Everything has a time, fortune, and power, and people are no exception.
When people are old, it means that life has entered a new stage, and they have a deeper understanding of life, and they will naturally be able to realize a lot of transparent wisdom in life.
The rest of our lives are short, we should arrange our time reasonably, let our days live comfortably, manage our old age life with our hearts, stay away from the distractions of the world, talk less, argue less, explain less, and return ourselves to a clean place, and enjoy the leisure time in our old age.
01 Say less
When people get old, they need to talk less.
Learn to speak in three years, learn to shut up in a lifetime, and sometimes it is more difficult to shut up than to speak.
When people are old, it means that they have more time, so some people love to talk to others, talk about others, and unconsciously cause bad things for themselves.
Chen Zhuo's father Chen Tianfu in the TV series "Xiaomin's Family" is such a person.
When Xiao Min and Chen Zhuo finally mustered up the courage to be together, Chen Tianfu said a lot of bad things about Xiao Min in the chat with Xiao Min's mother, which caused Xiao Min's mother to feel uncomfortable.
When people are old, you might as well control your mouth, worry less about your children's affairs, and don't cause misunderstandings because of your own unobstructed mouth, after all, the speaker has no intention, the listener has a heart, you don't know which words you say will cause harm to the other party, or it is better to say less.
As the saying goes: "There is a ruler in words, and there is a degree of drama and abuse." ”
After working all my life, I want to live my life quietly for the rest of my life.
Do more things you like, talk less gossip, and complain less about unsatisfactory life.
A wise old man must be very cautious when he speaks, talk less when he sees people, and less mixed with things, manage his own heart, do his own thing, make his heart more calm, and make his life more stable.
02 Less fighting
There is an argumentative uncle in the community.
When playing chess with others, he always talks loudly, from the international situation to neighborhood disputes, he always likes to express his own opinions, but there is another uncle like him, and the two of them often quarrel because of differences of opinion.
As the old saying goes: "Summer insects can't talk about ice, and well frogs can't talk about the sea." ”
Everyone has their own view of the world, as the saying goes, the three views are different, the thinking is different, and the position is different, which is destined for their different views on things.
Everyone has the urge to express their own opinions on the rights and wrongs of others, but if you speak uncontrollably, there will inevitably be people with different views who come to argue.
Arguing with others is a sign of being too competitive and easy to be hated and retaliated against by those who have a heart in the long run.
When people are old, they should judge right and wrong less, and do not fight for their strengths and weaknesses.
Whether it is a major national event or a parent's shortcomings, there are people to worry about, and what we should do is to let the soul settle down, return to silence, and learn to see through it without saying it.
Human life is like water, which can moisten all things silently, but the splash caused by the torrent always hurts the innocent.
People live, there is really no need to fight for everything to win or lose, sit quietly and think about your own mistakes, gossip about others, do not worry about unworthy arguments, your attitude towards life determines the quality of life for the rest of your life.
03 Explain less
We live in this world, in fact, there are two "I's".
One is the real, flesh-and-blood, real "me", and the other is the "me" in the mouth of others.
As a human being, it is inevitable that you will be misunderstood by others, and sometimes it is useless to explain it many times, after all, the mouth grows on others, and we have no way to control it.
When Mr. Qian Zhongshu first became famous, he received many invitations to visit and interview, but he politely declined.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu originally adhered to the principle of living a quiet life, but he never thought that his actions caused many people to be dissatisfied, and some people even said that he had no one in his eyes and was pretentious.
Qian Zhongshu did not explain such a misunderstanding, but devoted himself to learning and wrote many famous works.
As the saying goes, "You can't be serious about everything, and you can't be too serious about everything." ”
As a human being, it is inevitable to be discussed, grievances are inevitable, and injuries are inevitable.
When you don't bother to explain yourself, then your heart is extremely full, and you will be able to face the distractions of life calmly and calmly make the choices that are best for you at the moment.
Mr. Nan Huaijin said:
"In life, it's okay to be criticized. If you take other people's talk too seriously, you won't be able to live that day. ”
When people are old, the most pleasing thing is themselves, and the most should be treated by themselves, no matter what others say, don't explain, we don't live to satisfy others all our lives, but should live for ourselves!
When people are old, they should say more and make more mistakes, and less talk and be less wrong, so instead of arguing, it is better to sit quietly and be a quiet old man. Clear the distractions in your heart, let your body and mind feel comfortable, and let your old age be at ease and blessed.