Why does falling in love make a good relationship worse and worse in marriage?
Why do many people have problems when they fall in love, but when they get married?The essence of love is an exchange of feelings, while the essence of marriage is an exchange of values. Value contains feelings, and when you fall in love, you only need to be happy with each other. But marriage is different, and whether a marriage can be long-term depends on whether two people can continue to provide each other with each other.
Some girls have been insisting on fitness, working out for an hour every day. At the beginning of the relationship, her boyfriend admired her self-discipline very much, and she still insisted on fitness after the relationship stabilized. But because of this, she never made dinner for her boyfriend. At this time, the contradiction came, she used to take up her own time by exercising, and now her other half also needs to bear this time. So at this time, her boyfriend is Xi to having a self-disciplined girlfriend, which is the transfer of core interests.
You must remember that sacrifice is unfair in any relationship. Many men tend to do things that are beyond their ability when pursuing a woman. If a woman is moved to choose this man at this time, then the final outcome of this love is often tragic. Because the sacrifice made by this man during the pursuit period will definitely ask the woman to make amends in disguise at a certain stage.
Invisibly, there will be a lot of demand for women, and no one will pay for something other than your value. Nor is there an obligation in this world for anyone to be loyal to another. All human loyalty is evolving into loyalty to value, and no one will always give you unconditionally, unless you always have the value he wants to obtain. A period of value in you disappears, and not only will you be abandoned by him, but also by the people around you.
Family marriage is all about finding a balance between your interests and the interests of the other person. A strong marital relationship is like a comrade-in-arms, the kind of strategic relationship that you can work together to get through the long road in life.
Finally, three sentences to sum up: Stand alone until you have no value. True love is not to be in love with each other, but to fulfill each other, and it is our lifelong event to make ourselves always full of value.
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