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It's the Spring Festival again, and my headache days are here again.
The old mother called ** a few days ago and asked me when I was going to have a holiday, and at the end she cautiously asked me: "Xiuli, will you come back with you for the New Year."
There was more or less anticipation and careful flattery in his tone, and I felt a little sad in my heart, but more helplessly.
My wife and my mother have not been in contact with each other for several years, and they both have their own reasons, and only my sandwich biscuit is in a dilemma.
My name is Zhou Jing, I have been married to Wei Xiuli for thirteen years, and I have two sons, aged 12 and 4.
Xiuli is married far away, more than 2,000 kilometers away from her hometown, we were colleagues in a company in Guangzhou, after falling in love, she accommodated me and was willing to live in my hometown.
The parents-in-law are actually quite reluctant, but fortunately, Xiuli also has a sister, who was already married and happy at the time, and persuaded her mother-in-law to say: "When you meet someone you really like, you will be happy wherever you are. ”
Maybe it was my aunt's words that worked, and my parents-in-law didn't embarrass me and let me marry Xiuli smoothly.
At the wedding, I swore in front of my parents-in-law that I would be good to Xiuli for the rest of my life, and my parents-in-law held back their tears and handed over Xiuli to me.
I didn't love the wrong person, Xiuli is an IKEA IKEA woman who keeps our little home in order.
Not long after the marriage, Xiuli became pregnant, and after more than nine months, the melons ripened and we had a beautiful little boy.
With a child, Xiuli offered to ask my mother to help us bring it, but my mother didn't agree, saying that she was not in good health and couldn't take it.
Since then, Xiuli has never mentioned asking my mother to help take care of the children, and has been carrying Dabao alone.
The days are still orderly under the control of Xiuli, but I see the hard work of Xiuli in my eyes, and try to help, fortunately, we are not defeated by trivial family matters, and the relationship has been good.
Since I got married, my salary card was handed over to Xiuli for expenses, and I only kept a little pocket money.
My mother knew about this and muttered to me, "Xiuli doesn't make money at home, and besides, it doesn't cost much to take care of the children at home, so why should you give her all the money." ”
I only scolded my mother for a few words, and she was speechless.
If you help us take care of the children, Xiuli can also earn money, but you, a bowl of water is uneven, when we need help, you shirk your poor health, when you take your sister and children, your health is very good. ”
Your sister has to go to work, and Beauty doesn't go to work. "My mom is still quibbling, but she doesn't want to think about the reason why Xiuli didn't go to work.
In fact, I have a lot of opinions about my mother, but she is always my mother, although I will scold my mother behind my back, but when Xiuli complains to me, I also prevaricate with the thin reason that my mother is not in good health.
Seeing Xiuli's unconvinced appearance, I felt sorry for Xiuli, and at the same time I was also helpless, fortunately, Xiuli complained a few times and never said anything like that again.
I was secretly proud, and I also tried my best to help with housework and take care of Dabao.
My sister gave birth to a second child, and my mother continued to help bring it, this time she was a little weak-hearted, and comforted me and said, "When you have a second child, I will also help bring it." ”
I talked to Xiuli about this, and Xiuli smiled and said, "Do you believe it?"I don't believe it, when I was younger, I said that my health was not good, and when I got older, would it be better than before, your mother just felt more sorry for her daughter. ”
I was speechless, Xiuli was right, and her words were ugly.
It was also on that day that Xiuli made it clear that she would not have a second child, and I acquiesced, after all, I saw the hard work of Xiuli raising children alone.
When Dabao was 11 years old, we unexpectedly had two treasures, and beauty wavered between wanting and not to.
I resolutely said that I would listen to her, but I still tended to give birth in my heart, this is a gift from God, and it would be a pity to give up.
After a week of struggle, my second child was finally retained.
This time it may be because of age, Xiuli is not as easy as Dabao, she vomits dimly in the early stage, and the edema is severe in the later stage, and the whole person is as big as her face.
My mother came to see Xiuli and said, "Why are you so guilty, your sister is pregnant with three, but she hasn't done this." ”
On that day, we also learned that my sister was pregnant again, more than a month older than my second treasure.
In this way, my mother's promise to help us bring Erbao became a dead letter again, and I glanced at my mother complainingly.
She received the resentment in my eyes, looked away, and hung her head in a weak heart.
Later, Xiuli's feet were so swollen that her shoes could not be put on, I felt sorry for her, and offered to ask a nanny to take care of her, she stubbornly did not want to, not to mention a stranger at home, she was not Xi.
I had no choice but to go home as early as possible, help her do more, and try to take good care of her and Dabao.
