This old movie, which I **did a few years ago and is now again**, really needs to speed up the writing!
At the beginning of the movie, Baoli tried to ask her husband Ma Xuewu for a relationship with her hands and feet, but was resolutely refused by him!
He told me that I need to change my accommodation tomorrow morning and suggested that you rest early!
Actually, moving has nothing to do with it, it's just another excuse!
This is definitely not something that happens by accident, and many couples spend their lives like this.
Unless something unexpected happens, it's like the trajectory of Polly's future life.
First of all, from the perspective of moving, if you want to move the whole family in an orderly manner, you need both husband and wife to work together and have the same heart!
As for our Ma Xuewu, he hid upstairs, peeking cautiously, showing an attitude of cowering and cringing, allowing his wife to haggle alone with a few older men!
He is a grassroots cadre in the factory, civilized and highly qualified, so he can't do things that make people feel vulgar and nasty!
It's not hard to imagine how many vacancies have been lost in this marriage that should have been filled by men!
Maybe Baoli has taken control of the whole family with a domineering attitude, but no woman wants a strong man to stand in front of her, just because Ma Xuewu can't bear any responsibility to protect herself from the wind and rain!
Moving from the rented house to the new home assigned by Ma Xuewu's unit, Baoli was deeply distressed by each floor tile and expressed her dissatisfaction with the mistake of the mover, because it caused the refrigerator to leave marks on the floor tiles.
He squatted on the ground and carefully wiped it with a rag!
She is satisfied that she has a separate kitchen and bathroom, and is happy with the comfort of the toilet, but also at the aroma that the bathroom can emit!
She expressed her heartfelt gratitude to Ma Xuewu, because with his help, she was able to live in such a comfortable residence!
Her deep affection for this family, is evident in the details!
However, home should be maintained and cherished by two people, no matter how hard a person works, home is incomplete!
Ma Xuewu didn't like her deep down, especially when he wanted to provide cigarettes and soda for the mover, and Baoli criticized him mercilessly.
In the end, she was also taken pity by the moving master, and it is really sad to be controlled by such a woman for the rest of her life!
Here it almost turned into a classic plot, which many people used to criticize Paulie as a domineering woman.
She didn't know how to care about her husband, didn't give him face, and embarrassed him.
Therefore, Ma Xuewu's dislike for Baoli has become a matter of course!
Ma Xuewu received widespread sympathy and became a victim, including his eventual suicide, and on the surface, everything was a resentment towards Baoli!
But is this really the truth of the facts?
Paulie is a woman with outstanding looks and a graceful figure, and although her family background is not prominent, she grew up selling vegetables with her mother and did not receive much education.
In the past, she had been surrounded by many suitors, but because Ma Xuewu knelt down in front of Baoli's mother and promised Baoli that he would treat her well, Baoli finally chose Ma Xuewu, who was born in the countryside.
Pauli doesn't like to dress up, her hair is always messy, and she is also a stubborn and stubborn woman.
After losing his job, he did not become depressed, but chose to sell socks in the market and made his own contribution to the family.
Her lifestyle is very down-to-earth and sincere, and although she may seem grumpy on the surface, she is actually very warm on the inside.
She was willing to assist her eldest sister in carrying the flat burden to pick up the work, and due to the misfortune of her eldest sister's son, she had to lend money to her eldest sister.
However, why is such an outstanding woman neglected by her husband and treated coldly by her son at home?
Simply because she doesn't know anything about the inner world of men.
Regardless of men's social status or wealth, they are always looking for a gentle wife who can take care of her husband and educate her children.
Although it is not what he truly loves, it is indeed what he really needs, or rather, such a woman is needed in marriage and family.
What exactly do men expect from home?Understanding, warmth, trust, delicious food, plump body.
Ideally, our spiritual realm can reach the same heights.
If he feels dissatisfied, sooner or later he will look elsewhere except to remain silent.
Just like Ma Xuewu, he seems cowardly and indifferent at home, but he is like a fish in water in the factory, and he always talks endlessly when facing female colleagues who have a good feeling!
The multifaceted nature of human beings is perfectly displayed here!
