That night, my son and I were in the same bed. He rolled in his dream, touched the heat on me, and I woke up suddenly. I asked myself, "How old do you want to avoid your mother?"I shouted softly, hoping that my son would wake up and protect me. My son woke up in his sleep and asked me what was wrong, and I replied that it was fine, but I couldn't calm down.
I am single and divorced, and I have worked overtime for several months to make a living, and my body is already unbearable. My son's pressure to study is also increasing, and he always comforts me lightly and does not let me worry. But I know he's also under pressure that I can't handle. In the future, the fear of me becomes clearer in the dead of night.
I was worried that my body would not be able to bear it, and I was worried that there would be too many bumps in the road to my son's growth. He's my whole world, but I'm afraid of losing what could have been a more relaxed and enjoyable time because of these worries. In my son's eyes, I was always strong. He told me not to worry, he would help me with the burden, he wouldn't leave me.
But the reality is sometimes so cruel, I need his future, and more about his growth. That night, I couldn't sleep and thought about it a lot. When my son opened his eyes and noticed that I was having insomnia, he gently rubbed me, hoping that his movements would give me some comfort.
I turned off the night light and put my towel over him, hoping that he would sleep more soundly between his resistance. I know, that's an understatement. But for me, it's also my comfort. I seized on the future without letting my son know about my anxieties.
I only hope that my son and I can always be in each other's lives every day in the future. It's an important moment in life. We are all striving for the future, but the future is often full of unknowns. For me, the confusion and anxiety about the future lies with my son.
He is the most important person in my life, and I want him to be well, but I don't know what this "good" looks like. I used to think that my son must go to a good university and have a good future. But when he told me that he didn't want to go to college, but wanted to work early, earn money, and help me, my heart was full of conflict.
I was touched by my son's concern for me, but at the same time I didn't want him to give up on his dreams. I understand that my son has already made too many sacrifices on the way to grow up, should he also think about himself?My son and I were silent for the long night, perhaps thinking about our respective doubts.
But I know that my son has grown up to a point where he needs to make his own decisions. I need to give him some space and time to be able to think for himself and make his own choices. It was also an opportunity for me to grow and learn. I need to learn to let go and let my son decide his own future.
At the same time, I also need to learn to trust him and trust that he will make the right choice. The road ahead is full of unknowns, but I believe that the love between my son and I will be our strength to overcome difficulties. I'll give myself and my son some time to think about it.
We need to face this future together and use our love and courage to create our own beauty. After that night, the chemistry between me and my son seemed to fade away. Although the towel was a bit generous, we tacitly understood that it was a form of protection and love.
However, as my son entered a rebellious period, our relationship took a subtle turn. I began to worry about him excessively, and he felt suppressed by my concern. We have fewer and fewer opportunities to communicate with each other, and we have many secrets hidden in our hearts. He began to shut himself in his room alone, listening to ** with headphones. He no longer shares his thoughts and worries with me.
I became sensitive and suspicious, trying to spy on his life. This situation has made our relationship even more strained and distant. Once, I stumbled upon his phone and found some information that shocked me. My emotions hit rock bottom, and my heart was filled with worry and fear.
I desperately wanted to talk to my son, but every time I spoke, I felt hesitant and nervous. I didn't know how to start the conversation, afraid that he would think I was overly interfering, but afraid that not saying it would put him in danger. One night, at the dinner table, I finally made up my mind to be honest with my son.
Child, I have noticed a change in you, and I hope we can talk about it honestly. I spoke softly, full of anticipation and apprehension. The son was obviously displeased, "Mom, I have my own life, and I don't need you to ask." His voice was raised, and his eyes glinted with suspicion.
We sat together in silence, family disputes and future worries turned into the sharpest blades. As the night deepened, my heart was still not at peace. Resolving this contradiction is the only way to rebuild our relationship, and I know that. But I'm just an ordinary mother, and I feel at a loss for my children.
Perhaps, we need more time to face each other, understand each other, and rebuild the bond of family affection. One morning, after I was busy with my own business, I came across a letter from my son. I should have asked him, but I chose to hide it. This decision made me feel guilty.
My son is in the midst of a change in adolescence and he is starting to distance himself from me and have his own little secrets. Many parents have a common problem, which is to focus too closely on their children. I have also had the experience of knowing my son's every move and ignoring his independence and autonomy.
This practice not only makes children feel oppressed and unfree, but also makes them feel disgusted and dissatisfied. In fact, we must let go in moderation so that children have plenty of room to grow and explore. However, this letting go is also very difficult. When children begin to demonstrate independence and autonomy, our hearts are filled with uneasiness and fear.
We fear that they will be harmed, or that they will go the wrong way. We fear that they will become uncontrollable. However, we must realize that children must experience their own failures and setbacks in order to grow into independent and autonomous people. Therefore, as parents, we should learn to let go and give our children enough space to grow and explore.
We should encourage them to think for themselves and provide the support and help they need, rather than just intervening and controlling. We should believe in their abilities and wisdom and let them learn to manage and self-discipline. Of course, this letting go does not mean being completely unconcerned and not intervening.
We should still pay attention to the growth and development of children, and care about their lives and learning. However, we should be in good shape and avoid excessive intervention and control. Only in this way can we build a healthy parent-child relationship and let our children truly become independent and autonomous people.