The academically strong and the academically weak represent two distinct groups on campus. In the social impression, those students with outstanding grades are often called "other children", as if they are role models among their peers.
However, these top students may not always be popular in the eyes of their classmates. Perhaps it is because of their arrogant attitude that people feel unapproachable. Despite this, there seem to be many misconceptions about these top students.
Are they really alienated from their classmates because of snobbery?Perhaps many students and parents will be aware that there is a clear phenomenon of "circles" on campus.
Those who excel academically tend to revolve around a group of outstanding peers, while those who excel in academic performance seem to form an independent "class" and rarely have deep friendships with ordinary classmates.
Correspondingly, those scumbags with relatively poor grades also have a tendency to "gather like things and people by groups". There are even some parents who take pride in letting their children socialize with top students. This may stem from a pervasive nurturing belief that making friends should be in the company of people who are stronger than oneself in order to promote personal improvement.
But it is not easy to get into the circle of top students, because not only is their circle not easy to enter, but there are also loners among them. Is this because top students are generally more picky and disdain to be in the company of ordinary classmates?
Someone raised this question on the Internet, and after some **, I found that there are many deep-seated reasons why Xueba shows this attitude.
First, many high-achieving students have a stronger sense of learning and are fully aware of the limited amount of time they have, so they are less willing to devote their time to social activities. This is not for students with relatively poor academic performance.
Even if they are both top students, small talk between them may be quite limited, and they get together mainly to discuss subject issues. For the average student, this scenario may seem rather tedious.
Second, some top students may be "socially phobic" in nature despite excelling in exams. They don't like to socialize, but that doesn't mean they're unfriendly to their classmates.
Many top students feel helpless, obviously not good at interacting with others, but they are labeled as "cold", which is really wronged. When it comes to getting along with classmates, they often feel like they don't know what topic to choose.
There are also some top students who not only excel in exams, but also represent cognitive abilities and a unique view of the world, surpassing their peers. As a result, when communicating with ordinary classmates, students may feel that the other party's thinking is relatively naïve, and their interests and hobbies are usually not very consistent. For example, when most students are still keen to play with their phones, they prefer to dabble in fields such as science, astronomy, etc., resulting in a lack of common language and interests.
Xueba also faces some troubles and great pressure, and it is not always the kind of image that ordinary students envy. Many students envy the top students, sitting in the same classroom, they always become the focus of everyone's attention. She is praised by her teachers in class, and she is even more eye-catching at parent-teacher conferences, with many looking up glances.
Even if they encounter personal difficulties, the attitude of the class teacher towards the top students is often different from the attitude towards ordinary students. However, as "children of other families", they also face the troubles and great pressure of not being known.
People tend to have higher expectations for the best individuals, and it is easy to forgive the average student for a slight regression or mistake in an exam. However, even if a top student loses a point because of a momentary sloppiness, it may disappoint teachers and parents.
In fact, many so-called "good students" may be more envious of those who are in the middle of the grades. These middle school students are not uneducated and often criticized, nor do they need to be burdened with high expectations because of their high starting point.
Secondary students can learn with a "do your best" mentality, while top students must constantly face difficulties, and the slightest regression may be extremely stressful. Except for a very small number of "geniuses", ordinary students may not find it very hard to study.
Friendship also exists between top students and ordinary classmates, while the values of contemporary students are not so utilitarian. The phenomenon of "good students playing together" was very common in my school days, especially in primary school, when students' values were largely influenced by adults and lacked independent judgment.
As a result, it is usually only those who have been at the top of their grades for a long time among the people praised by teachers and parents who are widely recognized. Some people, although they are excellent academically, choose to be in the company of classmates with relatively average learning level, which may even be regarded as a "strange phenomenon".
However, the values of contemporary students are more inclined to be non-"utilitarian" than before. Although they may have more careful thoughts of their own, their three views are usually more upright.
When it comes to getting along with students, most people focus more on like-mindedness rather than standards that are better than themselves. There is a primary school student who summed up the principle of "three don't ask":
One is not to ask about academic performance, the second is not to ask about family background, and the third is not to ask about family members. Therefore, it is unfair for parents to put too much emphasis on the notion that they can only make friends with classmates who are academically excellent, have a superior family background, and whose families are not divorced.
Therefore, it is best for contemporary parents to learn to respect their students and intervene moderately in their relationship with their classmates, but they should pay more attention to their character in judging whether others are worthy of association. This phenomenon also exists in kindergartens and primary schools, so the education of parents is particularly important.
【Topic】What do you think of the top students?