He didn't care about his wife and children waiting for him to dinner, nor did he feel sorry for the money that Pauly had saved by buttoning the cords, and when his mouth was full of grease, Paulie waited patiently in the middle of the night.
Everyone has a moral bottom line, everyone doesn't know how to cherish, sometimes the boundaries are blurred, and from different perspectives, the answers are different.
The man resisted with cold violence, which may have been the only effective means he could use to hurt Pauly.
Baoli's attitude towards Ma Xuewu, whether it is to please him or to be angry, cannot change his uncontrollable state of cold and violent energy!
Xiaobao's son has lived in such a family environment for many years, and he sees a gentle father, an angry mother, a father who will patiently help with homework, and a mother who only complains.
The father is good, but the mother is not popular, which makes the son's heart gradually grow a twisted tree.
The lonely Pauli looked through the past ** and found that she really loved the man deeply and changed from a beautiful teenage girl to an ordinary woman for him.
The outspoken Polly takes advantage of her children and begs her husband not to get angry anymore and not to sleep on the couch anymore!
The child was scolded and cried because he was wronged, which made Ma Xuewu unbearable anymore.
In the factory, the beautiful colleague Zhou Fen affectionately sends him birthday wishes, and an ambiguous story is about to turn into a tragedy.
When Ma Xuewu chose to take the initiative to call ** to ask for leave, Baoli realized that her reaction was not right. She was Xi to Ma Xuewu's habit of coming home late Xi, but she couldn't Xi used to him taking the initiative to tell her that he would come home late.
So, Polly waited at the entrance of the factory, and before she finished eating a bowl of hot dry noodles, she put down her chopsticks and followed closely behind.
In order to avoid the speeding motorcycle, Ma Xuewu took the woman to his side for protection.
Ma Xuewu may be a person full of affection and gentleness, he will protect women, but his attitude towards Baoli has never been like this.
She had been following absentmindedly, witnessing them enter the small inn.
Polly sat on the ground and wept bitterly, the scene full of her dissatisfaction, grievance, and anger.
After bursting into tears, she probably wanted to rush in and arrest the unfaithful, but thinking of her son, she finally chose to let go.
She was afraid, afraid that things could not be reversed, and believed that Ma Xuewu would sincerely end her marriage.
So, Polly called the police and reported that someone was involved in**and**activity!
Then, she went home and waited for the ** she would surely call, as if waiting for a story she had carefully weaved.
In front of the factory executives, Baoli forgave Ma Xuewu in public.
After that, Baoli's family status rose rapidly, she stood at the peak of morality, and when faced with her friend Ma Xuewu, she was scathing and cold-spoken!
Women are often faced with the dilemma of being deeply in love on the one hand, but unwilling to let go, while on the other hand, it is difficult for them to find a balance in their hearts, feeling oppressed and oppressed!
My friend thought she was acting too extremely, but she tearfully said she didn't want others to take away Ma Xuewu.
Although there is a possibility of life going on, Ma Xuewu, who lost his position as director, completely collapsed psychologically and physically!
Despite this, he still hopes to establish a friendly relationship with Baoli so that he can bring his mother to live here.
He understands that it is impossible for Polly to agree, so he tries to curry favor with Polly in bed, but in the end it does not get the desired effect.
There is a common misconception among many men that the arrival of the mother is taken for granted, that it is okay not to consult with the wife, even if the wife opposes it, and that it is a matter of course for a son to raise his mother!
There is nothing wrong with this view itself, the real mistake is that the wife is not given the respect she deserves!
If she is not respected, she may be displeased, even if she understands the big picture!
Ma Xuewu didn't dare to reveal it to Baoli, he understood that she couldn't agree, but he never thought about it, why would she refuse?
If he is willing to love her, understand her, and give her a lot of patience and tenderness, will she still insist on her decision and disagree with her mother-in-law to live?
If Paulie is really a bad woman who is unreasonable, then no matter how pitiful her mother-in-law is, she will not be able to continue living in the end.
Sometimes, the deep-seated reason for a woman's antipathy towards her mother-in-law may be directly related to her relationship with men.
