Adolescence is a time of life full of uncertainties and challenges. Children experience physical and psychological upheaval at this stage, and it is easy to fall into the confusion of self-denial. As teachers and parents who care about children's growth, we have the responsibility and obligation to guide children to build self-confidence and get rid of the trouble of self-denial.
1. Reasons why adolescent children are prone to self-denial:
Physical Changes:The physiological changes brought about by puberty may make children feel inferior and troubled, and the rapid growth of various hormones promotes the development of secondary sexual characteristics in the body, so that children begin to pay attention to their physical changes and worry about their appearance.
Social Pressure:Comparing one's peers and positioning oneself in the group makes it easy for children to feel that their self-worth is being challenged. Especially in a relatively closed environment such as the class group, family differences and personality differences often cause inferiority or a sense of pressure in children's interpersonal interactions.
Academic Pressure:Academic progress and increased schoolwork can lead to anxiety and self-doubt. After some children enter adolescence, they are faced with a variety of subjects and cannot adapt in time, resulting in temporary lag in grades, which can easily make children self-denial and lack confidence.
Emotional distress:Adolescence is the time when feelings fluctuate most dramatically, and relationship problems can lead to self-denial. Due to the effect of hormones, adolescent children are more emotionally delicate, whether it is family or interpersonal communication, it can cause them to have big emotional fluctuations, so that they fall into a state of self-denial and doubt.
2. How to guide children out of the confusion of self-denial
Listen and understand:Give your child enough space to listen, understand their anxieties and distress, and don't underestimate or ignore their feelings. Listening requires parents to put down their identities and be serious and attentive to what their children are talking about every day, rather than dealing with their children with a perfunctory attitude.
Positive Guidance:Emphasize the child's strengths and strengths, affirm the child's shining points, especially the aspects that the child cares about, even if it is only a small improvement, and encourage them to establish a positive self-image and build self-confidence.
Share your growth experience:Although the growth experience is different, the same resonance is the same and can be contagious, share your own growth experience with your children, so that they understand that everyone will go through the stage of confusion and anxiety. Learn to use your own experiences to guide your children.
Develop hobbies:Encourage children to develop their own interests and hobbies, interests and hobbies can allow a person to devote themselves to doing this, even if the results are not satisfactory, but in the process of doing it, you can calm yourself at the same time, but also cultivate children's concentration, cultivate their sense of self-worth, and thus enhance self-confidence.
Establish the right values:Help children sort out positive and correct values, and live with children, so that they can understand that success and happiness do not only depend on external evaluations, and establish a positive and healthy thinking system.
Professional Help:If necessary, seek the help of a professional counsellor as early as possible to cope with the emotional problems of adolescence.
3. Caring together to guide children to the future with confidence.
The troubles of adolescence are short-lived, but our love and guidance will help them find their way forward in the midst of confusion. The attentive companionship and correct guidance of parents and teachers are the key to children's self-denial.