It is often said that "Ten Thousand Arrows Through the Heart" is an excellent film because in the film, the mother raises her son in a very difficult environment and is evicted from the house by his son because of it. My mother's strength and bravery moved me to tears. Almost all the comments were praising the greatness of the woman, as well as the white-eyed wolf of the child.
In the encyclopedia, the short description of the film is: describing the challenging and difficult life course experienced by Li Baoli, an ordinary woman in Wuhan.
Therefore, today I finally opened this film that won 86 rated films, want to know more about the greatness of this woman. I was ready before the movie started because I knew it wasn't going to be a good one. Unexpectedly, in the first few minutes of the movie, the vitriol of the heroine and the vixen almost made me decide to close the film.
In order to make sure that I didn't misunderstand the good guys, I plucked up the courage to continue reading, and after reading it, the first thing that came to my mind was that the fate of the heroine was really completely innocent.
The heroine originally had the opportunity to have a happy home, a husband who cared for her, and a child who honored her, but this lifestyle was gradually broken by her. She wanted her husband to work and live as happily as she did, so she began to learn how Xi be a good wife—a gentle, virtuous wife who knew how to be considerate of her husband. Let's take a look at how the heroine came to be.
Emotional intelligence is presented as negative.
The story is set in China in the 90s, and the male protagonist is assigned to a building as the director of a factory office of a state-owned enterprise, which gives the heroine and her family a chance to finally get out of the rented lifestyle.
The male protagonist notices that his 8-year-old is also packing his bags and praises him. Then, he hears the heroine yelling at a mover downstairs. The child shows a look of fear, and the male protagonist gently strokes his son's head as a sign of comfort.
The moving staff said that because the alley of the hostess's house was too narrow for vehicles to enter, they could only choose to manually move to the mouth of the alley, which required additional costs. Although the hostess was a little dissatisfied, she agreed.
When the items were moved to her new home, she began to instruct the workers again to make sure the furniture was neatly arranged. The worker said that she had roughly placed it in a position before making adjustments, but she criticized the worker for accidentally scratching the ground.
Ma Xuewu, as the head of the family, invited the workers to come over and smoke a cigarette to rest, and because the weather was too hot, he also asked his son to buy a few bottles of soda for the workers to drink.
At this moment, Li Baoli suddenly rushed over, snatched the cigarettes from the workers, and scolded her husband in front of all the workers, insisting that it was a matter of course for her to contribute money and workers. When the workers heard this, they cast sympathetic glances at him. Strangely, the husband, who was silent when he raised the price for the workers, now invites the workers to smoke and drink sodas, accusing him of wasting money.
If only that would be fine, but she still did not hesitate to snatch the cigarette case from her husband's hand and angrily retorted: It's so despicable!
All the workers left to work, leaving only the embarrassed male protagonist and frightened children. They rolled and crawled on the ground, but they could not find their way home. The son hugged his dad tightly, and he reached out a hand to comfort him.
Eventually, when the workers finished their work and left the room, she blamed the workers for soiling the floor. "I'm a cadre, can't you treat yourself as your boss?When talking to Ma Xuewu in the corridor, the worker said, "Although we are engaged in heavy work, the wife at home is very virtuous and virtuous, and her life is more comfortable than yours. Considering that you are also a cadre, it is really sympathetic to be managed by such a woman for a long time.
There is no doubt that the heroine will not suffer, she rushed out again and denounced the shamelessness of the workers.
Frankly, when I saw this, I was really not interested in this heroine at all. My eyes were fixed on the woman on the screen, with a faint smile on her face, but her scolding made me feel bad. The painting is filled with her scolding, which makes the viewer feel displeased.
This woman's emotional intelligence is so low that she doesn't leave any face for her husband in public at all. In the face of so many people snatching cigarettes and speaking ill of her, and the words are extremely harsh, I really don't know which man can bear such an insult?
As the saying goes, malicious words can make people feel cold in June.
What's more heart-wrenching than hurting others is that even if you hurt me, I just smiled indifferently.
