filial piety period for the man's parents;Second, when the man marries a wife, the conditions are not good, but later he soars, and he must not abandon the "wife of the chaff";Third, the wife has no relatives at home and is homeless.
If the wife commits it"Seven Sins"., the man can be allowed to divorce his wife by law. In ancient times, relevant laws and regulations were formulated for the protection of the status of wives, and men could not divorce their wives at will according to their own preferences.
On the other hand, most of the wives are marriedThere is no need to perform the Three Books and Six Rituals, simply performing a marriage ceremony, and even some have not held any ceremony. The main thing is that the concubine room can be carried outBuy and sell at will, just like the items to which the man belongs.
Although the concubine is outThe status of the child,will be due to the status of the mother in the familyAffected,and create a gap.
Son-in-lawThe status of childrenIt is always higher than the concubine children, the family's inheritance can only be inherited by the children, and the concubine can only look at it, and finally pick up some of the remaining "scraps".
In the film and television drama "Do You Know If You Should Be Green, Fat, Red and Thin", the protagonists discussed the question of their concubines in the school, and one of them asked, if there are incompetent concubines and talented concubines in the family, who should inherit the family property?
There are different opinions, but more people think that even if it isNo matter how virtuous and talented the concubine is, he can be talentedNor can it change himConcubineThe fate of the whileSister-in-lawEven againIgnorance and stupidity, with his status as a descendant, he can smoothly obtain the inheritance.
This is antiquity"There is a difference".The strict system does not change because of acquired talent or other reasons. The concubine does not have the status of the concubine, so what is the result compared to the concubine?
If the concubine is compared with the concubine, it is a fierce spark collision between the patriarchal ideology and the difference between the concubine, which concept will win in the end?
In fact, it is really difficult to discern the final result of this problem, because fromDifferent anglesSee, the answers are all different.
If it is standing"There is a difference".angle,Daughter-in-lawNaturallyHigher status than concubines, will also be treated better at home.
But if it is fromPatriarchal thinkingperspectiveConcubineMen are naturally better than womenThe status of concubines is high, so it is indeed difficult to distinguish the status between the concubine and the concubine for a while.
YesFor familiesSpeaking of which, even if the status of the concubine is high, she is inAfter adulthoodYesMarriage, which then ceases to belong to the family, but serves as an appendage to her husband.
WhileConcubineEven if he is of lower status, he will be as the inheritor of the name recorded on the family treeMarry a wife and have childrenWill be the familyLegacy continuesgo down, so from this point of view, it seems that the status of the concubine is higher than that of the concubine.
In ancient times, it was bound by the pathological idea of male superiority and inferiority of women, and only then did the concept of patriarchy and grandeur appearThe old customs of feudal drossIt should have been abandoned a long time ago, reallyIgnoranceacts.