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Rousseau said, "Good deeds have the benefit of ennoting the soul of man, and enabling it to perform better deeds." ”
Kindness is a kind of cultivation, a quality, and a pattern. We all want to be a kind person and convey love and warm positive energy to the society.
However, kind-hearted people often have such encounters, kindness is regarded as a donkey's liver and lungs, kindness is let down again and again, and even used by others as a weight to coerce you, hurt you, and insult you.
The root of all this is because of his own lack of strength. If you are weak, everyone wants to squeeze you and squeeze you, and when you are strong, they will be convinced, and if they can get some more help from you, they will be grateful to Dade.
Colleague Aaron is a very kind person, not only conscientious and hard-working, but also honest and convenient.
No matter what happens, everyone will think of Ah Long, even if they can do something well, they have to find Ah Long to do it for them. They sit in their offices and play games and let Aaron run errands and get takeout. I went out to socialize and drink by myself, and asked Aaron to help tutor his own children. He couldn't finish his work, but he asked Aaron to work overtime instead of him.
Aaron is honest, embarrassed to refuse, and becomes the busiest and most tired person in the whole unit.
However, at the end of the year, Aaron often accompanies the last position, and the evaluation and performance awards have nothing to do with him.
Mo Yan said: "If you don't have the strength, are good to others, and love to help others, then most people will never take you seriously, and will even use and calculate your kindness, and when the conditions are ripe, they will frame you." ”
The Buddha picks the good to suffer, and the ghost picks the weak to go up. A person who has no principles, no bottom line, and unlimited kindness will only be used by others, let others manipulate him, and have no daylight.
The movie "The Godfather" has swept the world. The protagonist's godfather, Corleone, is righteous and likes to be anxious. All normal requests for help, only he can help, he will almost always agree. But he will tell the other person: Remember!You owe me a favor that you must pay back to me when I need it.
Because the godfather is very strong, he is the role of a bully on the rivers and lakes, and at the same time he is righteous, so everyone is in awe of him, supports him, and thanks him.
There is a line in The Godfather:
Soft-heartedness without boundaries will only make the other party gain an inch;Being unprincipled and merciful will only make the other person do whatever he wants. ”
We can be kind, but we can't let others overdraw our own kindness. We can give, but we can't help those who are forgetful, mean, and wolf-hearted. Kindness is expensive and must be given to those who deserve it.
In life, there are some people who like to worship Buddha, why?Because the Buddha and Bodhisattva have sufficient energy, giving people a sense of coercion, and at the same time being kind to others, great compassion.
No matter how kind an ant is, others will step on it without hesitation.
One of the weaknesses of human nature is that it is flattering and bullying.
People who are better than you will be kind to you, and you will feel respected and very happy. And the person who has nothing bows to you, and you will feel that he is currying favor and has no integrity.
This world is very tolerant of the powerful and very harsh on you weak.
Kindness is a valuable quality, but only with the support and blessing of strength can it truly shine and illuminate others and yourself.