When people get old, they want to get the care and care of their children, not just by asking for money or having a strong attitude. As elderly parents, we should look for the reasons in ourselves and see if we have the following problems. First, we cannot rely on our children for financial support. Although we are old and frail, this does not mean that we cannot solve some problems on our own. We can earn some financial income through our own crafts or other ways to reduce the burden on our children. Of course, if the financial conditions do not allow it, we should not force it, as long as we do not ask too much, let our children know our difficulties, and trust them to do their best to help us. Secondly, we also need to have our own circle of friends. Although we are older, we can still make some friends and enrich our lives through community activities or other forms. At the same time, we should also understand our children's work and life, and not always expect them to be able to accompany us, but respect their choices and lifestyles. Also, as parents, we can't be too aggressive. Although we sometimes feel that our experiences and experiences are richer, we also need to respect our children's choices and decisions.
We can give them some advice and suggestions, but the final decision is left to them. Finally, we also need to care for and take care of ourselves spiritually. As you age, physical health is just as important as mental health. We can adjust our mentality through fitness, listening, reading, etc., so that we can maintain a positive mental state. Therefore, if we want our children to be more filial and respect themselves, we cannot just rely on their money and time, but find reasons from ourselves, appropriately adjust our thinking methods and life Xi, make our lives more rich and interesting, have their own circles and lifestyles, and believe that our children will also care more about and respect themselves. Raising children to prevent old age is the wisdom of the ancients, and it is also a traditional concept in modern society. Every parent wants their child to grow up healthy and happy, and at the same time, they want their child to be able to take care of themselves in their old age. However, as parents, we need to recognize some facts: it is immoral to ask for something in return from a child and can also affect the parent-child relationship. First of all, love is selfless. As parents, we should love our children unconditionally instead of expecting them to reciprocate our love.
If we invest a lot of time, energy, and money into our children when they are young, it is because we are willing to do so, not because we expect them to repay us in the future. Therefore, after the children have grown up**, we should not ask them for anything in return, otherwise it will make the child feel uncomfortable and even affect the parent-child relationship. Second, asking for something in return can be stressful for your child. If we are too demanding of our children, they may feel stressed and anxious. They will feel that they have to repay their parents' input, or they will be sorry for their parents. This stress can affect a child's mental health and also affect their relationship with their parents. In the end, modest returns are acceptable. Of course, filial piety to one's parents is one of the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation. If a child is financially, spiritually, or otherwise able to help their parents, they will naturally be willing to do so. However, the reward should be out of filial piety and not out of being demanded. Parents also need to understand their children's life pressures and personal pursuits, and should not demand too much from their children. In our old age, we certainly want our children to be able to take care of us. However, we cannot expect that children will definitely do this in the future. After all, children have their own lives and responsibilities.
As a parent, the most important thing is to give your children enough love and support so that they can grow up healthy and happy as they grow up. Only in this way can we enjoy true happiness in our old age.