No one thought that what my mother did on the day she gave birth to Erbao would make Xiuli not even pretend to be harmonious on the surface, and directly tore her face with my mother.
On that day, the doctor said that Xiuli's blood pressure was high, and she was afraid that there would be a danger of natural delivery, so she suggested a cesarean section, and I was busy agreeing.
My mother pulled the doctor and asked: "My daughter-in-law's eldest gave birth naturally, and now she is a multiparous woman, it is said that she should have a better birth, and a cesarean section will cost a lot more money, can you let her try to give birth naturally." ”
I drank what my mom was saying, and Xiuli was in the waiting room to prepare for the operation, and I was afraid that she would hear it.
Sure enough, Xiuli came out of the waiting room, her face was not good-looking, and the ** who pushed her out whispered to me: "What do your family members say, the mother is already very uneasy, and you still compare the money with her life, and she is crying inside." ”
My heart ached all of a sudden, and I went over to take her hand and comfort her: "Daughter-in-law, we don't listen to anyone, just listen to the doctor, you can rest assured, I will wait for you at the door of the operating room." ”
Xiuli's tense emotions were ignited again, and she cried all of a sudden, and said in front of my mother: "Zhou Jing, from today on, your mother is your mother." ”
Don't talk about my mother, even I was stunned, this means to cut off relations with my mother.
My mom wanted to explain, but Xiuli had turned her head away and ignored us anymore.
Coincidentally, at this time, my mother's ** rang, and my mother took out ** and I glanced at it, it was my sister calling.
My mother walked a few steps away to pick up **, but I could still hear her words clearly, it may be my sister's third son crying, urging my mother to go back quickly.
I heard my mother say, "Okay, I'll go back when your sister-in-law enters the operating room, the child is crying, you see if you're hungry, and then see if there is any ...... pee."”
The tone was like teaching a new mother, who would have thought that my sister was already a mother of three.
I suddenly remembered what Xiuli said, your mother just feels more sorry for her daughter, it's really appropriate.
Xiuli entered the operating room, my mother was really anxious and was about to leave, I was a little annoyed and said: "Mom, I am your own son, and Xiuli is also your own grandson, can't you even wait two hours?"Or your sister's child is more important to you. ”
My mom stopped and looked at me in surprise.
At that moment, I suddenly felt that no one who didn't fight or grab would take the initiative to hurt you, including parents, crying children have milk to eat, and this sentence is really truer than pearls.
Xiuli solved all the problems by herself, so my mother felt that Xiuli was a capable person and didn't need her to reach out to help us.
Blood is more natural and close to relatives, so my mother turned a blind eye to Xiuli's hard work, because Xiuli is someone else's daughter.
That day, I was also very disappointed in my mother, because my mother finally left, and she didn't come back when Xiuli left the operating room.
Fortunately, my mother-in-law and aunt rushed to the hospital at night, and my aunt had to go to work, and she left three days later, and my mother-in-law stayed and helped us take Erbao until Erbao was more than a year old.
When her mother-in-law left, the epidemic had hit, and Xiuli's company was closed, and she began to take care of Erbao full-time by herself.
My mother came to see the child several times, but Xiuli ignored it, and my mother felt that the hot face was attached to the cold ass, so she didn't come.
Over the years, Xiuli didn't ask a word about our family, and really broke off the relationship from the heart.
This time, my mother took the initiative to let Xiuli go home for the New Year, but I didn't give my mother a positive answer, saying that I would go back and ask Xiuli.
Xiuli said: "I said it a long time ago, your mother is just your mother, as for the eldest and second, I have asked, and they don't go, they want to go home with me to find grandma." ”
Actually, I know all this, more than a month ago, I saw Xiuli checking discount tickets, and she asked me: "Are you going this year?"”
In the past few years, I have followed Xiuli home, thinking that a few years have passed, and Xiuli's complaints will be lighter, but I didn't expect her to be so angry, she has never been able to let go, and never went back to my mother's house.
I mentioned it a few times, and she said lightly: "It is natural for you to take care of your mother, the three children of Aunt Erbao's family were all raised by your mother, and it is even more natural to take care of your mother, I am an outsider, after all, your mother and I don't owe each other." ”
Although the beautiful words are not good, but I can't say anything to scold her, my mother has never helped us anything, she has always been partial to my sister, and she feels sorry for her daughter, and treating her daughter-in-law as an outsider is the most wrong thing my mother has done.
The cold heart is piled up with a lot of disappointments, and the heart is not cold down in a day, so, my mother is now asking for the family affection of Xiuli and the children, and I can't open my mouth, usually it's okay, it's the New Year's holiday, I'm caught in the middle of the dilemma, everyone help me think, how to be good.