The heroine, after reprimanding the male protagonist, as usual, happily toasts with her son, and then happily tells her husband that because of your influence, I got a private washroom, which made me realize that going to the bathroom also brings aroma.
During the meal, her husband refuses to clink glasses with her, which makes her realize that he is angry. But she didn't take it seriously, but when she saw her husband angry while sleeping, she commented: "What a big man, too cautious." "I want to divorce him, and you don't want to quarrel with him anymore!."“
I'm not sure if anyone feels déjà vu to this scene?
In everyday life, there are also many people who take sarcasm, sarcasm and even insults as jokes, and when they find out that you are angry, not only do they not think that they are disrespectful to others, but they think that you are too stingy.
There are limits to a person's patience, judging by the fact that the heroine's children are already 8 years old, the male protagonist has experienced this life for at least almost 10 years, and this time he decided not to put up with it anymore. I know he has a lot to say. He calmly expressed his decision to end his marriage with you.
When the heroine cries to her friend that her husband wants to divorce her, her friend's first thought is: how dare he do this?She said that he had no place at home at all!Apparently, even his friends are aware of how low the position of the male protagonist in front of the female protagonist is.
What kind of answer did the heroine give to this question?To my surprise, the answer she gave was that I wasn't sure either.
In other words, in the eyes of the heroine, her daily vitriolic and abusive words towards her husband are completely acceptable, which is why she does not understand why this man would choose to break off her marriage.
The actor really has the idea of divorce, and he is willing to give up everything for the sake of divorce, including buying a new house, which is enough to prove that he can't bear it anymore. But she refused to leave, she felt that her husband should be better to herself. Despite this, the heroine does not want to agree, she prefers to spend time with her husband.
It is precisely because of the heroine's practice of hurting others and not benefiting herself that it eventually leads to the tragedy of the whole family. I believe that if I don't solve this problem well, she will definitely end her life in her own way, because she knows that even if she is a good woman, she has her shortcomings and shortcomings. If she had been willing to release herself earlier, harming neither the hero nor herself, then the subsequent misadventures would not have happened.
Emotions are mutual, and no one is responsible for treating you unilaterally all the time.
The actor stays late in the factory every day because he is reluctant to go home, and only here can he truly feel the dignity of being a human being. Her husband is a worker, and his job is to maintain and repair equipment for the factory. The heroine violates her husband's dignity, which lays the groundwork for subsequent events.
When the male protagonist realizes that the female protagonist is using the child as a means of reconciliation, he becomes very angry, but when he sees that the child is ineffective, the female protagonist quickly returns to her true nature and vents her anger at the child. It made him very sad, but he couldn't forgive himself. The way the couple treats their children is nothing short of different.
Finally, Ma Xuewu was moved by the female colleague who remembered his birthday, and an improper relationship developed between the two. With a feminine instinct, Li immediately sensed the unusual situation and planned to immediately arrest the infidelity.
At the critical moment, she chose to let go because she lacked the courage to face the facts.
Do you really think she's over like this?
Absolutely non-existent. However, her "disguise" is not to get anything, but to avoid police surveillance so that she can continue to live. She decided to quietly report the crime to ** and expose her husband's crime of prostitution, and then disguised herself generously and brought her husband back from the police station, making him feel deeply guilty about her. Due to the arrest of **, the actor suddenly changed from the identity of the workshop director to an ordinary worker.
I thought that this matter would be revealed in this way, but when the heroine's friends came to her house for dinner, she bluntly accused her husband of infidelity in front of her friends. It turns out that my husband is a man with a lot of personality and usually likes to play outside, but his son has been following his father and his mother. The son couldn't stand it anymore and made an excuse to hope that his father could play with him, thus helping his father get rid of the shackles of the dining table.
The heroine's friends also think that she is too harsh on her husband, but the heroine firmly states that based on her appearance, it is her luck to marry a rural person like the male protagonist. His wife, he said, was his pride. He promised his mother that if she wanted to be kind to him forever, then she should keep her word.
