I met a customer because of my tea sales work, and I often chatted online after I added the customer's WeChat.
In this process, we get to know each other, talk about everything, give each other emotional value and so on, and we have known each other for many months.
However, there is no ambiguity between us, it is more similar to chatting or sharing daily life between friends of the opposite sex who have a good time.
I clearly felt like I was getting deeper and deeper, and I wanted to develop the relationship further, but I never knew what she thought of our relationship.
She didn't make me feel that she meant something obvious to me, probably because I didn't express it to her either.
In my eyes, we don't need an ambiguous period, so I'm hesitant to take the last step.
We haven't been on a date and have been more like netizens with whom we have a very good relationship for so long.
I think feelings come naturally, and I just need a formal confession.
There is an unwritten rule in the sales industry that you can't have that kind of development with customers.
I don't care about leaving, what I care about is not being friends in the future, because I don't think we can be friends for life, and our relationship between the top and bottom won't last long.
How do I express this affection to her, or should I express it to her?
What to do next, I actually have the answer in my mind, but I want to hear your opinion.
Your current feelings, confusion and hesitation, Uncle can understand.
Things can get complicated in relationships, especially when work and personal feelings are intertwined.
You get to know this client because of your work, and in the process of getting to know each other, you find that you have a deeper affection for her than your partner.
The germination of this emotion is not under your control, but it does bring you confusion and uneasiness.
For the question you're struggling with, whether or not to show her your feelings, I think you can consider these points:
First, evaluate your relationship.
You mentioned in your letter that you are more like netizens who have a very good relationship, there have been no dates, and there is no obvious ambiguity.
This means that although you communicate a lot with each other, the nature of the relationship is not yet clear.
You need to think carefully about whether changes in your relationship will have a negative impact on each other's lives and work.
Second, understand her attitude.
Before you decide to confess, try to find out what she thinks about your relationship.
You can explore it in indirect ways, such as talking about friendship and love, and see how she reacts.
If she doesn't want to talk to you about it anymore, it means that she has no idea or plan to develop further with you.
Then, prepare to deal with the outcome.
Whether you end up confessing or staying the status quo, be prepared to deal with the outcome.
If she accepts your feelings, it will naturally be wonderful, but you will also face the situation of leaving your job, can you accept it and have a way out?
But if she doesn't call you and just chats with you, will you be able to accept it and continue to have a friendly relationship with her?Or, are you willing to take the risk of becoming a stranger to her?
Finally, communicate openly and honestly.
If you think the timing is right and you've thought about the possibilities, it's worth being honest about your feelings.
You can choose an appropriate time and occasion to tell her how you feel in sincere words.
Whatever the outcome, at least you give yourself a chance and give her a chance to get to know and respond to you.
Feelings are complex and delicate.
Before deciding whether or not to express affection, you need to be fully aware of your feelings and expectations of her, while also taking into account the current state and possible development of your relationship.
Whatever choice you make, believe in yourself and respect the other person's feelings.
Good luck!