In the end, it is still Baoli who is responsible for making the bed and bedding for her mother-in-law, and she is also trying to learn Xi compromise because she wants to have a better life!
Despite this, Ma Xuewu arranged a meeting with Zhou Fen again, but he still had a deeper love for this gentle Zhou Fen.
Zhou Fen describes him as a kind person, but unfortunately, he doesn't know much about women.
Did Ma Xuewu really know nothing about Baoli?In the first place, why did he propose to her and vowed to treat her well?
He initially liked Pauly's enthusiasm, pungency, hard work, ability and how to live each day well!
But now that he doesn't know anything about Paulie, her appearance has become disgusting, and she has become vulgar
He may also be reluctant to admit that the changes that Polly has undergone are intimately connected to him personally!
He couldn't understand why Polly chose to report herself and forgive such behavior with tolerance.
How could he possibly understand that this was Baoli's affectionate retention.
Zhou Fen understands that she can even comprehend Baoli's behavior!
Ma Xuewu may not have planned to take action, because the layoff notice became the last straw that broke the camel's back!
A man who could not carry the burden, let go of his duties as a son, husband and father, and chose to jump off the bridge to end his life!
Before dying, Ma Xuewu did not leave any words for Baoli because of his deep hatred.
Is Baoli starting to regret why she didn't agree to Ma Xuewu's divorce request before!
There are many things that cannot be achieved by coercion, especially when it comes to relationships and marriages.
My friend told me that there was a problem with the house, and that the road in seven or eight directions passed downstairs, and from a feng shui point of view, it was like a thousand arrows piercing the heart.
As much as she doesn't believe it, she is determined to shoot all the arrows into her heart to make it shine, and she doesn't want to see her home destroyed.
Polly began to work as a flat shoulder, a woman who carried the burden of life on her shoulders, went through ups and downs, and never regretted it.
Once you start working, it means ten years!
How many women have been able to achieve this unwavering attitude?She gave up the chance to get married again, and she gave up a more comfortable lifestyle.
There may be an element of atonement in the subconscious, but love and responsibility for the son still occupy a greater weight.
As time passed, even her mother-in-law began to feel heartache for her, but her son was never able to understand her feelings.
When he attended the parent-teacher conference, he was despised by the son of the school bully, but on the way home, after hearing his mother's call, he picked up his pace instead!
The son expressed dissatisfaction, believing that since she was a child, she only cared about whether she had completed her homework.
She felt aggrieved because she was busy making money every day, so she didn't have time to communicate with her son.
Despite this, she did not blame the child, because she was never the kind of mother who would live in harmony with the child, and compared to Ma Xuewu, she was slightly inferior in this regard.
The relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law gradually became harmonious, and the mother-in-law also made it clear that she was not opposed to getting married again.
However, the house needs to be transferred to the grandson's name, as if she has fulfilled her mission and the 18-year-old no longer needs her as a mother!
The son, who did well after the college entrance examination, invited her home for dinner, but his father's posthumous photo was placed on the table.
The son reproaches her for not being qualified to toast her father and asks to sever all relations with her and no longer need her interference, since the house belongs to her father and he asks her to move out.
Unable to believe that her son was so ruthless, she attacked him on the rooftop, and in a fit of rage, she decided to use legal means to assert her rights.
It turned out that the son had found Zhou Fen and learned about what happened in the past.
He could understand his father's pain and despair, but he could not understand his mother's pain and despair.
Those men who are cowardly and irresponsible on the surface, but can win the sympathy of their sons with a weak role.
As a mother, this is probably the most heart-wrenching thing!
Polly spends a night by the river, and she must be reflecting on her past life, is it really that crucial, whether it's right, wrong, good or bad?
In the past decade or so, a person may have undergone a dramatic transformation in their life, or after completing self-redemption, they may rediscover their true self!
After a heart-wrenching experience, she decided to transfer the property to her son, take care of packing her belongings, and leave peacefully.
I'm not sure if the mother and son will ever be able to reconcile in the future, and I don't even have any expectations.
In life, there are not many real happy endings!
Everyone is not living in their own world and feels lost.
I only hope that Polly will have a new life because she feels she deserves a better life!