However, the heroine forgets that feelings are shared by both parties, and no one has the responsibility to give alone forever and unconditionally.
The male protagonist promises the female protagonist to always be kind to her, but the female protagonist never seems to really see the male protagonist as a person.
Although she was just a vegetable seller, she always felt that she was superior, and she always emphasized that her husband was from a rural background, never saved face for him in front of outsiders, and never considered his self-esteem.
As described in the barrage, when others kneel on the ground and marry you with their sincerity, you trample their sincerity on the ground and continue for a lifetime. This kind of relationship is either you like it or I hate it. It is only strange when this emotion remains the same.
Lack of education is not the same as no reason to be educated.
From the way the heroine treats the movers, we can clearly feel that she lacks basic education and respect. In her husband's eyes, she is an "unsociable" person. She thinks that as long as she pays for herself, she can do whatever she wants to others, but as a husband who brings financial and material benefits to the family, she still thinks highly of herself.
Since the hero's mother's residence was demolished and there was no suitable living space, as the only son, he had no choice but to take his mother into his own home. Before that, she and her mother-in-law were very good friends, and they often ate and chatted together. However, the heroine begins to show displeasure to her mother-in-law in the elevator, and when she gets home, she makes a sneering mockery of the male protagonist, and in general, she feels that her mother-in-law should not be in her life at all.
When the heroine once again used the cheating incident to satirize the male protagonist, Ma Xuewu, who had been performing poorly, finally mustered up the courage and said to Li Baoli, that house was assigned to him by the factory and needs you to manage it
The mother-in-law finally couldn't take it anymore and left with her bag, but when the son told her that the grandmother had left, the heroine only briefly said, "You go and finish your homework." She said, I'm a woman, I can't let the old man go, she doesn't know me anymore, and I want to live in the community with my mother. In this huge city, an old man could not find a safe haven, so he had to sit on the steps at night and weep silently. I asked why my grandmother was crying, but she said that I was forced out by her son. How could she be willing to do that?
After the son retrieves the grandmother, the heroine relents again and begins to prepare the bed for the grandmother. I asked him why he didn't tell his grandmotherIf you have already agreed, why do you want to hurt others like this?
Lack of self-reflection ability.
Faced with the coming wave of layoffs, the male protagonist receives a notice from the factory director to become the first batch of workers to be laid off. When the factory director told me the news of the layoff, I was shocked. He asked the factory manager, "Why did you want me to lose my job?"The director said, because you have a good job. The factory director asked, does this need to be further asked?After being laid off, you have to find a job on your own, and I don't pay you a salary. Although there are a lot of people out there who are doing nonsense, in the end, you are the only one who is arrested by the Public Security Bureau.
The male protagonist chose to jump into the river to end his life because of disappointment, but the heroine who was summoned by the factory director to claim the relics mistakenly thought that the male protagonist was cheating again, and mocked the male protagonist in front of ** and the factory director.
Despite the fact that the man has died, there is not a single tear in the heroine's eyes, and she even thinks that such a man is not worth it. After the mother-in-law died, the mother-in-law's children were very sad, and the mother-in-law's daughter was no exception. When the mother-in-law was distressed by the loss of the child, he always complained that the mother-in-law should not have appeared.
In her opinion, her husband's death had nothing to do with her, it was all because of the man's incompetence and the presence of her mother-in-law that made her husband resentful of her.
Is this really true?
The male protagonist has changed from a man who is obedient to his wife to a man who would rather have nothing than file for divorce, is it really meaningless for the heroine to have no responsibility at all?
Ironically, the heroine doesn't understand why the hero chose to divorce her, nor why the hero chose to jump into the river. She didn't understand his thoughts, she didn't know what she was supposed to do?She thinks that her peaceful life has not seemed to be satisfied since she moved back home, but she has never done a deep reflection, and it is she who really does not want others to live a peaceful life.
