As the old saying goes: "There are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is great!."”
According to statistics, in 2015 in ChinaThe probability of a woman not having children is 6 percent1By 2020, the probability of women not having children has risen to the female population, equivalent toMore than 70 million women have chosen not to have children, and this data is still ongoingCrazy**
The state was clearly a few years agoOpen the three-child policy, stimulates fertility, but of newbornsThe birth rate remains sluggish, what exactly caused it"Don't want offspring" crowd is increasing?Face thisDeadendHow exactly should it beCrack?
The probability of a newborn being born is getting lower and lower, and when it comes to one of the real roots, we have to mention the presentThe cost of childbirth and the shift in women's minds.
Being married does not mean that you must have children, I feel that my life is just right now, and having a child will only make me just rightLife has become a mess
I don't like small childrenIt's annoying to hear a child crying, andIt's also too much trouble to raise childrenup,It's also very money-burning
Most Dink women, hold both viewsOne is forced to "Dink"., but one isToo lazy to take responsibility for a new life.
I have to say, raising a childThe cost is indeed not lowFirst of all, we have to consider a lot in education, such as early education classes, specialty classes, make-up classes and so on"Expensive".Activity.
Make-up classes may not be a lot of money for many people, but there are still from itSchool District RoomThe oppression, this beenReal estate developers have speculated to the sky, often millions and tens of millions, how many people are thisExhaust the money that you can't earn in your lifetimeYes.
But many parents, for the sake of their children's education and future, forcibly put the whole life of two peopleHitch onmade of that set of reinforced concrete"Cage"., I have to sigh,Pity the hearts of parents all over the world.
Except for the so-calledSky-high "school district housing".Fertility costsIt is also a reason that cannot be ignored, and this may not be particularly stressful for men.
This is mainly reflected in womenMarriageable women at the time of the job interviewand will always beInterview leader or direct, or euphemistic inquiry, are you married?Topics like whether or not there are children.
A survey of women's jobs was conducted by the relevant women's agencies, and the best of them were to find a jobA recent graduate of a female college student, followed by a statementDink women who don't have childrenAnd then there'sWomen who have already given birth
Among them,The hardest people to find a job are those who are married but have not yet had childrenIn order to avoid their own losses and control risks, companies generally do not recruit such women.
Because women who are married and have not given birth, once they are pregnant after entering the company, they have to take maternity leave, and maternity leave is paid leaveAvoid looking for such women.
And that's just itFemale fertility, faced at workDiscriminationwithCrowd out, inFertility processFor women, it is also a big injury, many women after childbirth,All have left many unspeakable sequelae.
But with the development of society and the popularization of education, women are becoming more and more enlightened in their thinkingCompared to having children,They care more about whether they are happy or not, and they will have a lot of themAttention and love are given to themselves.
Dink Thought from 2000Years or so, it began to quietly spread in society, but it was not obvious at the beginning, and it was still in the traditional concept at that timeHaving childrenThe idea of succession prevailed.
But gradually, with the increase of social pressure, with the pluralism of thought, people's tolerance has improved, more and more people,Abandoned the thousand-year-old idea of raising children and preventing old age, added more relaxedDink ThoughtMiddle.
No kids, no more expensive expensesDon't be picky in the workplaceYou don't have to endure the pain and hurt of childbirth.
Husband and wife just need to live their own livesSmall dayThat's enough, so, like this"Decompression" marriage, it has become the choice of more and more couples.
In addition to the shift in people's minds and the expensive cost of childbearing,Another reason is also important.
That's whyMarriage as a factor, as we all know, nowThe requirements for marriage have become very high, in the face of the rapid development of society,The materialistic pursuit between men and women is also increasing
From the ** decade, the popular three-piece marriage set: radio, television, bicycle, to the current marriage necessities:Three gold, house, car, ticket, bride priceThe same cannot be less.
The rapid development of the economy has led to the current feelings, which have been contaminated with too muchEntanglement of interestsWomen should marry highly, and men should marry girls with relatively appropriate value, the end result is directly caused, that groupThe men and women who are neither high nor low and unwilling to compromise have been completely left
According to the data, most of the women who are not married areWomen in developed regions, they are in a very prosperous big city, and they are used to seeing extravagant scenesThere is a dream about Prince Charming in my heart.
It's hard for such girls to accept those, with themMen of the same levelWe do our ownHusband, and even more unable to accept those who are lower than themLeper ** eats swan meat.
