There are many people in today's society who are trapped in endless internal friction every day:
What am I going to wear today?”
The boss scolded me inexplicably today, did my colleague say bad things about me behind my back?”
I really want to take a leave of absence to improve my education, but I am not young anymore, should I go?”
My friend told me to go out on the weekend, but I didn't really want to go, but I was afraid of hurting my feelings, so should I go?”
These voices of internal friction are like villains, shouting in our heads, making our hearts uneasy.
In fact, the reason why we fall into these internal frictions is because we care too much about what others think of us, and we care too much about whether we do it in line with the expectations of society.
If you want to eliminate internal friction, it is very simple, you only need to understand one thing:
What others think you are, isn't who you really are.
Just because someone says you're bad doesn't mean you're really bad.
Good and bad, only the real you know best.
When we distinguish between our true selves and ourselves in the eyes of others, we will find that all other people's evaluations of us are false and untrue. Even if it is illusory, it is naturally not worth our attention, and it is impossible to focus on it at all: no matter how good you are, there will always be people who will say bad things about you behind your back.
So, you only need to be responsible for your own life, and you don't need to give an explanation or explanation to anyone else.
Whether or not a colleague is speaking ill of me behind my back is his business, I just need to do my job with a clear conscience.
I wanted to quit my job and go to school because I wanted to make up for the lack of professional skills in my job. Others think that when you are older, you shouldn't toss, that's just their concept, and it has nothing to do with me.
Distinguishing between our true selves and who we see in others allows us to devote our precious energy to our true selves.
When we don't care what others think at all, all of our thoughts and actions revolve around how to realize our own values. This will not only please yourself, but also make yourself.
There is no truly great person in this world who succeeds by pleasing others.
Wishing you the best way to be yourself.