Eventually, she blamed the property for the root of the problem and believed her best friend's opinion that her poor quality of life was entirely due to the feng shui condition of the house.
An unsuccessful mother.
The biggest flaw of the heroine is that she always claims to be for the children, but in reality she never really cares about the children.
She never expected that a child who had lived with her bad words since childhood would be afraid, nor would she ever think about how disgusting a mother who would constantly insult her husband in front of her children.
When the child chooses not to memorize the poem because the father does not want to hear it, she does not notice;When the child didn't want to disturb her father because of her troubles, she didn't notice;When the child claims that you were the cause of his father's death, she still doesn't notice it.
She never really thinks about what her child is really after, and the most common thing she says to her child is: Is your homework done? She didn't understand why the child was doing this. Although on the surface it seems that she has put in a huge effort to raise the child, did she really really care about him?Even in quarrels between husband and wife, she used children as a tool in exchange.
When your child finally loses control of her emotions, blame her for what she will say besides asking if you have finished your homework, and she will not understand why your child would treat her the way he does. She doesn't know what she's doingShe never understood why her son, who had finally entered college, had kicked her out of the house, thinking she had finally had a chance for a better life.
The heroine angrily reprimands her son for having no moral bottom line, but the son also has a strong dissatisfaction with her and reveals to her the fact that he knows that his father committed suicide by jumping into the river.
In fact, the male protagonist learned from his cheating partner at the last moment of his life that it turned out to be the heroine who reported him to **. Later, I found out that I was just a man who had no relationship with others emotionally. The actor always felt sorry for his wife, but later found out that the heroine first reported him for prostitution, and then pretended to be generous, didn't care, and took him home, which made him feel sorry for the heroine all the time.
The male protagonist despairs of the female protagonist, but when he learns that the heroine's report has caused him to lose his job, he suddenly feels that life has lost all hope, which is why he chose to end his own life. But when he saw that after he died, the heroine was still alive, he felt very guilty, because the heroine was his wife. In order to express his dissatisfaction to the heroine, he did not leave any words in his suicide note.
Knowing that the real cause of the hero's death was learned from her son made the heroine feel unbearable, so she walked to the riverside alone. I met him by the river, where he was playing with some children. When the heroine sees the smiles of those carefree students by the river, she suddenly realizes that her son has never smiled so happily.
There is an opinion that despite the snarky personality of the heroine, she did raise a child.
This sentence is really unbearable. I don't understand why this viewer would think that a mother raising a child is a gift
There is no doubt that mothers put a lot of effort into raising their children, and children should also understand the importance of gratitude.
But remember, raising children is a duty and obligation that every parent should have!
Treating raising a child as a gift is a desecration of parental duty and at the same time a sign of irresponsibility to the child.
In this movie, the heroine does face great challenges, as a single woman, for the sake of the family's financial **, her life is indeed much more difficult than that of a person with a husband. The contradiction between man and woman is embodied in her. But isn't it the heroine herself who caused this?
As a mother, she fills her children with deep fear and resentment. And as a wife, her long mental and verbal damage to her husband eventually led to his betrayal and suicide, which also marked the beginning of her tragic life.
While it is true that the heroine takes on the financial responsibilities of the family after her husband's death, this is mainly because she personally pushes the man who once carried the burden for her into a desperate situation. If the male protagonist is still alive, does she really need so much effort?
While the male protagonist is responsible for the financial support of the family, he can also take care of the children's schoolwork at the same time. When the male protagonist dies, it is his grandmother who is in charge of the housework and child tutoring, and the female protagonist is only responsible for making money, which is much less than the male protagonist initially assumed?However, when she became a successful mother, not only did her income increase and her life became better and better, but also helped her children's education a lot. Why do so many people praise the heroine as a great character?
Obviously, the actor's cheating behavior should never be, and the suicide behavior also seems a little irresponsible. But if it weren't for the heroine's reluctance to divorce and her constant verbal insults to her, if it weren't for the fact that she made some small moves, how could the male protagonist feel so desperate about his life?
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