And according to three years ago,Seventh Population Census,From the data, you can see that among the remaining men,I can't get a wifeof males, most of whom possessMen with rural household registration
And back in 2020,There are 30 million singles in rural areas who have no wives to marryThe topic once caused a lot of social discussions, facedRural singles can't marry wivesMany members of the community have contributed their wisdom.
Some people say,The reason why rural people can't marry a wife,It's becauseThe bride price is too high, so I can't get married, and I ask for ** to cancelThe bride price is unusualMarriage should be based on the will of both men and women, not on the level of the bride price.
Rural singles and urban women to be married,One is unable to marry a wife, and the other is unwilling to compromise, the marriage rate has been dragged down like this,The bottom of the marriage rate will inevitably affect the birth rateIt's something that can't be avoided, after allHaving a child out of wedlock is a scandal, no one wants to be in a scandal.
But it's confusing that it's understandable not to have children if you're not married, thoughWhy did those who got married choose not to have children?, aren't they worriedDo you have a problem with your own future pension?
Mr. and Mrs. Dink,When you are young, you are cool, but what do you do when you are old?If it is said that a family with normal childbirth has children to take care of and be accompanied by juniors in their later years, thenThe old age of the Dink couple is only themselves.
There is a realistic problem that has to be consideredThe childless Dinks, what to do with the old old, what to do if they die, who will run the funeral for them, for themQingming Zhongyuan incense memorial, who can still remember themTraces of existence?
The issue of pension for the Dink couple is not as panicked as most people imagine, in an interview with reporters, an aunt in her seventies from Shanghai,With a smile on his faceof the said about themselves and their husbandsDink Life
She said that she had agreed with her husband when she was young that she would not have childrenThe husband and wife have lived in a two-person world for more than forty yearsVery happy, so farI have never regretted my decision not to have children in the first place.
As for the pension problem that many people are worried about, in fact, they have already thought about it, for so many yearsWithout the cost of raising children, they have a certain amount of savings.
They plan to wait until one day they are too old to walk and can no longer take care of themselvesSpend money to live in regular, well-equipped nursing homesThree meals a day are taken care of, and there are doctors who check their blood pressure, heart and pulse and other physical problems.
The aunt said that this kind of pension life is already very good for the two of them, and they are notDo not exclude admission to nursing homes, you can make friends with many old men and old ladies, why not?
is also a Dink, and what is different from Aunt Shanghai's thoughts is that one is alsoYoung lady, she consulted with her husband and thoughtThe first choice for the elderly is relatives.
She saidIf there are relatives who are willing to take over their pension, they can keep their entire inheritance after death, after all, they are all relatives, rather than spending outside, it is better to give their own people, and their own people will also make people feel more at ease.
For the nursing home, the lady's feelings are very complicatedHuman nature is sometimes hard to talk aboutThere is a lot of social news exposed,Nursing homes beat the elderly, bullying the elderly negative news
Moreover, many of these bullied elderly people still have children, but they just don't visit them oftenEven the elderly with children will be bullied, that Dink couple like thisElderly people who have no children to support them, when the time comes, what can they do if they are bullied?
So, in order to avoidAvoid such unfortunate things, happened to herself, the lady with her husband a decisionLooking for relatives for the elderly, with blood relations as a link, at least most of the accidents can be avoided.
Increasing social pressures, It is inevitable that more people will choose Dink to make their lives easier, but such a choice is not a good judgment for individualsBut on a social level, it must be a bad thing, more and more people are not having children,It means a cliff of labor.
And there is not enough labor,Society is not able to continue to progressof, and this dink behavior, tooIt has seriously exacerbated the pressure on the elderly in society.
Without fresh blood infusion, the heart stops beating.
In fact, from the marriage rate to the fertility rate, the audience of the "Dink family" is increasing, and the essential reason is stillThe cost of living in modern society is too high, many people dare not give birth, they can't afford to give birth, and they are afraid of having children, so that they will suffer with themselves.
So, people who can't solve their dilemma, caiI chose the Buddhist system of "lying flat"., simply don't give birth, so that you can live as you want, and there is no pressure to support yourself.
The reason has been found, and the way to break the situation can only be pinned on the official in the futureReduce the cost of raising children, reduce people's cost of living, medical costs, so that it is possible to re-bring itBirth rate
Getting married and having children is a personal private matter, but at some point, it is also a social responsibility, looking back at the road to our rise is so difficult and longI just hope that the mountains and rivers will not be overshadowed by personal reasons.
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