Love is like a flower, no matter how beautiful it is, it is always difficult to escape the fate of withering, when the passion is not there, marriage is to live together. Marriage is originally a cooperation, in fact, you don't need to make it look like love, remember, love will disappear. The low-level men want to renew the incense, the middle-level men want to find helpers, the upper-level men want to find strong teammates, and the scumbag wants you to help the poor.Marriage is nothing more than three things: two people who are relatively stable eat together, sleep together, and talk together. eating, economic benefits; sleep, physiological harmony; Chat, soulmate. Life is divided into two halves: the first half, desperately making money and supporting your family! In the second half, play with your life and use money to save your life! When people reach middle age, the greatest happiness is that their parents are there, their children are safe, and their husbands and wives are together!
There is a sentence in "The Siege of the City" "No matter who you marry, after you get married, you will always find that you married someone who is not the same person, but someone else." ”
When two people are in love, it is all about the romance and warmth of the moon before the flower, Qingqing and me, you and me. After getting married, it is all trivial, trivial, and boring fireworks in the world. Before marriage, each other hid all their faults and tried their best to show their strengths and cuteness. After getting married, I finally breathed a sigh of relief, I didn't have to pretend anymore, and all the faults and hatred of each other were exposed.
The warmth and romance of the past have all been replaced by chickens flying and dogs jumping, chicken feathers and broken porcelain pieces in one place. No one looks down on anyone, and no one looks at anyone. Relationships are becoming more and more alienated and stranger.
Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read! Happy families are always alike, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes! There are many families that do not have domestic violence, no quarrels, and no bloody petty.
3. Derailment. Even women marry the most ideal standard husbands, and men marry the most ideal model daughters-in-law. The two of them are gradually fading away in the indifference of the three views.
"Marriage is like this, a woman who wants to live marries a man who can't make money, and a man who wants to live marries a loser; A woman who cooks a good meal, a man who can't wait to go home for dinner, and a man who often goes home to eat, just marries a woman who can't cook. ”It's hard to get through the pass, it's hard to stay up all night, it's obviously a marriage of two people, but I feel more lonely than one person! The status quo of widowed marriages: husband and wife during the day and familiar strangers at night. The couple does not divorce, does not separate, is back-to-back, and plays with their own mobile phones.
Even more terrible than a "sexless marriage" is a widowed marriage: the configuration of one family, the loneliness of two people. Marriage has long existed in name only, making people miserable, life is getting more and more lonely, and life is getting more and more painful.
How hard is a widowed marriage? After a woman falls into despair, she no longer needs a man and becomes an eternal pain in her heart. Widowed marriages are getting worse and worse: how many women have gone from gentle and touching to desperate housewives. How many widowed marriages have forced women to become "supermen", if a woman can solve everything alone, see a doctor by herself, take care of the baby by herself, take the baby by herself, do all the housework by herself, be lonely and lonely by herself...Why find an uncle to serve like an ancestor? Isn't it more fragrant to live alone and live alone?
As long as it comes to "widowed marriage", the vast majority of people think of the man who can't afford family responsibilities, only knows how to lie on the sofa and watch his mobile phone as an uncle, and doesn't care about his children and housework!
In fact, not only women, but more and more men are also experiencing "widowed marriage", and the loneliest people are often not single men, but the kind of men who have wives but live a widowed life. Maybe men's suffering is even more painful!
Obviously I have a home but I can't feel the warmth, I obviously have a wife, but I don't have the porridge that I boiled in the morning, I don't have the lamp left in the middle of the night, I don't care when I'm upset, and I don't comfort when I'm wronged. The wife only pays attention to him when she asks for money. Don't forget the verbal violence: "Just this little money, what to do, it's not enough to buy a bag!" ”
What's even more terrifying is that the husband and wife don't agree on the same views, they are always not on the same channel, they can't communicate normally at all, and they can't understand each other at all. It is even less likely to arouse empathy and achieve empathy. A mouth is a world war without the light of day; As soon as you shut up, it will be a protracted cold war! If you can reason with a woman, if you can make a woman admit her mistakes...It's a pity that there is no "if" at all!
A family without love performs happiness in front of people and pain in the back. Everyone is a drama spirit, and the more vivid and incisive the interpretation of happiness, the more disgusting and painful it is. Such a family is undoubtedly the real greatest harm to children. The child knows it well, but he is helpless. You can neither enjoy the warmth of the family, nor the happiness of the family.
Maybe parents think they are great, endure each other for the sake of their children, and want to give their children a complete home. However, how can parents understand: in the eyes of children, it is better to have such a family. At the very least, parents don't have to sacrifice their own happiness for themselves, let alone blame their children for their misfortune. Children are innocent, not stumbling blocks and backstabbers to their parents' unbearable lives!
"If you don't get married, you don't have a partner in your old age, if you get married, you don't necessarily live to your old age, you don't work hard, you don't have money to support your old age, you work too hard, you may not need to provide for the elderly. Some roads, don't go, don't be reconciled, go, get hurt, life is like this, no matter how you choose, there will be regrets, no matter how carefully you plan, you can't resist the arrangement of fate.Some people say that marriage is the grave of love! Some people say that marriage is against human nature! In fact, marriage is the sublimation of love, a commitment and destination for love! It's not marriage that violates human nature! If that's the case, you can choose not to get married, and no one will force you. Getting married, it's not marriage that chooses you, it's your own choice! It is you who have chosen to withstand both the ** and the loneliness. Your choice, even if you are kneeling and crying, you have to live with tears and a smile!
Marriage is the art of living together for two people! If there are more than two people, it is a love game that satisfies animal instincts under the banner of love.
A slap does not make a sound, and a widowed marriage is not a problem of one person, but the consciousness and cultivation of two people are not enough. Marriage is a practice that requires two people to work together to manage and cultivate. Only loyalty can last! Only peace of mind can lead to happiness!