The book "Li Zhongying's Marriage Psychology Lesson" once said: "I need to be aware of the spatial boundary he needs, and I don't want to cross it, and the space I need is the same." ”
A happy marriage is not about whether you can find a perfect and excellent other half, but about being able to find someone who is compatible with you.
1. Express yourself and don't be held back by emotions
No one wants to find a "boss" to discipline themselves in marriage, and no one likes to obey orders. When expressing one's dissatisfaction or opinion, you should focus on expressing your feelings, rather than complaining loudly, letting your emotions control your thoughts and eventually make the problem worse.
It is true that it is difficult for everyone to jump out of the emotions of the first moment when they encounter dissatisfaction or are anxious to get rid of some problems, and the moment things start, there will be emotional fluctuations, whether it is excitement or frustration. At this time, the best thing to do is to take a deep breath, calm down, and be silent for a while, so that the emotions can be calmed and reason can return.
After the inner organization of the language, don't be in a hurry to say it, often when a person is emotionally contained, the words spoken are the most likely to hurt others. Therefore, when a husband and wife encounter a problem, don't rush to express themselves first, and leave a moment of silence, which may alleviate more than half of the problem.
2. Tolerate each other's special side and make the marriage full of vitality
Everyone will have their own unique side, some of them happen to like the other half, and some of them happen to hate the other half, but everyone has the right to be themselves, even if it is a husband and wife, they have no right to ask the other half to change for themselves.
Maybe some of the changes are the sacrifices that the other half is willing to make for the sake of marital happiness, which is really touching. But when most people enter marriage, they will still insist on being their original selves, after all, their temperament is difficult to change.
Therefore, two people can mostly get along, but if the other person has a special hobby that you don't like, please don't try to interfere with each other.
Imagine what it would be like if someone asked them to break a long-loved interest or XiTolerate with care, love and respect, and deal with the "dislikes" in the marriage, then the marriage will be full of vitality.
3. There is no kind of marriage mode that is necessarily good, and the most important thing is to be suitable for the two
The way husband and wife get along, no style is absolutely good, there will be differences between people, if you want to be happy in marriage, it is important to explore the mode of getting along that can be integrated between two people.
A happy couple is not that there is no friction and conflict in life, but that they can find a way to resolve it that belongs to two people.
Some couples will choose to avoid quarrels at all costs;And some couples often quarrel;And some couples can find a compromise solution to their differences in peace.
For the mode of getting along between husband and wife, it depends on the real thoughts of the two people, whether it is an argument or a calm treatment, it is suitable for two people.
If one person always wants to sort out the conflict of problems, but the other person only wants to watch the ball game he cares about, then there will be endless troubles in life, find a compromise solution, solve the core of the problem, and the marriage will naturally go into a good way.
In marriage, if you make a sacrifice for the other half, then I believe that the other party will also remember it, the secret of a happy marriage lies in the mutual care of two people, if everything is taken care of, then married life will be a "tense area" everywhere.
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