Time flies, time flies. A woman born in the 60s has now become a mother-in-law in the new era. They have rich life experiences, witnessed the development and changes of the country, and also carried the heavy responsibilities and expectations of the family. After their sons get married, most of them follow a similar pattern of behavior.
1. Work hard all your life, just to earn money and save money.
Most of the women born in the 60s have experienced difficult years when they were young. They are industrious, thrifty, and silently contribute to their families. After their sons get married, they often have already used their life savings to pay for weddings, bride prices, dowries, etc. But even so, they still did not stop earning and saving.
Second, the son got married and spent nothing.
For many post-60s women, the marriage of their son is one of the most important moments in their lives. In order for their sons to start a family with dignity, they often do not hesitate to spend all their savings. Whether it's buying a property, organizing a wedding, or preparing for their married life, they do their best. When the wedding is over, they may feel shy, but seeing their son's happy smile, it is worth it.
3. Continue to work to make money.
After their son got married, many post-60s women did not choose to enjoy their old age. Instead, they chose to continue working to earn money. On the one hand, it is to subsidize the family and reduce the financial pressure on his son;On the other hand, it is to accumulate more wealth and prepare for the future retirement life.
Fourth, do not dare to give birth after marriage.
Unlike their younger selves, women born in the 60s often dare not give birth easily after their sons get married. They understand the hardships and responsibilities of raising children, as well as the pressures and challenges faced by today's young people. As a result, they are more understanding and supportive than urging and complaining.
5. Give red envelopes when giving birth.
When a daughter-in-law becomes pregnant and gives birth, the mother-in-law of the post-60s generation usually prepares a generous red envelope as a gift. This is not only a blessing and care for the new life, but also a recognition and gratitude for the hard work of the daughter-in-law. The amount of red envelopes varies depending on family conditions and regional Xi, but no matter how much it is, it represents a part of the mother-in-law's heart.
Sixth, carefully serve the daughter-in-law's confinement.
In traditional Chinese Xi, confinement is a very important part. For mothers-in-law born in the 60s, it is their bounden duty to serve their daughter-in-law in confinement. They will prepare in advance, such as purchasing nutritious ingredients and preparing a comfortable living environment. During the confinement period, they will carefully take care of their daughter-in-law's diet and daily life to ensure that she can recover her health as soon as possible.
Seventh, it is indispensable to take a baby.
In modern society, many young couples need to face the dual pressure of work and family. Therefore, mothers-in-law of the post-60s generation often take the initiative to take care of their grandchildren. They have rich parenting experience and patient and meticulous care, and can provide a warm and safe environment for their grandchildren to grow up. At the same time, they are also happy to establish a strong bond with their grandchildren and enjoy family fun.
Eighth, just take the baby and ignore the education.
Although the mothers-in-law of the post-60s generation are very conscientious in taking care of their grandchildren, they usually do not interfere too much in the education of their children. They believe that education is the responsibility of parents, and their role is more to provide care and support in life. This moderate sense of distance helps maintain family harmony and gives young parents more autonomy to educate their children.
9. Exit with dignity after the task is completed.
As their grandchildren grow up, post-60s mothers-in-law will realize that their "mission" has been accomplished. They will choose an opportune moment to leave the core stage of family life with dignity and leave more space for the younger generation. It's not a form of alienation, but a form of fulfillment and respect. They are willing to quietly watch and support the growth and development of the children behind the scenes.
10. Pay if you don't make a effort.
For many post-60s mothers-in-law, they are relatively financially well-off, so when their children need help, they often choose to contribute money rather than effort. This is not to say that they are not willing to contribute to the family, but they want to give their children more autonomy and choice in this way. They understand that the pressures and challenges of modern society are different from when they were younger, so they prefer to support their children financially so that they can live their lives on their own terms and in a way that they want.
Ten. 1. The distance of a bowl of soup.
"The distance between a bowl of soup" refers to keeping an appropriate distance between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, neither too close nor too distant. Mother-in-law of the post-60s generation is usually able to grasp this degree well, they care about the lives of their children without interfering too much. They know how to respect their children's independence and privacy, and are willing to help and support them when needed. This moderate sense of distance helps to maintain family harmony and reduce conflicts and conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Ten. 2. Serve with all your heart and soul on holidays.
On holidays or special occasions, mothers-in-law born in the 60s usually serve their families with all their hearts. They prepare a variety of food and drinks in advance to create a warm and comfortable atmosphere for the family. Their warmth and attentiveness are often contagious to everyone, filling the whole family with joy and warmth. Their dedication is not only the care of their families, but also the inheritance and respect of traditional culture.
Ten. 3. Don't worry about your children's housework.
Unlike many traditional mothers-in-law, post-60s mothers-in-law usually don't worry too much about their children's household affairs. They understand that their children are grown up and have the ability to manage family affairs on their own. As a result, they are more willing to trust their children's abilities and wisdom and give them sufficient autonomy and decision-making power. Of course, if their children are in trouble or need help, they will not hesitate to lend a hand.
Ten. Fourth, there is a sense of boundaries.
Mothers-in-law born in the 60s usually have a strong sense of boundaries, and they know how to respect their children's personal space and privacy. They do not enter their children's rooms or look through their personal belongings, nor do they interfere too much in their children's social activities and private affairs. This sense of boundaries not only helps to maintain the harmony of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also helps to cultivate the independence and autonomy of children.
Ten. Fifth, willing to spend money for grandchildren.
For the mothers-in-law of the post-60s, grandchildren are their hearts. They are usually very willing to spend money on their grandchildren, whether it is for education, life or entertainment. They will do their best to provide the best material and moral support for their grandchildren, so that they can grow up healthy and happy. Their dedication is not only a love and expectation for their grandchildren, but also an investment and hope for the future of the family.
These characteristics of women born in the 60s after becoming mothers-in-law are not accidental or isolated phenomena. Rather, they reflect the wisdom, kindness, and sense of responsibility that women in this age group generally have. These characteristics not only help to maintain the harmony and stability of the family, but also help to promote the progress and development of society.
In this ever-changing and unpredictable era, we need more such wise, caring and responsible mothers-in-law to lead us to a better future.